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Found out a good friend is pregnant and I'm hurt.

BriAZBriAZ
in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

Before you read, I promise I am a nice person!

I just found out a good friend of mine is pregnant and I'm hurt. I know I should be happy for her (and a part of me is) but I cant help but ask the 'why me' question.  My DH and I are in a great relationship and our twins didnt survive. But her and her DH are not getting along (and havent since before they got married less than a year ago) and just a few weeks ago they were suppose to be getting a divorce. Did I mention she voluntarily aborted her pregnancy about a year ago because she had a 7 mo. old baby and wasnt ready for another one. Maybe I'm jealous? I dont know.. but I feel like I deserve to be pregnant still!!

She has an appointment this afternoon and I told her to at least let me know if everything is okay and how far along she is. I told her that I probably wont ask about her pregnancy often because its such a sensitive topic right now. She told me that she understands and will make sure she doesnt bring it up till I'm okay to talk with her about it.

 

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Re: Found out a good friend is pregnant and I'm hurt.

  • TravelinMamaTravelinMama member
    All I will say is I can completely understand why you are hurting.  *hugs*
    Marie, wife to Ron, mom to DS
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  • TapsalteerieTapsalteerie member
    The emotions you are going through right now are completely normal.  You don't need to defend yourself.  I'm sorry that you are hurting so much right now.  I hope that things become easier with you in time.  (((Hugs)))
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  • LMichelleGLMichelleG member

    imageTapsalteerie:
    The emotions you are going through right now are completely normal.  You don't need to defend yourself.  I'm sorry that you are hurting so much right now.  I hope that things become easier with you in time.  (((Hugs)))

    Couldn't have said it better myself! So sorry you are going through this.

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  • dstardstar
    I understand the way you are feeling.  I am so, so sorry. 
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  • Cow-girlCow-girl member

    It has been 17 wks tomorrow that I delivered Grace at 18wks.  And I am still envious when I see pg women...  It makes me wonder - why NOT me?  Its really hard to deal with. 

    (((hugs))) What you are feeling is normal!

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  • dmsmthdmsmth member

    ((hugs)) I'm sorry for your loss.  What you are feeling is completely normal and to be honest I was sensitive about any friend who got pregnant even after I got the BFP with my daughter.  Those feelings don't go away.  I do have to say it is very nice of your friend to understand and not talk to you about it.  It is alot easier to handle, out of sight out of mind. 

    And I STILL wonder why me.  It's hard to grasp why something like this would happen to somebody who is in a good relationship and who takes care of themselves.  Even now I feel this way.  It does get easier as time goes by, and eventually you will feel happy for your friend. 

    And you WILL get your sticky baby!  You have to believe you will and it will happen!  And you will appreciate it that much more!

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