How do you feel about never having a Boy/Girl?

MrsEmm · July 2009

I think having a Boy and a Girl is incredibly lucky - but would be just as happy if I only ever have daughters. DH feels the same way but still hopes for a boy one day.

If you have more than one and they are the same gender - will you 'try' again for the opp. sex?

If you have one - are you hoping for the other?

are you perfectly happy with what youve been given?

thoughts, feelings??

Celyn · July 2009

I'm ok it with. As much as I love little girl dresses, I run us into the poor house buying clothes - so it's better for the martial bliss to avoid that

danandkelly · July 2009

If you have more than one and they are the same gender - will you 'try' again for the opp. sex? No

If you have one - are you hoping for the other? Yes, although I would be happy to have another daughter, I would love to have a boy next time.

thoughts, feelings? I discussed this with Dh when we were first trying, and asked if he'd want to have more than 2 just to try for a boy...he said no. Now that said if we have another girl he might change his tune, but for financial reasons having 2 is pretty much our limit. I of course will be happy either way, but I would love to have one of each.

eastbaygirl · July 2009

I really thought I wanted a girl...and now LOVE having a boy. If we decided to have two, I would be ok with not having a girl, but the thought of having two boys together scares the living sh!t out of me!! I just don't think I'm cut out for that.

linnychanel · July 2009

When I first got pregnant I really wanted a girl. My mom and I are really close and I wanted to have that experience with my future daughter. But now that we have Logan, I couldn't imagine it any other way. I would love a 2nd, maybe a girl then try for a third boy/girl. Two boys would be great too.

tmp-195892875001867 · July 2009

I think we'll only have two biological children and we are both fine either way. I would love another girl so I can bust out all of C's clothes again. Plus I like having a sister. But, I think little boys are just the sweetest and I think Dh would like one, though I know he'd be just as happy with girls. If we adopt, then we might choose a child based on gender partly.

Ang&Garrett · July 2009

I love my little dudes! I can't imagine it any other way. Should we try for a third I would be thrilled with either a boy or girl, the most important thing to us is a healthy baby! But if there was a way to pick I'd love to have a daughter. My mom and I are so so close and I'd love to be on the mommy end of that kind of relationship.

jsugrin · July 2009

I hope I don't get flamed for admitting this but I am really sad I don't have a girl. ?DH really wanted a girl the first time and was disappointed both times that we found out they were boys so that doesn't help my feeling at all. ?Of course I love my boys and couldn't imagine not having them but I'm sad for them too not to have a sister. ?My brother and I are super close and I adore the relationship we have and all the brother combos I know are not close at all. ?When I think about trying for a girl (if that were in the cards for us) I also think of the chaos that my life would be if I ended up with 3 boys and that scares the crap out of me.

greekwife05 · July 2009

If you have more than one and they are the same gender - will you 'try' again for the opp. sex? I think it will depend on how long it takes for us to get pregnant. I would like 4 children DH wants too... we might compromise at 3 but we'll see how our TTC journey goes.

If you have one - are you hoping for the other? I would love to have one of each.

are you perfectly happy with what youve been given? Yes no matter what happens I'll be happy with whatever we are given.

thoughts, feelings?

soon2Bkranz · July 2009

I would be bummed to never have a boy. Of course I will be forever grateful for every child, but I do hope to be a mommy to a few of each

pkw · July 2009

I do not want 3 kids, period. So if we do go for a second...and if I got another boy...then I would assume that it is my lot in life to be surrounded by gorgeous men (the flip of what Harry said in SATC-themovie)

We are most likely only having one child...so we are happy with our little man.

I am, I thought I would miss the idea of having a chance at the relationship I have with my mom and grandma...but I am crazy excited about learning to be a boy mommy....I feel like my son and I have so many possibilities in life, I don't feel cheated at all.

Mrs.BoomBoom · July 2009

We've said we want one of each and a 3rd would be considered if we had 2 of the same sex.

painter's_palate · July 2009

There was a little part of me that wanted a lil' mama's boy but the feeling's gone now that I have my girls. We don't plan on having more kids. My brother has 2 boys and DH's sister has 2 boys so we can trade (for a few days) if we want to experience the other side

After finding out M was also a girl, DH told me that he always saw himself having two girls. I thought it was sweet.

jimmysgirl22 · July 2009

I'll love whomever comes into this world through me That said, DH and I will never hear the end of it if we only have girls. DH is the only one carrying on his grandfather's name, so Grandpa loves to "tease" us about having a boy. DH only feels the pressure in jest. He's perfectly happy with his little girl, as am I. If I have a houseful of pink and frills, so be it. If I have K as my only daughter, that's cool too. I hope to get on the cargo pants/sweater vest bandwagon one day. Either way, we're looking forward to having at least one more dc. . .

