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Would you call CPS?
RE: my post below. Would you call CPS on a family member if you knew the children were in such a situation? I want to. I would want it to be anoynymous (why can't I spell that now??). I live in TX though and she is in IL.... Would DH hate me you think? I mean, he completely agrees that her son's are not being taken care of AT ALL but would he hate me for calling CPS on his sister? Ugh I hate just sitting back and watching this happen!
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Re: Would you call CPS?
This. Also, I'm sure they're going to ask for specific instances of neglect and want evidence. So if you have it and DH agrees, go for it.
Are you talking about the "it's a boy" post or is there another? The "it's a boy" post does not include any information that is worthy of CPS intervention...at least in my state (WA). Lack of prenatal care is not a CPS concern, and neither is leaving your children with friends unless you can show that she knows these friends are unsafe (known drug users/ sex offenders). There is a big difference between what you or I would consider appropriate parenting and a situation where CPS is legally able to intervene.
sorry.
Absolutely. If the situation is as bad as it seems, it will only be a matter of time before others start to call as well. As soon as the kids hit elementary school, the teachers are required to call. The more documentation the state has, the better the odds of actually getting something done to help the kids.
I would call. Make sure to block your number and don't give any details that could lead back to you. Good luck, that is such an awful situation for youand your DH to be in.
Her laundry list of shiit is too long and exhausting to list. Yes, its as bad as it seems and I know what constitutes a call to CPS. That was not my question. It was what you would do re: CPS on a family member.
it certainly can be. if you take a "totality of the circumstances" approach. in and of itself, lack of prenatal care is not neglect. it certainly shows poor judgment.
fwiw, just from the info you described in your post, there certainly doesn't seem (IMO) to be enough to remove children from that home. what is the imminent risk of danger to those children?
now if you tell me mom's new bf is a megan's law offender, or mom and bf smoke crack, or kids are not being fed, or there is physical abuse inthe home, or something more substantial, then its a different story.
But a mom who has multiple baby daddy's, is on welfare, smokes, and is young....giiiiiirl you just described a unfortunately growing population in america.
if i was not in a position to invervene otherwise, i.e. i was far away and could not go over to her house for sit down and try to help her. then hell yes i would. who cares what she thinks about you, how will you be able to look at your niece and nephews when they are older and see the damage thats been done to them by being left in her care.
See my thoughts exactly.... I've begged DH's mom and sisters to do something. They aren't exactly in a financial postion to take on any more kids either, but at least his one sister was willing to... MIL thinks it would just drive idiot SIL away and make the situation worse. It really can't get much worse when her 3 year old is so hungry he nearly burns down his house trying too cook. I am going to talk to DH about it tonight. We've sent her so much money for the kids to eat and have shoes on their feet. She spends it on alcohol and slot machines.
Unfortunately, it can. Unless there is severe physical abuse, I am typically against CPS getting involved. It is sad for those children, but I just can't expect a government agency to solve all the problems caused by irresponsible adults. There are worse cases out there, and seeing as how it isn't legal to force her to get sterilized, taking away these kids doesn't mean she won't go out and immediately have some more (which she is already in the process of doing).
It is a sad situation. Just be a good aunt to those kids. They really need you on their side.
As a former CPS Investigator, and now, as a person who trains CPS Investigators across my state, from reading your post below, IMO there is not enough information for a phone call to be made. You didn't indicate anything in your post that places the children in immediate/impending danger of serious harm or any situations where the children are being neglected or abused (by a legal standpoint). Have you listed some reasons that their mother may benefit from some parenting classes--Yes, but nothing that places the children in a situation where they are in immediate/impending danger of serious harm.
Onto your question, would I call CPS on a family member...Absolutely, without a doubt, if I had solid evidence that the children are being neglected or abused. However, prior to that phone call, I would do everything in my power to avoid that phone call. I have seen the trauma and devastation that Child Protective Services can do upon a family, and long lasting affects of a child being in foster care. Exhaust all resources prior to that phone call, the affects of CPS last for generations.