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JillRock96
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Thanks, ladies. :)
JillRock96
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I just wanted to say thank you so much for all of the kind words and messages. I appreciate it so much. I am so grateful for the wonderful women on this board. When I need support, I know that I will find it here. I pink puffy heart you all. 
It does make me sad to know that so many women on this board and their husbands are dealing with a parent or parents with mental illness. It is such a hard thing to go through and can put a tremendous strain on you, physically and emotionally. I've considered seeing a counselor in the past for some of my unresolved issues surrounding my relationship with my mom (I have some anxiety issues, and lately stress has been taking its toll on me physically as well), and I think that this "event" may have been just the push that I needed. If anyone dealing with anything similar ever needs someone to talk to or just to vent to, please e-mail me. jillrock96 (at) verizon (dot) net.
Thank you so much -- (((BIG HUGS)))
Jill
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Re: Thanks, ladies. :)
I had to go back and catch up... the second I read BPD, my heart just sank. Having worked psych, and now in residential tx for eating disorders, I KNOW that illness well. Too well.
Part of me has a huge bit of compassion for people that get diagnosed with that, but the other part wants to stick a hot poker in my eye at just the thought of being around one.
To say these people are difficult to get along with is the understatement of the year. Am I right Jill?
I don't have any answers. I have yet to see any real medication miracles, although I am seeing more and more taking a mood-stabilizer AND 5-10mg of Abilify, which most are saying does help. (not Abilify on it's own, side-saddled with something else... depakote, lithium, whatever) Will she stay on meds?
I don't know how much you want to, or have, invested in learning how to work with your mom's "antics" but maybe you're familiar with the term "DBT"? Dialectal Behavioral Therapy.... basically it's teaching the person who has BPD how to talk one's self, how to gain insight (insight??? lol) and stuff like that. Learning the techniques myself give me the tools to help my patients when they can't help themselves. It's still banging my head against the wall though. The most frustrated part of BPD is the fact you consistantly take one step forward, and about 20 back.
;-(
You are one strong woman for going through this. I don't get a chance to "speak" with children of BPD folks much, so this is interesting to me. But I'm sorry you're going thru it, that's for sure!
Ditto everything Davez said, seriously my mom is a mess Bi-Polar with what I believe to be a case of undiagnosed Paranoid Schizophrenia.
I have heard of the Dialectal Behavioral Therapy not so sure how much it helps when you are child of a person with this disorder but it wouldn't hurt to look into it. For me counseling was great because it helped me to gain insight in how to handle the stress and also how to stand my ground with her when my mom went off the deep end.
Oh yes, Davezwife, "difficult to get along with" is an understatement. While I am so willing to help my mom in any way I can, unfortunately she does not think that there is any problem at all. She has quit multiple counseling attempts after one session, and she was medicated only once, very briefly -- and was only being medicated for depression. When and if she ever admits that she needs help, I'll be there. But until she gets to that point, there just isn't anything that I can do, you know?
And let me tell you -- as a child of someone with BPD, I could write a book. The stories that my sister and I could tell you! I don't think most people would believe half of them.
Let me guess she quit because she didn't like what the psychologist had to say and that they were wrong?
...and the doc was a quack who didn't know what they were talking about and just wanted her money ;-)
Oh Jill... Oh Tak.... I'm so sorry.
(Tak, ps, I see "bi-polar with psychotic features" a LOT, or "schizo affective" more than someone presenting with the two separate issues. Not that titles do anything, but sometimes having a spot on the map makes the road a little less bumpy, KWIM)
LO #1 - 1 unmedicated/self-monitored IUI w/ donor sperm.
LO #2 - 1 m/c, 2 BFNs, 4th IUI worked (unmedicated/self-monitored with new donor sperm).
Life is beautiful!
i'm so sorry as i missed your post. i hope that everything is okay and that you find some help dealing with all of this.
your little girl is gorgeous!