how long would you wait to adopt?

Re: how long would you wait to adopt?

• Mia07

  July 2009

  I have no idea how long I'd wait. I guess we're doing the "we'll know when we get to that point" route.

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• xleslieraex member

  July 2009

  Mia07:

  I have no idea how long I'd wait. I guess we're doing the "we'll know when we get to that point" route.

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  I'm thinking this. I guess we haven't really talked about it. He's had a DD and I've had a DD so the 2 m/c's (we think) are just a fluke. We are going to try again. We know we can get pregnant, I just have to carry to term again.

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• WearingRed member

  July 2009

  We have already talked about adoption..... DH says its a NO GO! he would rather go do a surrogate pregnancy than adopt.
  

  

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• knelli

  July 2009

  We haven't even brought the subjecy up to tell you the truth.  But we are only 6 months post m/c and it was our first attempt and first loss.

  So we have a ways to go before we even start to go that route.

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• lovesinthehouse

  July 2009

  I've been loosely thinking about this recently as I become less and less "sure" that we'll be able to get pregnant on our own.

  At this point, I at least want to go through testing, to find out what the problem is (IF there is a problem) and figure out our options. Then we'll go through the whole debate then, about what we're willing to do, etc.

  But the money factor does cross my mind and scares me. A part of me thinks it would be the most cost-effective thing to just save for adoption instead of spending money on procedures that may not work (I'm so negative). But like the other ladies, we'll cross that road when we get there.

  For now, I keep trying! I keep praying! I keep counting my blessings for the things that I do have and I look forward to a brighter day.
  

  missed miscarriage began 04/08, ended 07/08

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• cindybaf

  July 2009

  I'd wait until DH was 30 and out of school. He's 28 now and many agencies won't look at you unless you've been married a certain amount of time, over the age of 30, a home, and have good jobs. You'd think there wouldn't be any restrictions, but there are MANY. I'd like to adopt a child even if we can have our own biologically anyway. I know eight family/friends that have adopted, and those kids just filled their homes with love.

  I don't think it will take us much to go the adoption route. If I lose another tube I might do IVF once but really, it's a lot of money too.     

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• lil_rhody member

  July 2009

  If I have another late first tri m/c, then we've decided we're going to start researching adoption for real. These m/cs are just taking too much out of me.

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• soontobemrsvega

  July 2009

  DH and I talked about it but not awhole lot hes "point" was he didnt think he could love a child the way he loves his boys if he knew they werent his. My point was I do it everyday with his boys!!  I know he may feel that way now but I think if it came to it and that was the only way he would feel different when he held the baby for the first time.

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