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Seriously Tired of DH's Post Partum Depression-Rambling Vent
I love DH to pieces, I really do, he is a wonderful husband, a good provider, and a loving father...but he is seriously getting on my nerves!!! I personally feel that men go through their own version of pms, but I think DH is going through his own PPD. He has only been working full time for the last month(not his choice), which means he is home way to often for his own good and mine. During the tail end of my pregnancy, he was very understanding and picked up the extra slack around the house and took extra care to make sure I was getting everything I needed....
LO is now 12 days old, and personally as far as newborns go he is good as gold. He is on a pretty regular schedule of his own freewill, sleeps in his crib at nite, though he prefers cuddle time for naps, pretty much sleeps the entire time we are out, and once he has a clean diaper, and a full tummy he is pretty easy to get back to sleep.
This being said, my usually supportive husband is making me feel like a single parent. I can count on 1 hand the number of changed thus far, and though I am pumping so that he can get up with LO at least once a nite this has only happened twice. Yes I am on maternity leave, and yes I have more baby experiance in general...but seriously even prepregnancy I was not a fun person on less then 8 hrs sleep...you think you could lend me a hand?...and then not even joke about the fact that no the kitchen isnt clean and no the laundry isnt done...and no I sure as heck didnt have time or energy to make dinner....
So if that wasnt irritating enough, he gets really frustrated with LO when he is taking care of him. I have no idea where this came from, he is really good with kids, crying or not, so I cant figure out why he keeps loosing his cool....its not to the point that I fear he will hurt the baby, but I really dont like the annoyed and pissed off tone in his voice, especially over something as simple as LO spitting his binkie out for the 4th time. I get frustrated too...and I may stomp out of our bedroom to the nursery, but my anger is replaced by soothing tones the min I walk through that door. Heck I got peed on on Monday and had to clean up after a major diaper blowout yesterday, and I laughed.
This afternoon was a prime example. I've been up since 6, after feeding and changing LO, I took a shower and got myself ready to meet my family for breakfast. I attempted to wake DH, but he was too tired (he had been asleep since 1230). LO and I got back to the house around 1130, and I feed and changed him before going into the bedroom...where DH was still asleep. With LO on my chest I proceeded to check my email, DH slowly woke up and asked me what was wrong...I said I was hungry and tired...his response "well I'll hold the baby while you go make us lunch" 
I handed him the baby, told him he was full of it, and fell asleep. I woke up at 2 to the sound of LO screaming, he should be hungry...I walk to the nursery to see DH growling at LO (who is still screaming) "Damn it" *DH throws a poopt sock across the room into the laundry basket* "Are you done yet" *poop goes shooting across the changing pad*. I push DH out of the way and change LO and the changing pad as he had peed and pooped all over himself. "You cant freakin put him down, he needs to learn that he cant be held all the time, I freakin put him down and he screams"...DH stomps off to clean the kitchen....I finish cleaning up the mess and feed LO.
I just dont know what to do with him...maybe i'm just sleep deprived and have no patience for anyone else but the baby...but I'm going to strangle DH!!!!
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