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miss_beckman
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NBR: dress vent-
miss_beckman
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I could be being very childish about this and I am willing to accept that.
My wedding dress is pink. and EVERYONE in my family knows that. My aunt decided that she was going to wear a pink dress to the wedding too. This dress that she has shown me (something she's had in her closet for years!) It's awful. (Maybe that's just my taste?) but I have a picture of the patterns/color of it and I cringe looking at it. Not only is this dress ugly, It's not flattering on her at all -and it's see thru. I know I'd be selfish saying that I don't want her in a pink dress because I am and I very well could be. Because reguardless of getting flamed for being selfish on this, Im still not going to want her in this dress. Any advice on how to tell her that? on how to let her down easy?
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Re: NBR: dress vent-
I would not worry about it all. You really have no right to tell people what they can wear to your wedding. It's not like she's showing up in a full wedding dress.
She thought about wearing hers because mine isn't traditional. (She does like attention on her too I guess is why it's really putting me over the edge) but I understand I can't really dictate what she wears.
If its hideous, there is no way anyone will be comparing you to her! and,even if it wasn't, I'm sure no one will say anything. Are there any pictures where she willbe in them (professional pics that is?) if so, make sure she is way way way far out!
It'll be fine, honestly. I wouldn't worry about it. Who knows, she might show up with a differentdress on that day!
You have every right and should NOT feel guilty about asking her not to wear it.
YOU are the bride and anyone in thier right mind knows better than to upstage the bride!
I would just ask her how she would have felt if someone wore a white dress, or matched her when she was getting married. Reminding people that they went throught the same thing usually helps.
If that doesn't work try recruiting some others to help talk to her, or maybe even hide the dress!
Yes. And she's one of the 2 aunts that I am closest with so it makes it tough to "put her out"
Maybe Im just over stressed with the wedding being so close and am putting this too far out of proportion.-uggg. I need a coffee.
I'd talk with the photographer. If he is a good one, they can figure out how to pose people to minimize her dress! = ) my photographer was a lifesaver in so many ways (i forgot my slip, so I ended up stepping on the front of my dress as we were walking up the stairs, and he just whisked my dress away and made it look like he had to do it for part of the pictures!!) I'd even give the photographer a heads up a few days ahead!!
For reals? Come on, yes the bride is the belle of the ball and everything, but the day is about a marriage, not about a dress. When other people choose to do tacky things, it's best just to let them makes an ass out of themselves- what does she gain by waging a battle with her aunt and getting all up in arms and stressed out about something she is going to look back and laugh about in, oh, about six months?
Yes it is about marriage but it is also the bride's DAY. She gets to dictate everything because it is HER day. If people don't like it then they can just GET OVER IT. She isn't trying to stop "people" from doing tacky things she is trying to stop her aunt from wearing an ugly pink dress because SHE is in a pink colored dress. How would you like someone else in your wedding photos to have the same colored dress on as you? It isn't like a random guest its her AUNT. If she feels like she will resent that then let her tell her aunt she doesn't approve.
If it honestly upsets you and you are that close with her, then just talk to her. You can say that you would really prefer that nobody wear pink and offer to go shopping with her- spend the day together and help her pick out something that looks good on her. Maybe if you are that close with her you can tell her that you want her to look fabulous and that you'd love to help her find the perfect dress? Usually honesty really is the best policy- without being harsh!
*Keep in mind though....other guests may show up in pink!