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Goodbye 1st Tri......

Christina DahlChristina Dahl
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 I have been here before.......late March had a natural m/c at 7.5 weeks.  That was really hard.  Now I am back at 7.5 weeks and am almost positive that I will be m/c soon. I started spotting red, it will be a week on Wednesday.  I had my beta's taken on Friday and they are not where they are suppose to be.  I had a u/s today and no heartbeat, measuring really small.  I go in Wednesday to go over the results as I didn't get to see my doc for the u/s today. I feel sad and defective and angry. 

Is the second one harder to deal with than the first?  Or now that you have been through it, it's not so scary?  I have always considered myself a pretty tough person but the first one hurt (emotionally) more, much more than I thought it would.

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  • vkbaby09vkbaby09
    I am so so sorry you are going through this again.  I suppose you could say that my "second" loss is a lot harder, but my circumstances were so different and I carried them a lot longer than my first loss.  Let yourself grieve and feel everything that you need to feel.  Also, I would talk to my dr if I were you about testing to maybe find out a reason that you could have lost your babies. 
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  • ping1080ping1080 member
    I think that the 2nd was easier for me (if that's possible) b/c I knew what to expect. Don't get me wrong, it was definitely devastating and I think it took me longer to move on from. I found comfort in getting some basic RPL testing done, which made me feel like I'd have some answers. I'm so sorry that you are going through this again, you're in my thoughts!
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    BFP#2 5/11/09 :: Natural m/c 5/27/09 @ 5w5d
    BFP#3 7/24/09 :: Missed m/c, baby stopped growing at 6w4d :: natural m/c 8/28/09 @ 8w6d
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  • 3ltlones3ltlones member
    I am so sorry, sending lots of hugs to you.  My second loss was much harder than my first, but I was farther along, well into the second tri and I had seen the baby several times on u/s thriving, there is also no reason at all given on why we lost the baby.  So, I attribute it all to that.  Again so sorry.
    DD(9)DD(5.5)DS(3)DS(born 2/1/11) July 2006, lost a baby at 8 weeks, natural miscarriage , May 2009 lost Zoe Eliana at 17 weeks no reason known, possible under developed organs. Lost two more babies in September 2009 at 7 wks 4 days. Had myomectomy surgery to remove a large fibroid in November 2009.
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  • IrishsapphireIrishsapphire member

    With the 1st miscarriage, I did not know what to expect so it was really upsetting.  But my husband and I were going through some issues, so it did give us more time to work through those issues.  And I got myself in better financial situation as well. 

    With 2nd miscarriage, I knew what to expect from my previous miscarriage, but with the 2nd miscarriage there was a heartbeat, and then the baby stopped growing.  I felt better having RPL testing.  My Obgyn was very good at comforting me and making sure I had all the options available to me.  It was more like this is the best it has been in my marriage, why is this happening now, and I was feeling more stressed about my age of 37. 

    For me, 1st trimester is like Groundhog Day.  I will be so elated to move on to the further baby stages in the future.   

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  • Christina DahlChristina Dahl

    That is helpful.  Thank you.

     

     

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  • Kara5109Kara5109
    I am so sorry you are going through this. I didn't know what was really going on for about 3 weeks and I think that's the worst part. I am sorry if you have to be back here again but at least you have people to talk to.
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