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What to do? Baby shower question!

CanadianJulyBriCanadianJulyBri
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OK, so I wasn't sure if I wanted a baby shower or not, even though I was being asked constantly last month. This month, I've decided I definitely do want one and I want to be involved in planning! Weirdly enough, even though a couple of people offered to throw me one last month, this week, when I bring it up, no one offers anything.

I have a sneak suspicion that DH is planning something with one of my friends. The thing is, I REALLY don't want to be SURPRISED... I'm not sure how to handle this?!?! If I bring it up with him, I'm sure he'll just deny it...

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Re: What to do? Baby shower question!

  • SCBride2007SCBride2007 member
    I'm not sure what to tell you exactly, I'd just like to say don't get your hopes/expectations up that there is a surprise shower... that is really setting yourself up for disappointment. Also, people might have just moved on from the idea of throwing you a shower. I know that if I hadn't agreed when my hostesses asked, they probably would have moved on. Hope you get it figured out.?
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  • mistirei915mistirei915 member
    relax and let go, and enjoy your shower!
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  • ladysingsthebluesladysingstheblues
    that's the thing about surprises... you don't get to have a say in them or plan them.
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  • chelseareneechelsearenee
    Tell DH how you feel.  If he is not planning one, he probably will.  And hopefully he'll respect that you dont want to be surprised.
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  • jlynnr87jlynnr87
    I don't think it's weird that no one brings it up now since you showed no interest last month. Hopefully they ARE planning you a surprise shower, but either way, I don't see you being able to be involved at this point. He should deny it if you bring it up - it's a SURPRISE! Enjoy it if it happens.
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  • anna7602anna7602 member
    ditto what pp about not setting yourself up for disappointment in case there is no surprise. and if there is a surprise, great! what is it that you want to plan so badly about a shower? it's other people's chance to celebrate you and your baby, let them do that in their own special way.
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  • Jenny3Jenny3 member
    I think it's tacky to plan your own shower. If you are lucky enough that people want to throw you a party, just enjoy it and be happy. Don't worry about the surprise, or planning or anything else! :)
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  • faithhollettfaithhollett

    No offense, but if you were the hostess, you would be planning it. But you're not. If you want to plan a baby shower, maybe you could host one for someone else (if you know anyone that's pregnant). I'm sure, at some point, if not now, you'll get a chance to host and plan a baby shower.

    If you want to plan a party, maybe you could throw and host a different kind of party.

    Don't forget, you get to host and plan birthday parties for your kid! 

    If you're lucky enough to have someone throw you a baby shower, relax and appreciate it.

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