TTC After a Loss

*~*~*~Ladies in waiting check-in*~*~*~

This is group designed for all the ladies in the various stages of waiting after a loss: waiting to miscarry, waiting for AF to arrive, waiting to TTC again, and waiting for BFP.

*Since this process is such a true test in patience, it is nice to have the support and friendship of other women going through similar experiences and emotions

*If you would like to be added to the list please post your name and your goal. There will be a daily question, a place for prayer requests and a daily inspirational verse.

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Good morning ladies.  I hope everyone is doing well this morning.  I hope I missed a lot of BFP?s this weekend!   I am headed off to my pcp this morning (FINALLY) to talk to her about the b/w test result that came back positive that my ob/gyn is concerned about.  It only took three weeks to get into her.  *blah*.  I am hoping for good news today and not more bad news that will affect me ttc. 

If you would like to join ladies in waiting please post the following info

Screenname
Current status (waiting to O, waiting for BFP, waiting to try again - include month you will ttc again please, and if you are a new graduate - please include EDD)

I am doing this because I think there are a lot of names on the list of people who are no longer on the boards and it has gotten quite cumbersome to keep track of.

Inspirational Verse:
?The Lord God will wipe away tears from all faces?. ?  Isaiah 25:8 NKJV

Prayer Request/s: (new requests in red)
- The girls that are currently going through a loss.
- The girls on PL board that sadly join us daily..

- That I make the right decision about the mission trip I am supposed to be leaving on this Saturday..  There have been a lot of complications and bumps in the road and I have to make the decision whether we are going or not today..  I could really use some prayers about this. 

Question of the day:

Do people IRL know that you are ttc?  Or is it something you have kept to yourself?  The reason I ask is that people just assume that since I lost two babies that I am ttc, but I don?t want to confirm it for them because I hate the questioning ?Are you pregnant yet?? 

 

Ladies in waiting to Try again..

Addicted2thenot?waiting for AF

Bcn68?.waiting for greenlight
Eviebee Waiting to ttc in August.
Jojojojo?waiting til September to TTC
KateandMark?waiting to TTC in August

megjr8 ?.waiting to TTC in August

MrsEzStar?waiting to m/c
Sinisterkat.. TTC next cycle

Smith2009?waiting to TTC in September

Sweetsarahsmiley?reluctantly waiting to TTC

Vkbaby09?waiting to TTC in Aug/Sept

Wickedsugar?waiting to TTC in September


Ladies in waiting for BFP?s

AB&T?.waiting to O

ACM1616...waiting for AF
Ade2be?waiting for BFP
Alwyzbsy?waiting for BFP

Belovedcaramel?waiting to O
Bostonfingerlakes07...waiting to O
~Bren~?..waiting to O

Browniris?waiting for BFP
carasizemo...waiting to O

Cindybaf?.waiting for BFP
Cowgirl?waiting for BFP
Dkfitz07...waiting to O
Futureevans?waiting for AF

Irishsapphire?waiting for BFP
Jacquiemark?.waiting for BFP

Jump4Jen?.waiting for BFP
Knelli??waiting for BFP

Ljsmith?.waiting for BFP

Mia07?.waiting for BFP
Mlmtgg?.waiting to O

Momagain2009..waiting for BFP

Mrs.EmmaLouise..waiting for BFP

Nemattox?waiting for BFP
OhDanna?.waiting to O

Ping1080?waiting to O
PeetiePie?waiting for BFP
Redshoegirl?waiting to O
Scooter999...waiting for BFP
Sept0107bride?waiting to O

Smtaylor?waiting for BFP
Spldbrt?..waiting for BFP
sue&Pasqual?waiting for a BFP
sunset love?waiting to O

Sweetnevaeh4?waiting for BFP

TMS8126?.waiting for BFP

Uagirl?waiting to O
WearingRed-Waiting for BFP

Recent graduates..

Bl2007?..March 2010

Blondie223?March 2010

Itsmsalbin..March 2010

Jen-dale?.March 2010

 

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Re: *~*~*~Ladies in waiting check-in*~*~*~

  • QOTD: Only a select few know, and they are the only ones that knew about the m/c. I think it is personal and I do not want questions.

    Still waiting to O....I usually have a long wait though :(

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  • Cowgirl:  Can I please get added back on the list? I know I used to be on it.  I'm waiting to O..at least I think I am.

    QOTD:  I think most ppl assume that we are but only our closest friends know we actually are actively TTC

  • I'm still waiting to O...i'm on CD10

    QOTD: I have a similar situation. People assume I am since MC but, as you said, I don't confirm because I hate the "are you pregnant yet" question! 

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    Cowgirl:  Can I please get added back on the list? I know I used to be on it.  I'm waiting to O..at least I think I am.

    QOTD:  I think most ppl assume that we are but only our closest friends know we actually are actively TTC

    Sure I will add you back onto the list.  The problem was we had sooooooooooo many people that were not responding that I thought the best way to re-do the list was to ask people to re-sign up. 

