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2nd Trimester
voelkels
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Why we HATE weight gain posts...
voelkels
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You will either make everyone pissed by making them focus on how much they have gained, or if someone hasn't gained much you will make them worry that something is wrong.
Since I carry my weight well to everyone else, I could probably get away with lying, but scales don't lie!
I have gained almost 40 pounds (at 22 weeks)! I hate it! I feel gross, but no one else can tell that it nearly that much. That does not mean that I want to be reminded of it by someone whining about some few pounds they gained!
WEIGHT POSTS SUCK!
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Re: Why we HATE weight gain posts...
I refuse to weigh myself at home, and I close my eyes when I get on the scale at the office. The last time I saw my weight at the office they took my bp right after, and it was pretty high (both weight and bp). So I decided to do myself a favor and just not worry about it. My clothes are still fitting okay in non-pg areas and aside from headaches I feel pretty good.
But if anyone asked me how much I weigh or how much I;ve gained, I may still very well throat punch them.
I don't think it's about the site being negative, I think it's about remembering that every pregnant women goes through things differently and something as sensitive as weight is one of those. ?Usually it's just best to stay away from the topic all together.
agreed. obviously weight is a sensitive issue for you and maybe many others, but that doesn't mean people can't voice their concerns. Just skip the weight gain posts then if they bother you so much.
I think the key thing to remember is that everyone is different and nobody on the internet knows if your weight gain is good/bad/neutral - you've got to talk to your doctor about that. So posting about weight here just makes other people feel worried or guilty depending on how much weight they've gained. Or annoyed if it's the sixth weight post in the last ten minutes.
Weight gain posts dont bother me, I'm just thinking that someone just posted about their weight gain a few posts back....now a post is titled Why we hate weight gain posts. I just feel sorry for the person who posted the message about gaining weight. Not trying to cause conflict in any way.
I didn't see the other weight gain post. Weight doesn't bother me one bit...I know Ill gain it and when the baby comes i'll lose it again. Some don't feel that way and so if they need to voice their concern that is their right. I just don't understand why when someone sees a weight post titled "weight" or something like it that they just dont' skip over it. Dont open it and let those who aren't so bothered by it read it then. No harm done, as i'm sure the poster of this post didnt' intend to hurt anyone. that's all.
I hate constant weight gain posts.
Almost as much as I hate posts that complain about weight gain posts.
My baby is two!!! Baby girl 9/17/09
My other baby is still a baby! Baby Boy 11-30-11
I think anything that is a big concern for people in the second trimester that they may need support for is perfect for this board. If you don't like it, don't read it. Just because other people might have gained more or less than you doesn't mean that you can't be concerned about your own gain or loss or want support about it, or even just have questions to see if your feelings are normal.
What sucks is posts like this telling people what they should and shouldn't post about, trying to make others feel bad. I personally have always struggled with weight/self esteem related illness, and being pregnant has been extremely emotionally hard on me. It makes me feel better to know that I'm not alone, that others have the same concerns, and if I didn't want to read the posts, I WOULDN'T READ THEM. Nothing irks me more than bitter, snarky people who think they have the right to tell other people what to do, what to be concerned about, and what to post about.
I 100% agree with you voelkels!
I have always been self conscious about my weight, being pregnant is making things worse (even though i am not overweight -- yet --) i don't even open posts about weight gain anymore..
This attitude could apply to about 95% of the posts on thebump as a whole.
This is the 2nd tri board. If it's a 2nd tri concern, it should be posted here. There are NO original posts here, they have all been asked a million times, by women who have been and will be going through the exact same things during these months. There will always be posts that appear a lot, that's just the nature of the board. Stay away from the posts that bother you, seriously, how hard is that?
While I can see your point, weight gain is a huge part of being pregnant and I don't think anyone should be made to feel dumb for posting about it. If we can't talk about it here, where can we? We should be able to come to this board and talk about anything that's bothering us or an issue with us pregnancy-wise, at least.
My take on it: If you see that the post is about weight and you are tired of reading weight posts, skip it. Easy as that.
This, especially the last sentence. Yes, I know that I don't have to read the posts, but it is still annoying to sift through them.
I'm sorry, but this post about hating weight gain posts would have been a lot more convincing if it didn't end with...yet another weight gain post:
I can see both sides, though. Those who know weight posts are "triggers" for them should definitely stay away from them. But anyone should post anything they want (related to pregnancy) on this message board.
...and yet, you just made a weight post.
Eh, it really doesn't bother me all that much, actually - not much really does bother me in general. I just understand why it bothers other people. I do try to respond to weight posts if I have something relevant to share. In cases where a poster is worried about the health of her baby due to weight gain/lack of weight gain, there's not really much that any of us can say to help.
Well said date twin!
On one side I am curious who gained what, since it's a normal part of pregnancy, but on the other I know that I would worry if I gained too much or to little.
Please speak for yourself. I dont mind them at all.. i think it's an important issue and if you hate it so much dont open them and dont post about how much you hate them.
Wow, insecure much? I wasn't aware there were "rules" we had to follow on this board that included weight gain posts. If they get you in this much of a tizzy, then maybe, just maybe, you should skip them. Can't be good for your blood pressure. And last time I checked, not everything on this board is "uplifting." It's posts like this one that make people feel down about themselves.
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This one made me giggle.
I don't care one way or the other. Everyone's concerns are different. There will always be some kind of perceived failure, something someone will feel judged about, etc. If it makes someone feel better to vent about weight gain, or lack thereof, then power to them.
I've been here for like, 2 weeks, and there are plenty of annoying posts - just like in first tri. FFS, ignore them. One thing I've noticed in my 2 weeks of posting and three-four of lurking is that the OP of this post is bothered by a lot of things. And thinks that her preferences should be applied to everyone.
I get tired of constant gender announcements. So I skip them. Weight gain is a legitimate concern of pregnancy and people have every right to discuss it. If you feel bad, that's on you. Just pass over the posts, and no big deal.
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This is exactly what I was thinking. It's a message board--topics will be repeated as they are on any message board on the internet. For pregnant women, weight gain is an issue some need to talk about. If you don't want to talk about it, or read about it, then don't. Those who don't mind discussing it can respond. I'm not sure what the big deal is? And why complain about weight gain posts by posting about your own weight gain? Isn't that what you were just trying to stop?
This, exactly.
Wow, we are all pregnant on these boards and will all gain weight (thats the way it happens so we have HEALTHY babies). At 34 weeks I have gained 30 pounds, and while I hate the extra load, I know its baby related and I can take it off once she arrives. Chill out people, its a natural part of life. I would gain 200 pounds if I knew it would help out my DD. People who rant about weight posts need to put things into perspective.
That's all.