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DavezWife
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A POLL of sorts... Should I do it?
DavezWife
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I've ALWAYS wanted to get a tattoo. I've stood in line. Twice. Being the polite and curteous one I am (snort) I let me friends go 1st.
So the shop could close and I would not get the chance to get my ink. (snort again)
So once I sobered up and left my 20's, I still always wanted to get a tattoo.
Just don't know what to get now.
I DO know that I want something that REALLY means something. It does not have to be the recipe to cure cancer. Just important to me. Not huge. Not a tiny 4 leaf clover. Something.
Lately it's been something pertaining to my own struggles with loosing these pregnancies. Although I still emotionally "discount" the ones that happened right away (it's called dis-association, I'm sure) I still cherish all five, especially these past two that made it further than moments.
The point? sorry...
The best thing I can come up with is the celtic symbol for MOTHERHOOD. I'm all Irish, and identify with my heritage a great deal, so this makes sense.
oops, here: 
I found a pretty good pik of what version I like, but would want it tweeked a bit. I would like 3 dots kinda hidden in the "lines", just shadows b/c they were really early losses, and 2 other dots a bit darker, more visible. (maybe one dot and then "13" for Trisomy 13 Harvey?)
I was thinking of putting a star or moon for Ava. And perhaps adding more dots for any future kids I have, (god willing) without it turning into a connect the dot game.
So with that....
DO I WANT TO GET A TATTOO?
THIS ONE?
WHERE?
(I will not get it on my back/shoulder, foot, ankle or upper arm area. )
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Re: A POLL of sorts... Should I do it?
I don't know how you feel...I haven't had losses, so take what I say with a grain of salt.
I have a tattoo...and I hate it. I will be getting it removed after the baby arrives. It will suit me if she never knows I had it...but that's just me. I got it when I was 19, it symbolizes nothing...I just thought it was pretty...so maybe I'm not the best person to answer this question.
If you do get it, I would suggest getting it in a place where you don't have to look at it everyday. That is super, super important, at least to me. If I had to look at mine everyday, I would have had it removed already...
Hmmm I can't answer objectively and it's really a personal decision for you. Some questions that come to mind...
No need to answer - just things to consdider -
IF (heaven forbid) you needed to add additional dots, would that send you into a darker place or would it be okay in your heart because you were commemorating?
If you decide not to get the tatoo, is there a place where you could have a really cool piece of custom jewelery made in a similar symbol? (Easier to find a place to put it. lol!)
I have zero tattoos, so I also may not be the right person to answer this. I'm too finicky to pick a place to put it and I know for a fact there is nothing I'd want to live with on my body forevs. So that said, my SIL has 3 and is having all 3 removed with pretty painful, expensive laser treatments.
So maybe if you do get one, just get one that is small and simple and can be branched off so you can extend it if you do find you love it, but still small enough so that you can hide it easily if you hate it. Ya know?
Is it something you want people to see or is it just for you? If it's just for you put it somewhere only you and Davez can see it. (Lower bikini area perhaps? Near where they lived for however long.)
I am just LOVING the custom jewelry idea - thanks Reems! I think that would actually make a pretty pendant, maybe a bit smaller than what it is in the pik... I would have little silver balls for some, maybe tiny diamonds or something for the later losses... a birthstone for Ava (and other kids...)
I'm seriously crying... this is SOOOOOO much less painful of an idea than a tattoo!!!!! SNIFF!!! thanks!!
OK, so what ideas do you have for the pendant? we head to mexico this next week, and it's kinda my "cathartic move on now" trip.... I would love to give a local artisan the job if we could work it out!
yeah yeah yea Reemss!!!!!!!!!!!! best idea EVERY!
I'm not really a tattoo person (gave my sister a hard time about her lower back tattoo) but I understand your idea and the design is lovely.
I'm not even sure where you would put it. I was thinking your ankle or chest but you don't want it on your ankle and I don't know if something representing motherhood should be on your hip (?). You could put it somewhere in your stomach region?
If you decide you want to do something "fancier" here's a referral for an awesome local jeweler. I know this isn't what you meant, but considering you are talking gemstones, this might be the way to go.
van?guilders3922 W 50th St # 104
Edina, MN 55424-1255
(952) 920-6907??
Megan Hope 2yrs 3months
Unsolicited advice from someone with 2 losses:
WAIT.
Not saying don't get it. Just saying wait a while and see if you still want THIS tat in another year or 2.
It's permanent.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
I've got to admit, I think it's a great idea. I did a butterfly (from the Josh Grobin song lullaby, yada, yada, yada) for my first loss and will go back to have it updated with the other wouldve-been birthstones and Psalm 30:5(not sure if you're religious). I also have angel wings for a dear friends teenage son, she is like a mom to me, so this is how I remember my "brother". I'll get something for Grant, maybe his birthdate and time or something, and if I ever have another m/c I'll get those ones memorialized too. It has to be for you, for no one else. I carry those babies with me everyday, that is what it means to me.
Jewelry is cool, too:)
I have 3 tattoos, I got my first (a claddaugh) when I was 24, my second (a HUGE phoenix on my back) when I was 27 and my last one is a ring of shamrocks around my ankle, I got that when I was about 28 (I am 33 now). I honestly do not regret any of them. I LOVE the symbol idea. I think that would look really good on your lower back. Here are my 2 cents. If you do it, and a tattoo seems to be something you have wanted for awhile, not just a fad, put it in a place that you can show it and hide it. I would say to get the celtic symbol itself and think about the symbols for the losses for awhile, you can always add to it later. I think the smbolism is beautiful though, I think it is really tacky when people have tattoos with names and dates on them, but the symbols are a nice idea. My husband is getting a tattoo of a tugboat going off into the sunset to represent his father, and the boat will have SS LInda written on the side of it, I think this is a really sweet way to remember his parents.
Good Luck with whatever you decide
While I have one tat that I got a long time ago and still love, I would go for a pendant. I would also use a local artist. You mention potentially adding to it in the future and it would be more easily done if the artist were in your hometown/area. Plus, it might take longer than a week to get done what you would like.
thanks Mel, I'll check them out, and I know of one in Excelsior that made my great grams center stone into a pendant too for my wedding. (her ring is one of my 3 wedding rings)
While I still love the idea of a tattoo, I always have, I think this particular design belongs on a special necklace.
Maybe I'll get those LIPS on my arse like I planned on in 1993.... lol....
After 7 years trying to concieve, 3 failed IUIs and 2 failed IVFs, my third IVF was a success!
My Christmas baby turned into a turkey bird! Dillon Richard was born at 34 weeks, 5 days on November 28, 2009 after 10 weeks on bedrest for preeclampsia.
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I like both ideas. I am thinking about getting a tat to symbolize our journey through IF. I have one that I got when I was 18. It didn't really mean anything but I went with my Dad to get it so that part means something. It is on my lower back.
My Dad wants to get a tattoo of Eli's footprint from when he was born. They aren't for everyone though.
If you still think you want a tattoo, get someone to draw it on you with a marker and look at it for a few days. This helped me with placement and colour when I got mine (2).
I think the symbol would make a beautiful pendant though.