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  • Cowgirl could you please add me:  Karing2 waiting to O-

    QOTD-  I have a feeling that it has gone around about the MC so most people would know and DH and I have been married for a while and are older so most assume....

     

    BFP #1 April 28, 2009 - miscarriage 5/17/2009
    BFP #2 March 21, 2010 CP 3/28/2010
    BFP # 3 August 1, 2010 baby boy April 7, 2011
    BFP #4 February 9, 2013 missed miscarriage @ 15 weeks on May 1st , 2013.
    fingers crossed BFP #5 10/03/2013 due June 10, 2014. Unplanned C-Section on May 29, 2014. Welcome Grant!
  • I'd like to join please, I'm waiting for a bfp.

    We are ttc as normal which most people don't know. DH was found to have a translocation that works best with ivf and pgd- the only thing is b/c it's a special procedure it takes 3 months at least to make special "probes". So most people think we are waiting for ivf and not ttc right now...The drs told us to go ahead and carry on since it's luck of the draw and dh's dad has the same thing yet had 4 kids. 

    I started temping again this month after a while of not and my temps are a bit messed up, but I'm in the 2ww so in a wait and see right now!

    www.fertilityfriend.com/home/bridebahama if anyone wants to look and offer advice! 

  • Thank you cowgirl for adding me to the recent graduates!!  :) 

    QOTD:   Only 2 of my close friends knew we were TTC.  I didn't tell family or anyone else b/c I also hate the "are you pregnant yet" question. 

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  • Hey Cowgirl!  I'm hoping you get some good news this morning!

    I'm officially waiting to TTC in August now!  AF/MC showed it's ugly face on Saturday, but overall I am grateful that it was a m/c, not eptopic.

    We are going to go on bcp's for one cycle, because my cycles are so long normally.   Then we will go back on Clomid in August! 

    QOTD:

    Not that many people know I am trying.  I have recently started opening up about it to a a few people because there are a few people that I feel have the right to know whats going on in my life.  Only like 5 people know, and I think it's better that way.  No one at my job knows.  And I'm really glad I kept my last pregnancy a secret.  It was hard enough going  through all of that without having to go through the process of letting everyone know that I'm not pg, like I had to with my first m/c.

  • Waiting for a BFP - I will be testing on Thurs.

    The only person who knows is my best friend. Haven't mentioned a thing to anyone else.

  • uagirluagirl member

    I'm now waiting for a BFP.

    QOTD:  We haven't told anyone we are TTC again.  We've actually been telling the opposite.  I keep telling people we are waiting to think about it until after I finish my graduate program next month.  I didn't want to be bothered with "are you pregnant?" questions.

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    m/c 05/2009
    DD born 8/9/10
    TTC #2 since 8/2012
    CP 12/2012
    dx MFI 10/2013
    Surprise BFP 11/6/2013  EDD 7/19/2014
    Beta #1 15 dpo HCG 355 Prog 30.9
    Beta #2 22 dpo HCG 8147 Prog 18.8
    Beta #3 29 dpo HCG 44580 Prog 29.8

  • LAHORN
    Current status: waiting for BFP,
    include month you will ttc again please: just started TTC end of june, 1st cycle since m/c

     

    when i had my m/c i had mentioned to my sister and mom and my best friend i planned to ttc right away since the doc said i only had to wait 1 month. my best friend is the only one who really knows we are. i havent brought it up much since i have had my first AF. i like it that way, i am not being pesterd then.

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  • I got my BFP yesterday morning due in March 2010. 

    QOTD: DHs parents and my SIL know.  My mom too.  Not because I said we were, but because they probably figure since we had the m/c.

    I'll be praying that you make the right decision about your trip Lynn.

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  • Only the ppl that knew about the mc know we're TTC.  I don't want questions anymore, or the snarky advice I get for "waiting too long."

     I'm in the LOOOONG 2WW.

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  • friends know. most really don't know how obsessed I am though. I think they would think I'm crazy. (which I am). others - like work, some not close family members - don't know.
    m/c#1 07/16/08 (11 weeks), m/c#2 10/10/08 (8 weeks). and then nothing since except every test possible (no answers). IUI#1 and #2: BFNs Super lucky to be buddies with Peetie. Our out of nowhere, surprise DD born 5/29/2011
  • I guess I am waiting for AF because of my temp drop but I am secretly still hoping for a BFP.

    QOTD: There are a few people that know we are TTC but they usually just ask when they see me "so you pg yet." I just say no, it is not as easy as one would think. I wish no one knew so I wouldn't have to hear that question. Only a few people know of my loss but they do not seem to get it. 

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  • I couldn't find me on the list...

    But, I am in the waiting to o phase!  Yes!   And waiting to BD like crazy!

    QOTD:  A few people know.  I only actively talk about it with 2 of my closest friends.  One of them is trying now also and having trouble getting PG.  We commiserate often!

