Feelings on "Dress Code"

cherrykat · July 2009

In your honest opinion, how would you feel if you received a co-ed baby shower invitation and there was a dress code listed? What do you mean this says? How would you or your husband dress? There is a debate whether or not to leave this off.

The co-ed shower will be from 4pm - 8pm in August, outdoors in a courtyard.

The wording says:

As a surprise for the new parents-to-be, a professional photographer will be present to capture the special memories of this event. We invite you to wear your summer best and join us in this momentous occasion.

DiscusCoach · July 2009

Honestly - I would be glad they said something. I would be embarassed if I showed up and was wearing the wrong thing. I would imagine someone might do this if they were having it at a specific restaurant that people weren't familiar with.

tnpjuly04 · July 2009

D-U-H. They sound pretentious. And I can be pretentious, believe me.

cherrykat · July 2009

tnpjuly04:

D-U-H. They sound pretentious. And I can be pretentious, believe me.

Would you feel offended at all... and not want to go?

EastCoastBride · July 2009

What's there to be offended about? To me, it sounds like they want the guests to look their best so that the GUESTS feel good about having their picture taken.

ETA: I dont' see this as a "dress code" as much as a heads up to what is going on and a SUGGESTION on how you may want to dress.

LizzieA · July 2009

i would by no means be "offended"...

and quite honestly be glad they said something... (as pp stated)... because otherwise an outdoor august event could mean something very casual in my mind (and i'd be sooo embarassed showing up in shorts and a tank or something like that...). but since they said something, and since there will be a professional photographer - i think it's actually worded quite nicely.

Sarah Vandehey · July 2009

I think they way it's worded sounds good, so I don't find it offensive at all. I think it sounds good.

deltagirl79 · July 2009

I agree with pp. I wouldn't want to show up underdressed and would appriciate the heads up. It doesn't say you have to dress up but that you are invited to.

powerbar · July 2009

I think it is fine too, on all fronts.

RachandJer · July 2009

EastCoastBride:

What's there to be offended about? To me, it sounds like they want the guests to look their best so that the GUESTS feel good about having their picture taken.

ETA: I dont' see this as a "dress code" as much as a heads up to what is going on and a SUGGESTION on how you may want to dress.

I agree with this.

HerHighness · July 2009

It doesnt offend me one bit.

......but I dont think Id wear jeans or sweats anyways. Some people would so it needs to be said. My host had to include "no jeans" on my wedding shower invites because it was being held at a club that didnt allow them. Nobody was offended.

avbliss · July 2009

I think that's wonderful! I'm always wondering how formal or casual a shower is going to be, and usually end up going with the wrong thing. This is not only not offensive, but courteous.

rebeccaontherocks · July 2009

I think the wording that you have sounds very well put, and doesn't come across as a dress code. I like it.

At1stsight · July 2009

I think it sounds just fine as it is. You're not dictating/demanding what people have to wear; you're giving them the heads up and why.

I would think it was weird to have a dress code for a baby shower if I didn't know why, but I'd have no problems with this on the invitation at all.

seniah_05 · July 2009

I'd be relieved - this wording would change my attire from a skorts or capris to a sundress for sure.

And as a side note - (though this was a bridal shower) - picture this: surprise shower in a banquet room, guest of honor shows up in jeans because she was told they were stopping in to check out the room for the rehearsal dinner. Everyone else is in dresses. Surprise shower Fail.

star678 · July 2009

I would be appreciative that something was suggested as sometimes it's hard to know what to wear to these types of things. It's not worded offensively at all.

julia&jared · July 2009

Sounds fine to me.

northtamarack · July 2009

By all means, put this ON the invite! It is very nicely worded and I would be greatful as this photo will prolly be displayed for a long time to come.

I would wear a fun summer dress, and I'd have DH wear some sort of a khaki bottoms (pants or shorts, depending on weather) and a nice polo or other dressy shirt.

hellopoppyseed · July 2009

I would have a blast making fun of them with my husband around the house until the day of the shower interpreting "summer best" in all sorts of wacky ways. But we are nerds over here. Then I would be excited to go and see what other people wore.

kmtfu · July 2009

obv i'm in the minority here but while i wouldn't be Offended, i would think the statement was weird. i mean, aren't pictures normally taken at these things?!? granted, not normally by a Pro Photog but still. what do you expect people to wear if you Don't say that vs if you Do? i know i certainly wouldn't dress any differently regardless-- esp since it's outdoors in the dead of summer! so while i wouldn't find it offensive, i would think twice about attending but i hate my picture taken...

redhead712771 · July 2009

I agree. I would want to know they will be taking pictures of me so I can look nicer.

Evelynsmom · July 2009

I think it was stated in a very nice way. I would want a heads up and not feel like an idiot wearing jeans or something.

weddedwife · July 2009

I would take this more as a suggestion than a 'dress code'. And I would appreciate the heads up too. I don't think it's off-putting at all. Besides, maybe it would encourage the people who usually show up in jeans and a t-shirt to do a little bit better

I would probably wear a sundress. DH would probably wear khakis or nice shorts w/ a button down, collared shirt.

TimingisEverything · July 2009

At first I thought Seriously? A dress code? But after reading the wording I don't really think it is a dress code. I would not be offended and would actually appreciate the heads up.

tnpjuly04 · July 2009

cherrykat:
tnpjuly04:

D-U-H. They sound pretentious. And I can be pretentious, believe me.

Would you feel offended at all... and not want to go?

No, I wouldn't be "offended" - and I would still go. I would't wear jeans to a baby shower anyway. So, I guess that the wording would be irrelevant to me. I have seen people dress what I would deem inappropriate to something, but if they want to dress that way, that's not my problem. And if people don't know how to dress (etiquette 101) for things, they should feel out of place.

See, totally pretentious !!!

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