Baby Daddy acting strange

Re: Baby Daddy acting strange

• engaged678 member

  July 2009

  oh honey, it's normal for them to panic. This is totallly foreign and scary for everyone and he's probably terrified. If you weren't trying especially.  Give him some time to absorb things and don't close off the lines of communication. He'll get into it.

  GL!
  

  

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• aegrimm member

  July 2009

  Is it normal for him to be scared and freaked out and want to spend time with his friends? Yes. Calling the ex-girlfriend? No.

  I think you two have quite a lot to talk about. (((HUGS))) Hope all turns out well. Hopefully he's just scared and will snap out of it soon. But you need to be ready for the possibility that he won't. I know that sounds very mean and harsh....I just want you to be prepared.

  Good luck!

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• Califlorida member

  July 2009

  i'm sorry you're going through this.  he's gonna deal with this however he can and there's not much you can do to push him to accept it faster.  but follow your instincts.  and keep your friends and family around to support you in case he's just not ever gonna be ready.  i hate even saying that, because obviously all of us would want the best possible outcome for you and your baby. gl (((hugs)))
  

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• JessyBrooke

  July 2009

  Um...people respond to things in different ways.  I would give him time to adjust and (like pp mentioned) keep lines of communication open.  I don't know how I would feel about him calling his ex, though...and that's a whole other issue that you may have to talk about. 

  Good luck, hon.  I hope it all works out for you and the little one. 

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• jellybean210

  July 2009

  thank you all so much! i have tried talking to him, but have gotten no where. i guess all i can do is keep trying, and hope he comes around, if not, im perfectly fine doing this on my own, id do anything for my baby.

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• Bonzai!

  July 2009

  jellybean210:

  thank you all so much! i have tried talking to him, but have gotten no where. i guess all i can do is keep trying, and hope he comes around, if not, im perfectly fine doing this on my own, id do anything for my baby.

  Absolutely the right kind of attitude you want to have.

  Your baby is lucky to have a resilient mama! Put up with no bullsh*t!
  

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• Anna&Matt member

  July 2009

  aegrimm:

  Is it normal for him to be scared and freaked out and want to spend time with his friends? Yes. Calling the ex-girlfriend? No.

  I think you two have quite a lot to talk about. (((HUGS))) Hope all turns out well. Hopefully he's just scared and will snap out of it soon. But you need to be ready for the possibility that he won't. I know that sounds very mean and harsh....I just want you to be prepared.

  Good luck!

  I've got agree with aegrimm. They all freak out a little bit - I know my DH did even though we tried for a year and had 3 losses during that time. Now that it's real he's a little nervous/overprotective but he would NEVER call his ex-gf. It would be one thing if they were still close but it sounds like they're not, I suggest sitting down and talking to him when you guys aren't all worked up. Explain your feelings, get him to talk about his and see what happens. GL!
  

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• Kim B.

  July 2009

  Bonzai!:

  jellybean210:

  thank you all so much! i have tried talking to him, but have gotten no where. i guess all i can do is keep trying, and hope he comes around, if not, im perfectly fine doing this on my own, id do anything for my baby.

  Absolutely the right kind of attitude you want to have.

  Your baby is lucky to have a resilient mama! Put up with no bullsh*t!
  

  This! 
  

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• britbraswell88 member

  July 2009

  Mine has had his moments of acting strange... He acts weird when i try to make him feel her kick. And he doesnt talk about how excited he is like i do.. But they aren't the ones carrying it.. We get a chance to bond with our baby before they do... Just think about when he finally sees the baby and how in love he will be. Sometimes that is all it takes : ) He was afraid when we first found out too... And i was happier than ever lol. So give him time to adjust. Im sure everything will work out just fine.

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• merc1604 member

  July 2009

  I agree with "aegrimm".  It is normal to want to spend time with his buddies cuz he could be just freaking out and hanging out with the guys is usually a stress relief.  Calling the ex- , esp. since they haven't really been communicating, is a red flag.  Yes...you two do have a lot to talk about.  A suggestion would be somewhere calm or a place where the other cannot escape, meaning him....My heart goes out to you.  Be strong and good luck to you girl.   

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