  • Our family and a few friends know...But I told them we are not TTC to the extreme. We are going with the flow and if it happens, it happens. We aren't doign anything to prevent it. Smile
  • Sinisterkat - waiting to TTC for 1 more month

    I guess this is where I belong.  I don't even know anymore - I just want cycle #2 to be over so that I can officially TTC!

    Good luck at the doctors appointment, Lynn!  I hope that you get some good news - keep us posted.

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  • Oops, forgot the QOTD -

    No, most people IRL do not know about it.  Some of our closest friends know that we may try again, but they have no idea about the obsession I have.  They might think I've come completely unhinged!

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  • Waiting for BFP. ( 1 more week til testing)

    No one IRL knows we are TTC. They were surprised when we announced out first pregnancy although we had been TTC for 8 months by then. I just don't want people knowing all kinds of personal details like that.

  • I'm on CD 12 and waiting to O.  Hopefully it should be in the next couple of days.  CM has gone from sticky to creamy (I think...this is my first cycle really trying to track it).

    QOTD: My closest friends know and my sister knows but the rest of the family doesn't.  As far as my parents know the first pregnancy was a surprise.  DH has 1 semester left of school so they think we should wait a little longer.

    Missing our Little Pumpkin BFP 2-19-09, MC 3-1-09 Mommy and Daddy miss you and love you so very much! Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker


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  • OH, dear. I'm not on the list anymore.

    screename: dansgrl05

    Waiting to ttc in September. I hate waiting.

  • QOTD - Some do, there are a few family and friends who knew about our loss but nothing more.  Since it's now been over a year since the m/c, I think that they don't think we are still trying.
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  • Close family and friends know.  Because they knew about the m/c and the complications that came along with that.  People when we first got the green light to TTC were asking how it was going.  I think the sad look in my eye kept them from asking again.  I always tell people that I dont know well enough to tell when they ask if we're trying, or want kids "Dont worry, you'll be the first to know when we get pregnant."  And that keeps them from asking again.
    ***** TTCAL/Forever Buddy to Cour10e******
    -m/c at 11w2d due to partial molar 2008 -m/c #2 2009
    Beautiful daughter born February 2011
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  • Do people IRL know that you are ttc?  Or is it something you have kept to yourself?

    My MIL knows because if I didn't tell her we when were trying again I think she would have lost her mind, but she doesn't ask if we are pregnant yet because she knows she the 3-4 on the list to get to know. slots one and two are my DH and you gals. Other than her you guys and my online friends in my game are the only ones who know we are trying again. Although I did tell my IFL best friend that I had the green light to try but I haven't told we are yet.

    Yep FF confirmed today that I O'ed on the 10th and that I should test on the 24th, HAHAHA like I will make it to the 24th. I will be testing with uagirl on the 22nd. And possible again on the 23rd. That is if I make it that long. COME ON BFP!

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  • ALl of our family knows (obviously not the details but they know) and alot of our close friends know.  We had just made the "big announcement" with our LO 2 weeks before we lost her so pretty much everyone knew we were pg so they all now know that we are TTC again.
  • QOTD- No one knew until we got a BFP and blabbed, which of course ended in miscarriage. ?So now everyone assumes that we are, but we actually are waiting a few more months. ?I don't want people to know, because I also don't like the constant questioning!

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    Congrats to all the BFP's this weekend and morning! Yea!?

  • Hi cowgirl! I am now in the agonizing 2ww....trying to keep my mind occupied!

    QOTD: Only select few know b/c of the m/c's. The main reason that I don't tell about the m/c's is b/c I don't want questions about if we are ttc. I always said that we wouldn't tell anyone about ttc, but that all changed with our bad luck. It's nice to have a select few who I can talk to about this stuff. 

    BFP#1 1/27/09 :: Natural m/c 2/6/09 @ 6w
    BFP#2 5/11/09 :: Natural m/c 5/27/09 @ 5w5d
    BFP#3 7/24/09 :: Missed m/c, baby stopped growing at 6w4d :: natural m/c 8/28/09 @ 8w6d
    BFP #4 11/27/09 :: DD born 7/27/10
    BFP #5 2/29/12 :: DD born 11/6/12

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  • Hey there... I'd like to be put on the list please

    1stTimeMommy2Be - waiting to O on 2nd cycle post m/c (July / Aug)

    QOTD: a few select friends do know but only bc i have nothing else to talk about and i'm going crazy with the wait...  my mom and dad also know...

  • Can I please be added back to the list?  I'm waiting to O after a m/c in Feb.

    We haven't told anyone that we are ttc.  Our family and close friends knew about the m/c and the complications that followed.  Luckily no one asks us for updates so we're keeping it to ourselves until we have good news to share. 

    ectopic 2/09 - 8wks chemical pregnancy 9/09 - 5wks missed miscarriage 2/10 - 6wks miscarriage 8/10 - 9wks miscarriage - chromosomal abnormalities 7/11 - 8wks Last period 10/18 IUI #3 10/29 BFP 11/12
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