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Is it the hormones or...

Lindsey7521Lindsey7521
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am I right?

My husband has always been a beer drinker...which was fine. So was I. However now that I'm pregnant it kinda irks me. Thats beside the point though. Last night, he had a few beers and a couple of his buddys came over. Which is fine also. At 9 pm he says they're going to this bar/restaurant in our neighboorhood. Which again, is fine. He says he'll be back at around 10:30. I go to bed and 1:30 rolls around and he walks in the door, drunk.(He wasnt driving.) I leave it alone then because there is no sense in argueing with someone who's been drinking. This morning wehne I get to work I check our bank account online and see that he went to another bar across town. And yeah Im pissed at him. He could have and should have called whne he KNEW he wasnt going to home. It's common courtesy I think...So now hes mad at me because he thinks I'm always mad about something. I think its cr@p

When you get to the end of your rope, tie a knot and hang on. -FDR
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Re: Is it the hormones or...

  • Heather1979Heather1979 member
    Not only is it common courtesy to call, but there's a responsibility issue too. You are justified.
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  • Mrs. ErinMrs. Erin member

    I'd be a little upset too.  If he wasn't going to be home at the time he said, he should have called to let you know.

    Just make sure he knows that you were worried about him.  Let him know your not upset that he went out, just that he didn't let you know he was going to be late.

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  • jkfranklinjkfranklin member
    Did it really matter?  Did you wait up for him or something?  I see a lot of posts like these that DH went out and stayed longer than I would have wanted...Loosen the leash ladies!  Just because you can't go out and have beers doesn't mean DH can't.  He is an adult and can take care of himself.
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  • ibisibis member

    Yes, I would expect a phone call if my H is going to be 3 hours late - that's just common courtesy. Doesn't matter if he's at the bar or at a church feeding the homeless.

    But I think that part of your emotion is coming from the fact that you are not really "okay" with him drinking and going out to bars while you're pregnant. If you've told him that it is okay, it's not fair to secretly hold it against him. Be honest if it really bothers you, or find a way to get over it. GL 

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  • lilmel6lilmel6
    Totally justified. I'd feel the same way.
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  • amy5162amy5162
    I would be irritated too.
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  • 4realyo4realyo
    I cant sleep until dh comes home, so I would've been annoyed. But I also would've just called him when 11 o'clock had rolled around. If you were already passed out & didnt notice, then I guess its not a big deal.
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  • KellyOct15KellyOct15

    imageHeather1979:
    Not only is it common courtesy to call, but there's a responsibility issue too. You are justified.

    This exactly! 

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