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Toddlers: 12 - 24 Months
howleyshell
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So what age IS it ok to give them beer?
howleyshell
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So the majority seemed to be in the "ok to let them have a sip so it's not "forbidden fruit" camp with the OP.
The majority is in the "hell NO!" to giving a sip to a toddler.
So... what's the magic age where it's OK to give your child beer?
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Our IF journey: 1 m/c, 1 IVF with only 3 eggs retrieved yielding Dylan and a lost twin, 1 shocker unmedicated BFP resulting in Jace, 3 more unmedicated pregnancies ending in more losses.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
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Re: So what age IS it ok to give them beer?
ITA with this!!
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Sips of beer like in the original post.
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Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.
I'm in the why should I ever give a child beer camp. So, never. They can buy their own when they're old enough.
DS had a sip of beer on his 1st birthday given by my dad. He was a mess afterwards.
Jesus drank. Jus sayin'.
Kidding! I respect your convictions.
Oh really, thanks for the lesson
I just had no idea 
Since my H and I don't drink beer and it's never in the house, Emerson will have to buy her own when she feels thirsty enough for one. lol-
We drink wine but, I'm not going to let her sip on it. I would say 16 and if she wants a small glass on a special occasion I *might* let her. We'll just have to see when we get to that point.
I'm probably in the minority here but I'm going to say never. Although some kids will hate the taste, some will love it. My grandpa thought it would be funny to give me a sip of his beer and I loved his beer so much that I stole part of a can he left sitting around and drank it. My parents found me behind the couch, pretty looped up at age 4.
I figure my kids can try alcohol when they decide they want to, which will probably be junior high or high school like it was with me. I grew up with friends' parents who were willing to provide alcohol in supervised situations and while it was cool at the time, several of those friends have grown up to develop serious drinking problems (including multiple DUIs and stints in rehab). While the parents aren't solely responsible for the end result, they provided access to the alcohol and enabled the behavior. If my child chooses to drink, I will not discipline him for doing so, but I will also not be providing the alcohol.
I am shocked by this...
here, you can get arrested for allowing under 21 yr old's to drink in your home
I dont see me giving them beer anytime before 18, and I surely wont EVER buy them beer...
This, especially in regards to toddlers. And here's my flameful opinion - people who give their toddlers beer "just to see the look on their face" are low-class and trashy. Why not give them a cig too, I bet that would look pretty funny.
Once DS is older........like, 12 or 13, he might be allowed sips of wine or whatever we happen to be drinking. I agree that I don't want him to grow up thinking that alcohol is some sort of forbidden fruit, but I also want him to understand that it is an adult beverage.
There's absolutely no way I would ever give my toddler ANY amount of alcohol. That being said - sips of alcohol when he's older will depend on his maturity level. I think I personaly would use it as a jumping point to discuss adult beverages/alcohol in general. It's hard to say what exact age I would do that at though. I can remember my dad giving me a sip of beer when I was like, 6 or 7 ... and honestly, I took sips of wine for communion every Sunday growing up ... so I don't really see what the big deal is at that age. Once I was in HS I was allowed to have a very small glass of champagne on New Years as well.
Then I got to college and all hell broke loose, lol.
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Ditto.
Ditto this... if the law changed to say, 18, then I would allow it at 18...
I couldn't fathom giving a 2 year old a sip of beer, and I'd kinda say you'd have to be f*ed in the head to do that. like really f*ed in the head to give a 2 yr old a sip of beer.
Maybe 8-12 for a sip, but probably not. Maybe 16. Never for a full beer and never for drinking until they are 21. I just don't condone underage drinking.
I'm totally late to the game here, but as the mother of a 16 year old, I have to say that I am LOLing at all the "I will never let my teenager have a drink." or "They won't have it until they're 21 responses.". If you don't think they're gonna sneak behind your back and do it, you need to get your head out of the sand.
Like I said in the OP about this, at my brother's wedding last July, I let my 15 year old daughter have the glass of champagne from the toast and later on, a glass of wine (she asked). She's going to try it at some point. I'd rather she does it in my company than with a bunch of idiot kids who get loaded and then do stupid shiit. I'm not saying I give her alcohol on a regular basis, I don't. Other than asking to try a sip of a Mike's Hard Lemondade at a BBQ last Labor Day, she hasn't asked or had any since. But she knows if she wants to try a sip of something, she can ask and I'll let her. If you make something forbidden, they are only going to want it more. I'm pretty sure most of you can see that with your toddlers already. It doesn't change at they get older. Trust me.
It's not about what they might do. It's what they will do with the approval of a parent.
Do I think that my son might one day try out the white wine in the fridge I use for cooking? It could happen. I'm not stupid.
But it will never ever happen that I put a glass in his hand and say "break the law." And should someone else put that glass in his hand, and I find out, that person will go to jail. Whether it's my best friend, my mother, or his best friend's mother. I don't care.
Kids don't need to drink. Seriously, no one NEEDS to drink. I won't teach my son how to drink any more than I will teach him to smoke. More to the point, I won't teach him to drink when he's not legally allowed anymore than I would teach him to run red lights, to shoplift or to kite checks.
And my head isn't in the sand. My head has also never been stuck in a bottle. I never drank in high school. My friends didn't drink. Kind of a defining aspect of being my friend at that point. My husband didn't drink as a kid, and his parents owned a bar, so it's not like he couldn't have found a way to get it if he wanted it.
As a step-mother of a 14 yr old I'm not quite to 16 yet but I can say fairly strongly that I doubt that we will be giving our teenager beer any time soon.
Our message is clear. ?Drinking at this age is not allowed, condoned, or accepted. ?The consequences will be swift and strong. ?When he's 16 and has keys to a car it will SERIOUSLY not be accepted. ?Will he do it anyway? ?Possibly. ?But he'll understand that it is not a good choice in our eyes. ?He needs to know that we believe it has the potential to interfere with his studies and more importantly his safety. ?I always want it in the back of his head that there's a better decision to be made.
He's tried beer on a vacation with his cousins on a cruise to Mexico. ?He's told us about it. ?He wasn't chastised... just asked how the experience was and what it was like to see his cousin so sick he didn't stop puking for hours.?
Maybe the big difference here is that we don't drink that often in our home or in front of our kids.
Perhaps those who have beer in the fridge on a regular basis view this differently from those who simply don't have alcohol as a regular part of their life style.?
Total score: 6 pregnancies, 5 losses, 2 amazing blessings that I'm thankful for every single day.