Anyone else's DH really step up to the plate?

Cosmogrrl · July 2009

I mean, everyone has there own issues and off-days, but has anyone else's DH really come a long way since having a LO?

Mine cooks, cleans, does bottles, all the laundry (including LO's). Pretty much everything. He is on paternity leave with me until August 24th.

But even when he's working (he is a shift worker), he's always been a cooker and a cleaner.

I consider myself pretty lucky...

hisbabybear · July 2009

my DH is amazing! He works everyday from 7a-3p yet still gets up everynight and changes Dawsons diaper before each feeding and helps me so much as soon as he gets home from work.. i have no complaints whatsoever!

Jesseca0219 · July 2009

DH can be a butt sometimes, but since we had DS he has been amazing. He changes about 40% of the diapers and does all of the dishes. Not to mention he takes over night duty since I'm home all day.

FutureHernandez · July 2009

Rub it in! My husband does jack.

katie_cj · July 2009

My FI has been pretty great. He does all the cooking and is always taking DS when he gets home from work so I can have some me time. If DS is really fussy at night, he'll get up and come hold him so I can go back to sleep.

I'm amazed at how comfortable he is with DS since day 1. I love seeing him as a father.

jeng329 · July 2009

FutureHernandez:
Rub it in! My husband does jack.

this. Although he thinks he does "a lot"

me&mymonkey · July 2009

My DH has come so far since DS first got home from the hospital. Although he still manages to tick me off on a regular basis I am so proud of him! DH is sah this summer and is with DS while I work full-time. So he does all of the diapers, feeding, and playing all day long. He even washes bottles, laundry, dishes and vacuums too! All this from a guy who couldn't stand to change a poopy diaper and didn't know the meaning of the word clean or wash a few months ago. I think all dads should sah for a week or two because this has been a huge blessing for me.

PlannedChaos · July 2009

Uh....No. But he means well.

RandZB · July 2009

DH is amazing. When we were in the hospital and I was recuperating from the C-section, he changed all the diapers, rocked DS, dealt with visitors, ordered my food, made sure I was as comfortable as I could be, helped me shower, and really took care of me. When he gets home from work he takes DS so I can shower, eat, do some things I need to do around the house, changes all the diapers, keeps him happy, and still does anything I need him to do. He has really surprised me.

msbern · July 2009

FutureHernandez:
Rub it in! My husband does jack.

THIS.... he only "helps" after I get p!ssed at him for not helping.

kellielee08 · July 2009

My DH is amazing! He would do anything for this kid. He doesn't do too much as far as housework and cooking but he just loves taking care of Joe.

quickchick · July 2009

NOPE my DH is making me think about divorcing him actually

jillchrispy · July 2009

I agree with the above post. Once I get pissed at him for not helping, he helps and then wonders why I don't appreciate "everything" that he's doing. I just feel like I really shouldn't have to ask you to wash bottles if you can clearly see that they are all dirty.

jillchrispy · July 2009

Oh, not about the divorcing!! The post about that. I should have just copied and pasted...?

AmyCC1980 · July 2009

My DH is a great husband and father, but if I ever came home to a clean house and dinner made I would drop dead of pure shock. He is just not that kind of guy.

dmogmo · July 2009

Yes. But honestly I knew this would be the case before marriage/children.

SwissPrincessBride · July 2009

I have been really lucky because my DH has been awesome since day one (and during my pregnancy too). He was with K from the moment she was born until they finally kicked him out of the nursery. He bathed her up there, asked lots of questions and did everything he could until they sent him down to my room. He stayed in the hospital the entire six days until we were both released, he did all the diaper changes in the pedi ward, helped me walk the halls while she was sleeping and handled as much as he could when it came to her in the isolette. We visited the nurses recently and they all remembered him by name and I was just "M's wife/K's mom". I was so proud!

evenstar622 · July 2009

Do you want to trade????

