Hardest decision ever-

Garnetbaby09 · July 2009

I work from home part time 4pm - 8 pm M-F. I LOVE this schedule and am really good at what I do. My company is awesome to allow me to do this! DH had an appt for his prosthetic leg today and he goes to a company that hired a bunch of people I used to work with when I worked in prosthetics a few years ago. They are looking for someone to run their office and my name was 1st on their list. DH pretty much jumped through the phone with excitement as he was telling me about it...

We aren't struggling financially, but we did just buy a house and the extra money would help... AND considering I do WAH DH is worried that I would be the first one laid off should my company start considering lay offs. We took on an extra $300 a month in bills after buying the house and me working full time would mean DH would have to cut his class schedule in half in order to avoid having to put Lil in daycare. I don't mind day cares but a big chunk of my salary would be to pay for it which in the long run doesn't seem worth it... UGH I don't know what to do! The thought of losing this time with Lil is heartbreaking to me. I broke down just thinking of it. Is that selfish though? I mean should I go back to work full time to benefit our family or choose to continue my schedule at home and hoard my time with Lillian? I'm not sure if I'm asking for opinions or advice. Just need to vent I guess.

labooshki · July 2009

Will you have any extra money if you go back full time? I mean after putting Lil in daycare? There's no point if you're not going to end up with making more each month. I don't know, I have to go back to work in 5 weeks b/c summer break is over and I'm freakin dreading it.

jll1881 · July 2009

So many factors involved - I don't think there is any easy answer. The one thing I do think is that you're still working through the emotions that this decision has brought about. When would you have to make a decision? Maybe you can sit on it for a few days. Once the initial emotional reaction subsides, the practical side of you can help you make the right decision for you, Lil, and DH.

tmp-493670500007520 · July 2009

This is super tough....I feel for you. I can tell you that my company has 35% WAH staff (im one of them) and they consider this a cost SAVINGS...they dont have to house me in a cubicle or spend money on other office type money...so i'm easy. i use my own internet and phone and connect through a VPN.

think about it......its not necessarily making you a target for layoffs.

now....i also have to work...full time, in order to afford our mortgage etc. I dread that I can't stay home with Dylan, but I know that this is what I have to do so he can play in that big backyard one day.....etc.

good luck to you....you'll make the best choice for you and your family

jenerally · July 2009

Ugh, that is a hard decision and there is no "right thing to do" in this case.

however, I think your heartbreak and tears are the answer you are seeking. GL, honey!

N&G 5_26_07 · July 2009

I think you need to follow your heart and do what is going to make you happy.?

If there was anyway we could manage financially on DHs salary alone I would want to stay home with our DD in a heartbeat. ?However, there is definitely something to be said for some job security in this economy.

That is a tough decision. Do some thinking and then have a ?talk w/ your DH. ?

Garnetbaby09 · July 2009

jll1881:
So many factors involved - I don't think there is any easy answer. The one thing I do think is that you're still working through the emotions that this decision has brought about. When would you have to make a decision? Maybe you can sit on it for a few days. Once the initial emotional reaction subsides, the practical side of you can help you make the right decision for you, Lil, and DH.

I have a few days to think it over... I have a awesome relationship with my boss where I work now so I think I'm going to call her and give her the heads up. Not to scare her but to talk to her about where I stand there at the office and to let her know I'm more available if she needs me before they start considering lay offs. I have never had an issue there so I don't know if I'm worrying for nothing.

And we would have a couple hundred left over after paying for daycare should I need to. DH doesn't want to go the DC route though. He'd rather cut his classes and stay home.

mrskeller825 · July 2009

First, congrats on the job offer! In this economy, it's great to have options.

With that said, I know it's a tough decision. We had to make a similar one when I was going to go back almost full-time. My salary was cut because business was so slow, and it came out to only making a couple hundred dollars a month to miss out on so much time with Abbey. We opted for me to stay home & work on a free-lancing basis.

I don't know what is right or wrong. On one hand the extra money is great, but on the other, is it worth the time away from Lil. Is there a way to work part time at the office? That way you don't have to miss so much time with her.

Good luck though, which ever decision you make will work out. One thing though- you mention doing what is best for your family (financially)- whichever decision you make will be best for your family- just in different ways.

ncbelle · July 2009

Money isn't the only thing that is valuable to your family. I don't think it's selfish to want to SAH with your kiddo nor should money be the only factor in making your decision. Good luck!

ETA: I'm a full time PhD student - it's typical though to work a 20 hour a week assistantship (both for money and experience in the field). I chose not to take one this year because most of what I would make would end up going towards daycare. It made more sense for me to stay home and just focus on class. The extra time with kiddo was worth more than the extra money.

Garnetbaby09 · July 2009

Thank you for the encouragement ladies. I have too much to think about.

adncarrie · July 2009

Did you watch oprah yesterday? I don't know your spending habits, but maybe you can cut some things out so you feel like you are helping financially and can still stay home... that way you can save up money in case you would lose your position.

Garnetbaby09 · July 2009

adncarrie:
Did you watch oprah yesterday? I don't know your spending habits, but maybe you can cut some things out so you feel like you are helping financially and can still stay home... that way you can save up money in case you would lose your position.

I missed Oprah but I like this idea.

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