Way to go DH, you ruined it for me again. You suck. (long)

kaylenpar1 · July 2009

So, for almost 3 months now I have had a hair/wax appointment scheduled for tomorrow. I had to book waaay in advance because my girl is always booked because she's so good. Me and my mom staggered our appointments for tomorrow so that she can cut my hair while my mom's color is processing. Then mom and I were going to have lunch, shop a bit, etc. A total DD-free afternoon (my very first). DH was, needless to say, supposed to watch her.

He tells me today that he has to get up early to help one of his friends go install a furnace in a town 30 miles away. Um, hello, what about my appointment? "Oh, sorry hon, I forgot. I already told him I would help."

Awesome. I haven't had any, and I mean any, me-time since DD was born and I haven't been to the salon since I was 9 weeks pregnant- almost a year, in other words. The thing that gets me is that he totally didn't even think to ask me- but when you have a baby, you can't just randomly say yes to stuff anymore!

Now I have to take her with me, which I don't mind, but a semi- upscale salon is not the ideal place for a baby. And I was totally looking forward to spending some mommy and me time with my mom.

He's a big turd. /vent over.

cajuncutie0169 · July 2009

He'd be calling his friend to cancel if he was my husband.

Elisa312 · July 2009

I would make him call his friend and reschedule. He committed to YOU first.

GL!

Jackswife123 · July 2009

I would flip out. ?You are much nicer than me.

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IheartUSC · July 2009

Ugh. That makes me mad just reading it. I've come to realize over the past 7 weeks that men just don't get it. They go back to work and move on with their normal lives and think we just sit at home all day watching tv and napping. Once you've had time to count to 10, I'd tell your hubby how you feel. I just don't think they get it and they never will unless we tell them. I've had a few conversations with my hubby because I thought he just "didn't care," but I was reading him wrong. It helps to talk it out sometimes. Stupid boys.

kaylenpar1 · July 2009

Jackswife123:
I would flip out. You are much nicer than me.

Oh, I did. But it just goes in one ear and out the other. The only reason that I'm not making him cancel is that he's getting a little money out of it apparently. But I'm still mega pissed. Any time I try to do something for myself something always comes up with him- he has to do homework, he has an opportunity to work overtime, etc.

ETA: We've had many talks about this stuff too- how I feel like he's not helping as much as he could with DD, that I need help, a baby is in fact hard work, blah blah. He says he understands, and then he pulls this shiit.

On the upside, he is sleeping on the couch tonight. I get the whole bed all to myself.

khagan9368 · July 2009

Someones plans have to change, in my opinion they ARE NOT your plans. Sorry friend, install your own furnace

Manalyzer · July 2009

money or no, he'd be calling to reschedule. It would be worth it for some me time, imo.

Scottblue · July 2009

kaylenpar1:
So, for almost 3 months now I have had a hair/wax appointment scheduled for tomorrow. I had to book waaay in advance because my girl is always booked because she's so good. Me and my mom staggered our appointments for tomorrow so that she can cut my hair while my mom's color is processing. Then mom and I were going to have lunch, shop a bit, etc. A total DD-free afternoon (my very first). DH was, needless to say, supposed to watch her.
He tells me today that he has to get up early to help one of his friends go install a furnace in a town 30 miles away. Um, hello, what about my appointment? "Oh, sorry hon, I forgot. I already told him I would help."
Awesome. I haven't had any, and I mean any, me-time since DD was born and I haven't been to the salon since I was 9 weeks pregnant- almost a year, in other words. The thing that gets me is that he totally didn't even think to ask me- but when you have a baby, you can't just randomly say yes to stuff anymore!
Now I have to take her with me, which I don't mind, but a semi- upscale salon is not the ideal place for a baby. And I was totally looking forward to spending some mommy and me time with my mom.
He's a big turd. /vent over.

Why cant he take her ?? I would just be like "Hey, you either take her with you or reschedule."

niecy · July 2009

Manalyzer:
money or no, he'd be calling to reschedule. It would be worth it for some me time, imo.

this

KarBear · July 2009

cajuncutie0169:
He'd be calling his friend to cancel if he was my husband.

Ditto!

kaylenpar1 · July 2009

Scottblue:
Why cant he take her ?? I would just be like "Hey, you either take her with you or reschedule."

He wouldn't be able to watch her really- installing a furnace is no easy feat and I wouldn't want her to be around all those tools and chemicals they have to use and stuff.

Scottblue · July 2009

kaylenpar1:
Scottblue:
Why cant he take her ?? I would just be like "Hey, you either take her with you or reschedule."
He wouldn't be able to watch her really- installing a furnace is no easy feat and I wouldn't want her to be around all those tools and chemicals they have to use and stuff.

Ah, well, I guess you can tell I dont know the first thing about installing a furnace !!! HAAA!!

Ktindall · July 2009

I feel your pain.. my DH is getting on my nerves about stuff like that. I havent had any ME time either and when I said the other day I wanted to go and lay out at the pool(we live in a condo) for some me time he actually said to me I don?t have any me time. Hello..you are trying to tell me that all your golf outings aren?t me time for you. F-u I need some ME time! I?m with her everyday all day and all night. Grow up and give me a break?vent over

emaria · July 2009

cajuncutie0169:
He'd be calling his friend to cancel if he was my husband.

same here.

mollymurphy · July 2009

cajuncutie0169:
He'd be calling his friend to cancel if he was my husband.

Ditto. ?

TeamK07 · July 2009

cajuncutie0169:
He'd be calling his friend to cancel if he was my husband.

Exactly this.

dtrigg · July 2009

kaylenpar1:

Oh, I did. But it just goes in one ear and out the other. The only reason that I'm not making him cancel is that he's getting a little money out of it apparently. But I'm still mega pissed. Any time I try to do something for myself something always comes up with him- he has to do homework, he has an opportunity to work overtime, etc.

This may get me flammed, and I don't know your situation (nor am I acting like it, your mom could be paying for the whole excursion, in which case, woohooo! Smile ) but if you guys are tight enough on money that he feels the need to go install a furnace and take away from your you-time, then why are you going to go get your hair done and get waxed?

Again, I don't know your situation or anything, it just seems that if money is tight, money is higher on the importance-ladder than dd-free time.

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