S/O Cheating- if you found out your DH cheated

Garnetbaby09 · July 2009

do you think you would divorce him? Try and work it out?

I would hate him for a long time but would defintely try and work it out. Of course I say that now and have no idea how I would feel should it happen. My ex cheated with another guy so that was a completely different set of emotions, I think.

MamaMyers22 · July 2009

There are 3 other people in our relationship to consider, so I would try and work it out.

At least in the end if you couldn't make it work, you could look back and feel good about the decision to leave and know in your heart that you at least tried.

SeasideBride06 · July 2009

We had this convo. on the AL board a few weeks ago. Personally, it would be a definite divorce for me. I truly could not spend every moment for the rest of my life worrying about where he was, who he was with, etc. That is just not the way I would want to live. Also, we dated for 7 years and waited to have sex until our wedding night. I don't know if I could handle him betraying something so sacred to me.

BeachBride2007 · July 2009

I really have no idea, before DS i would have said DIVORCE, but now I feel its a whole different ball game.

khagan9368 · July 2009

Simple answer is I am now going to be a single mom :-(

britti<3 · July 2009

I would want to try to work it out but I honestly don't think I could forgive him.

goldenprincess · July 2009

considering we have LO's toghether, i would try to work it out. If I caught him a second time, that would be it .

kada626 · July 2009

I'm pretty sure it would be divorce for me. I wouldn't be able to get over it.

PlannedChaos · July 2009

khagan9368:
Simple answer is I am now going to be a single mom :-(

Wait - is this hypothetical or actual?

Mrs.Leah.Maria · July 2009

We would definitely try to work it out, considering I grew up in a divorced home and know it's effects.Our relationship is worth at least trying for!

MikesFavoriteWife · July 2009

I don't know what I would do. Of course I would want to try to work it out because of DD. I also know though that I'm the type of person that has a hard time forgiving and forgetting something like that. I have been cheated on before (not by DH, before him). I think a part of me would always resent him if he ever did a thing like that. In which case it would be better off to divorce him. I wouldn't my DD to be raised in the middle of that. KWIM?

Gramyson · July 2009

before we had L, i would have left him in a heartbeat.

now, i would just leave him slowly.

mm&cc · July 2009

Honestly, I just don't know. My son's dad cheated on me multiple times, so I ended up being a single mom for 8 years. It was absolutely one of the best decisions I made for me and DS.

With DH, I really don't know. He is a completely different guy than my son's father is, so I would imagine that I would try to work things out before throwing in the towel. Like mamamyers said, there are also two other individuals involved, so I'd have to consider that. DH is my son's father in every way but biologically. I just couldn't imagine him doing that. IDK.

GASuzuki · July 2009

It'd be a "Hit the road, ass" thing for me... I wish I could say otherwise, but after my mom went through it with my dad, I would have to say that it helped me understand what not to take from a husband. I would never want my daughter to think it would be okay for her to be married to a cheater, or even date one, for that matter... Here's hoping none of us ever has to deal with this.

mm&cc · July 2009

khagan9368:
Simple answer is I am now going to be a single mom :-(

((hugs))

mommy411 · July 2009

IDK depends on circumstance.I would first rip his balls off, then shove them down his throat!

AngieandTony · July 2009

i think it would depend on so many factors. my dad was a serial cheater on my mom and she stayed with him and he eventually left her high and dry and i would not be as forgiving as she was. I think if he was remorseful and willing to 1) end the affair and 2) seek individual and marital counseling then i would probably see those through and see what happens.