If yours will be ~18 mo apart

raceyrae · July 2009

When did you start talking to DC#1 about DC#2 joining the family? I feel DD is too young to really understand right now and wonder if she'll be able to comprehend before she actually sees DD#2 at home. I'm not sure if I should start talking about it anyways.

JARbaby · July 2009

18m2w apart. I talked to her about it all the time...she did not have a clue until she came to the hospital.

Nanna · July 2009

I'm certain Kermie has ZERO concept of how his life is about to change. ?But, we do talk about the baby and how he will be a big brother. ?He will point to my belly and say baby, and we read books about being a brother. ?But I know he has no clue that his world is about to get seriously rocked. ?I figure at least by talking about it, once the baby comes home it might help him a little bit.

punkfiction · July 2009

JARbaby:
18m2w apart. I talked to her about it all the time...she did not have a clue until she came to the hospital.

this. and mine were 19.5 months apart.

HarrietNJMommy · July 2009

I talked about it maybe 2 months before the baby came (both times - for DD#2 and for DS).

qtiekiki · July 2009

DD and baby #2 will be almost exactly 18 mo apart. I think I'll start telling her about the baby when my belly starts to get bigger, but she probably won't understand it.

Mama Jan · July 2009

We started talking about it right away and when we learned that DS2 was a boy we started calling him by name. When DS1 started noticing my belly, we would talk about the baby (or "baby Asher") in my tummy and how in a few weeks/months/days he was going to come live with us.

When DS1 met DS2 for the first time, we said "This is baby Asher." From then on, he never said baby Asher was in my tummy, he has pointed right to the baby each time. He totally gets it, but of course he does not realize how much this will change his life.

TulipsOnTuesday · July 2009

Mine will be seventeen months apart and I've been wondering the same thing... I'm assuming we'll start talking about the baby when my belly gets bigger and start to call him/her by name (or at least "baby brother" or "baby sister") when we find out what we're having...

jennmichael · July 2009

i put a doll in the infant car seat about 2 months before and just let it sit there for the first day or so. then i started to talk about it. every now and then i gave it a pacifier, pretend to feed it with a bottle. rock it. if we were watching tv i would sit on the couch with ds and hold the doll. not all the time but every now and then. the car seat stayed in the living room for the entire two months just up until a week before i was due. then i just had the doll in a doll stroller and did the same things. i asked ds do you want to feed the baby. or i think i hear the baby crying etc. then when we brought the baby home from the hospital in the car seat it was a familiar image.

lvisser · July 2009

Mine will be around 16 months apart... I really don't think Rylee has a clue about what is going on... I show her my belly and tell her that baby Kai/Brother is in there, but she just pokes at my belly button... I have tried to have her feel him, but he rolls more then kicks, so I don't think knows what going on their either...

turkishdelight · July 2009

We talk about it. But he totally doesn't understand. He's too little.

lynnbeez · July 2009

I talk to her often about her baby sister. A time I always bring it up is when we see a baby in public or at a friend's house. We talk about the baby and I tell her I'm making her one, all her own. We will put up the swing and the latch car seat system early so the things are familar. I also play, rock, and hold a baby doll and we talk about it. I agree that they won't understand how much their life will change, but I think its good to get their brain working on the concept of a sibling.

mrs.MC&mr.JC · July 2009

we started talking to DD about "brother" about 2 months ago when my belly really started to get bigger...she understood that brother was in my belly - each morning she would give him a kiss, do "nice" to brother and give him kisses...she came to the hospital each day and we told her that that was brother - we were surprised that she did not try to lift my shirt to give brother a kiss but understood that the new crying baby was brother. you could see in my sig pic that she loves her brother and gives him hugs and kisses all the time!

howleyshell · July 2009

17 months here.

Once I had a visible belly.

Read all the big brother books, etc.

He didn't get it until we brought the baby home.

Even then he seemed kinda clueless....

That's one of the great things about having them this close.

No jealousy at all. It didn't impact the toddler anywhere near as much as I thought it would.

unc00ref · July 2009

Hey Racey! You know B&C are 18 months apart. I talked to Brooks about it a lot hoping to prepare him. He would tell me that sister was in my belly, etc. But he didn't really truly get it until she was here.

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