I'll be honest though, I really thought K was a boy. I was convinced! I felt a little disappointment for a split second but then all I could see was pink and purple and tutus and rhinestones! I automatically thought of the relationship I have with my mom (I'm the oldest/only daughter) and a whole life time rolled out in front of us. Little did I know she'd be more like her aunt - rough and tumble with a penchant for pink

emeraldwednesda · July 2009

PKW:
I do not want 3 kids, period.? So if we do go for a second...and if I got another boy...then I would assume that it is my lot in life to be surrounded by gorgeous men (the flip of what Harry said in SATC-themovie)
We are most likely only having one child...so we are happy with our little man.
I am, I thought I would miss the idea of having a chance at the relationship I have with my mom and grandma...but I am crazy excited about learning to be a boy mommy....I feel like my son and I have so many possibilities in life, I don't feel cheated at all.

pretty much ditto, though I'm sure I'll occasionally think of what might have been.

but I also have to ditto Celyn; it's better for the bank balance/relationship if I never have a girl!

ashleyhuney · July 2009

Having a boy, I could see being very happy with a house full of boys. I was a tomboy and have never truly been a girlie girl. That said, I would love to have a little girl and already have her name picked out!

kittylove · July 2009

We want more than two (I think Wink

) and I have to admit I would be a little sad if I had three boys, but not sure that would be enough for me to go for a fourth. I would feel the same way about having three girls. At the same time I love my little man more than anything I have ever known and two more of him would be just fine in the long run.

futrkingsley · July 2009

Even before we were married, DH and I hoped for one of both. I swore to myself during our struggle to conceive that I wouldn't care one way or the other but it was a lie. I really wanted a daughter. I am an only girl in a sea of boys -- I had no girl cousins on either side of my family until I was almost 20. I have a really strong bond with my female relatives and wanted that to continue for myself.

But I knew DS was a boy very early on and I cherish who he is and that he made me a mama. If we never have another child I will still be fulfilled in that way and happy.

Not having a daughter is totally better for us in so many ways. The dreaminess that is girl clothing is just not good for me.

And I'm lucky -- I have 3 neices. The oldest is just a so fun and adores me too so I'm lucky to have already started a close bond with her.

AvaLikeLava · July 2009

I honestly wouldn't care if it's a boy or a girl if we get a shot at #2. I also only want 2 children, and irregardless of what #2 would be, there is no third+

dblhappiness · July 2009

This reminds me of the several questions/comments I got when the boys were born (we didn't find out before what we were having). So many people pulled me aside and would whisper and want the dirt on if I was truly happy to have 2 boys and not one of each. Anyway, I was more in shock because I had literally convinced myself I'd be having two girls or one of each---never thought I'd have 2 boys. But I digress---I love having the two of them. They are just so close and I love everything about their relationship. That's not to say that I wouldn't mind having a girl if we choose to have another, but if it were another boy, I would be fine with that, too. My feelings right now is that our family might not be complete with just the boys--so I'd like to try for one more.

Mrs.K&C · July 2009

We would truly have been happy with either gender, but I will admit if given the choice we both would have picked girl if we could only have one. My reason is because of my relationship with my mother and her (and my) relationship with her mother, and her mother...I come from a long line of close mother/daughter relationships. Friends as adults. I did want that. Who knows if it will happen, Sabrina may hate me. But we have the chance.

We are most likely one and done since we will not do IVF again, and we are ok with that. We'd like two, but probably won't happen. If we had a boy instead of a girl, we'd still be over the moon. If I were to miraculously get pregnant, I really honestly wouldn't care what we had. It would be easier finacially to have a girl since we have so many clothes, but otherwise it wouldn't matter at all. Either way we'd be thrilled.

we-love-to-try · July 2009

I would love to have a boy for #2... but you obviously can't order it up like that. We're hoping to have 2 kids, and if it's a boy, that's fantastic, if it isn't, well... then we'll have 2 girls. I was often envious of my friends that had sisters to share clothes and friendships with. My brother and I weren't all that close and I'm sad for that.

Basically, what we get is what we get.

sunshyne28 · July 2009

jsugrin:
I hope I don't get flamed for admitting this but I am really sad I don't have a girl. DH really wanted a girl the first time and was disappointed both times that we found out they were boys so that doesn't help my feeling at all. Of course I love my boys and couldn't imagine not having them but I'm sad for them too not to have a sister. My brother and I are super close and I adore the relationship we have and all the brother combos I know are not close at all. When I think about trying for a girl (if that were in the cards for us) I also think of the chaos that my life would be if I ended up with 3 boys and that scares the crap out of me.

I have two boys and go through feelings like this. I just wanted to say you aren't the only one and don't feel bad for admitting it. I feel bad sometimes too but I think it's normal. I love my boys and I'm not sad that either of my boys turned out to be girls...that's really not it. And I think you can understand that.

And yes three boys make me nervous. lol. My MIL had three boys (all very close in age) and I don't know how she survived and stayed sane.

MelloYellow · July 2009

We have two boys and are pregnant with #3. I really feel like this one is going to be a boy too. My husband is rooting for another boy. I always thought that I would want at least one girl, but after having my two boys I would actually like another. They will all be close in age and my two are already best buddies. This will be our last either way. I also totally agree that if we had a girl we would go broke for sure.

alyssa7 · July 2009

I would love to have one of each. I don't know if we would try for a 3rd (in hopes of having one of the opposite gender).

amyfelice · July 2009

I don't care about having a boy and a girl. In fact, I like the idea of two the same gender. It seems to me they are closer when they grow up that way. I'm sure it's just a generalization but I really notice sisters are so close when they both get married, have kids, etc. a lot of times when they weren't even close as kids.

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