Infertility

Remember the horrible statement made by co-worker?

Remember that she said if she was pregnant that she'll have an abortion? Well guess what? She is pregnant and she IS having an abortion....i am so upset about this. She made 2 phone calls last week crying and carrying on about how she knows in her heart what she has to do (blah blah) but it's still hard. She said she has time to think about it then she mentioned thursday (meaning this week). She hasn't come out and told us yet (one girl knows) but i know by what she was saying on the phone. AND she's been telling us (me especially and she knows my situation) that AF is late.  She then talks to another co-worker out of the blue and says that she thinks i'm upset with her because i THINK she's pregnant and that she's getting rid of it. (like it's a piece of garbage)..other co-worker said that she knew nothing about it &  It just seemed like she was trying to throw us off the scent. I am not stupid...i know what i heard...

She's been acting normal like it's no big deal. Today she emailed us that she'll be in at noon on thursday and she told my boss she has an appt...I googled abortions (never thought i'd be doing that!) and you mostly need 24hrs rest or you can take a pill. I'm assuming she's taking the pill. if i am counting correctly she'll be between 6-8 wks preg.

I am so very depressed about this..i mean why couldn't it be me that got pregnant? I clearly want a baby and she clearly doesn't. All I can do is pray to god that he will give me a baby...ya know where there is death there is life. My iui is prob thursday so i'm hoping god is listening and will take this baby from her and give it to me.

 Off to have a good cry....thanks for listening ladies...

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Re: Remember the horrible statement made by co-worker?

  • honey i am so so sorry you are going through this!! i SO know that feeling...more than one woman in my life has done this exact thing. it's heart wrenching...i'm not big on the whole religion thing but hopefully you're right and he'll take that baby and give it to you - where it will be loved and wanted. **hugs**
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  • i'm sorry, it has to be hard to be around someone like that. especially from the way she is talking about it like she's getting her teeth cleaned.

    on a positive note, i wish you luck with your iui!

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  • I remember your post about your insensitive co-worker.  She should have kept her stupid mouth shut and not shared her "problem" with you. 

    Im sorry:(

  • I am so sorry. There is a special place in hell for people like that. Best of luck with your IUI!
    TTC since 8/07 DX - Severe MFI/azoospermia & MTHFR/ TESEs found sperm - 7/08 & 6/09/ 12/08 - IVF#1 - BFN/ 6/09 - IVF #2 - cancelled due to OHSS risk (had retrieval)/ 7/09 - FET #1 - BFN/ 9/09 - FET #2 - BFN/ 11/09 - IVF #3 with new RE cancelled twice - 10/09 & 11/09/ 1/10 - IVF #3 take 3 - BFN/ 4/10 - IVF #4 - first ever BFP on 5/13/10!!! 108 @ 10dp3dt/ 2nd beta 311!/ sono on 5/28/10 said TWINS!!!! Lilypie Second Birthday tickers
  • I forgot to mention she's not taking bcp or using any precautions.....so it's like she's using an abortion as a form of birth control....ugh.just makes me so sick....
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  • I remember your post.  That makes me really sad.  I hope she really knows what she is doing.  :  (
    Beautiful Miracle Baby lost at 21 weeks due to pre-term labor and incompetent cervix. FET#1 BFN, FET#2 BFP, early loss. FET#3 BFN. IVF#2 BFFN. FET #4 BFP after removing bilateral hydrosalpinx and 3 months of lupron depot. Sticky Bun is here!! Image and video hosting by TinyPic Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
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    I forgot to mention she's not taking bcp or using any precautions.....so it's like she's using an abortion as a form of birth control....ugh.just makes me so sick....

     

    Wow.  I didn't think it could get any worse and then I saw this!  I'm sorry this is what you have to deal with while you're at work :(  

    TTC with unexplained IF since 8/2007 6 losses, one beautiful perfect boy in our arms Lilypie Premature Baby tickers
  • how horribly unfair that you have to hear this daily, its like we know it happens out there but until it is personally in front of you, you don't really FEEL it.  I can't imagine how hard it would be to look her in the face and it sounds like she is totally trying to cover it up.  It would be easier if she would just come right out and say it instead of lying.  I hope that you don't over hear anymore of this and are able to put it out of your mind.
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  • ::hugs:::

    She is such a cruel person, and must feel very insecure about herself, her life, and her choices if she feels the need to rub her fertility/your IF in your face like that.

    I also had a "friend" call ME crying awhile back to get her blessing on aborting her baby with her married boyfriend... I swear had she not been pregnant, I would have smacked her.  Though I'll admit I half considered paying her to keep the baby and let me adopt him/her. Embarrassed

     If I were you, I'd call in an anonymous complaint to HR that she is carrying on about her abortion in front of her coworkers and creating an uncomfortable working environment.  Be it due to religion, IF, past pregnancy loss....  nobody should be subjected to detailed conversations about what goes on in their coworkers' genitalia.

  • I would have a serious problem not going off on her in the middle of the office.  Seriously.  Wow.  That just gave me rage reading that.  OMG.  I'm SOOOOOO sorry you're going through THAT!!!  Seriously.  I will think about this the rest of the day, maybe even week.  UGH!  
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