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My sister sucks: NBR Vent

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My sister and I have always had a bit of a love/hate relationship.  She thinks my mom hangs the moon and I am super close with our dad.  She had us over this past weekend for a 4th of July bbq and it was the first time I saw my mom in almost 2 years.  DH was not there as he and my mom really dislike each other (main reason mom and I stopped talking) but I tried to enjoy myself since it was also the 1st time that DD had seen my mom in 2 years.I thought the bbq was fun, we all had a good time with no bloodshed, so I thanked my sister and said goodbye and left after several hours. 

 

Yesterday, after talking to my dad, I find out that my sister has been bad mouthing me to my brother, my mother and my father.  WTF???  She is saying that I think to highly of DD and that I brag about her accomplishments (guests at the BBQ asked me about how she did in Kindergarten and I answered).  She also had the nerve to call me irresponsible regarding her health (DD had an allergic reaction a few weeks back) and her teeth (I can't even get into this one).   And it's not just her, it's my BIL too.  I'm at a loss because I'm so sick of the fighting and the backstabbing and the namecalling.  I seriously want to blow up at her, but a part of me doesn't need the stress.  I'm so over her and her attitude...I just needed to vent.  Thanks!

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Re: My sister sucks: NBR Vent

  • CalinsBrideCalinsBride
    How is it possible to think too highly of your child?  Why do some people always feel the need to stir up drama and cause problems? Sorry your sister was being such a brat :(
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  • Becky262Becky262

    I wouldn't say anything.  Sounds to me like your dad is just trying to stir the pot and I'd ignore any gossip/drama that he feels like dumping on you.

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  • kaustinkaustin
    I would ask your dad not to tell you when your sister badmouths you.  There is no reason for you to know about that and all it does is cause stress and drama.  That is just my $.02
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  • sweetyface77sweetyface77 member

    imagekaustin:
    I would ask your dad not to tell you when your sister badmouths you.  There is no reason for you to know about that and all it does is cause stress and drama.  That is just my $.02

    The funny thing is I was thinking the same thing.  It wouldn't bother me if he kept if from me.  I feel all bent out of shape when I hear that she's shooting off her mouth like this and frankly it's not worth it for me to know.

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    imageBecky262:

    I wouldn't say anything.  Sounds to me like your dad is just trying to stir the pot and I'd ignore any gossip/drama that he feels like dumping on you.

    No, my dad isn't like that.  He's a real people pleaser when it comes to me and my two siblings.  He was upset and blurted it out because it's not the first time that my sister has done this and he felt bad not having stuck up for me.  I do admit that I wish he hadn't said anything. 

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  • RD'sgirlRD'sgirl member
    imagesweetyface77:

    imagekaustin:
    I would ask your dad not to tell you when your sister badmouths you.  There is no reason for you to know about that and all it does is cause stress and drama.  That is just my $.02

    The funny thing is I was thinking the same thing.  It wouldn't bother me if he kept if from me.  I feel all bent out of shape when I hear that she's shooting off her mouth like this and frankly it's not worth it for me to know.

    This.  I know how hard it is to ignore the badmouthing, especially when it's not true and all you want to do is defend yourself.  It is VERY difficult to be the bigger person in these situations but even if you did respond to her it would not improve things at all.  Ignore her and tell your father that you don't want to know if she says anything bad about you.

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  • Kendall13Kendall13

    I agree with PP.  Your dad shouldn't have said anything.  He only hurt you in the process and further damaged your relationship with your sister.  He should have handled the issue directly with your sister.

    My mom says things about my sister's kids, but I would never go to her and say, "My mom thinks that your kids are a hot mess."  It's just rude... and why would I share that especially when I don't agree?

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  • meg1974meg1974 member
    I'm sorry you're going through this, esp. when you're pregnant and need to reduce stress. If it makes you feel any better, I'm going through some drama with my sister right now too. Everything is about her, and all she does is sit around and feel sorry for herself, blaming everything that goes wrong in her life (and all of her bad choices) on other people.


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