LOL. Okay....DH tries...he really does try. Confused

FutureHernandez · July 2009

quickchick:
NOPE my DH is making me think about divorcing him actually

This too!

Shellyburger · July 2009

DH did 99% of the night feedings even when I BF'ed, I pretty much EP'ed due to latch issues, that was amazing. He does a lot around the house and with DS.

2bejunebride06 · July 2009

DH has stepped up more than I thought he would, but there are still days when I'm running around doing laundry, packing her bag for daycare, trying to keep her entertained, making bottles for the next day, etc. and DH is just sitting there on the couch watching tv. The second I say "Um, I need a little help here" he starts to help. Other days he really surprises me and when I get home from work he has already picked her up from daycare, changed her diaper/clothes, fed her and is entertaining her.

AngieandTony · July 2009

diana82:
Yes. But honestly I knew this would be the case before marriage/children.

THIS. tony has been the father/husband i knew he would be and then some...

Loops925 · July 2009

Cosmogrrl:

I mean, everyone has there own issues and off-days, but has anyone else's DH really come a long way since having a LO?

Mine cooks, cleans, does bottles, all the laundry (including LO's). Pretty much everything. He is on paternity leave with me until August 24th.

But even when he's working (he is a shift worker), he's always been a cooker and a cleaner.

I consider myself pretty lucky...

here! my man is amazing! he was off for 6 weeks and just returned to work yesterday DS and I missed him sooo much!

Mrs.Carlybella · July 2009

everytime he is home, he wants to do as much as he can with LO. He will do all the diaper changes, rock him to sleep, and is really looking forward to when we introduce the bottle.

it is a little hard b./c the last thing i want to do is then change gears and cook /clean- but i love it because he misses out on a lot of time with him at work, plus it gives me a break and i can get stuff done.

TennisWife815 · July 2009

He's been great. When LO was eating during the night he'd make bottles, and wake up for one feedign with him and I'd do the other. Now I do the 6 am feeding on weekdays and he does it on weekends. He'll call and tell me we're going out to dinner -- I need break. Take LO so I can get a mani/pedi bi weekly, go to weight watchers, and get my hair colored. Comes home from work and gives me about an hour so I can get some stuff done. Helps with laundry, has always done the yard work, and mainly deals with the dog.

eriqua1 · July 2009

As some of the PPs said, he is the wonderful father I knew he would be. He's a SAHD right now, so he's actually doing way more than I am and he's loving it. I definitely feel very grateful that he's as good with DS as he is.

ChefBrit · July 2009

My SO has chilled out so much.. which is a great help actually.. i like that he isnt so anal about the house.. and he is so in love with his daughter which makes him more in love with me.. everything just keeps getting better and better.. we may have to eat late but my SO cooks every night!! he puts C to bed three nights a week.. and is such a great dad!!!! he rushes home from work to try and spend some time with us before bed time!!

ChefBrit · July 2009

FutureHernandez:
Rub it in! My husband does jack.

just so you know i thought the first six weeks were the hardest for us.. i look back at it as the transitional phase.. believe my SO was kind of a *** at first it was just hard all around.. i'de say around month 2 after we had a good long talk about expectations and what we needed things got SOOOO much better! Hang in there!

Elisa312 · July 2009

Cosmogrrl:

I mean, everyone has there own issues and off-days, but has anyone else's DH really come a long way since having a LO?

Mine cooks, cleans, does bottles, all the laundry (including LO's). Pretty much everything. He is on paternity leave with me until August 24th.

But even when he's working (he is a shift worker), he's always been a cooker and a cleaner.

I consider myself pretty lucky...

So he stopped smoking weed?

bobcatsteph · July 2009

Yes! My DH stepped up big time from the moment I found out I was pg. He does most of the cleaning, cooks most nights, and still spends lots of quality time with DD. He even gets up with me when DD wakes up at night.

We both work and we have a nice little routine going. We split duties fairly evenly. I could not imagine being married to someone that did not help out and left me to tend to everything myself.

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