S/O staying over

young-mommy2B · July 2009

is your SO staying at the hospital? mine is not and they are not allowed to sleep over at our hospital. unless they take the chair... and sit up all night.

KacieLeigh · July 2009

Yes, he's staying. I don't think he'd WANT to leave either! He's only getting to stay home for like, 2 days before he needs to get back to work since it's harvest season. He's going to relish the time he gets with her!

aRBe · July 2009

He's staying... it seems to be the norm at our hospital... they have a bench/couch for the dads to crash on

rebus82 · July 2009

Absolutely. There is no way in hell I would try to take care of a newborn alone all night, especially when going through my own recovery. Nurses coming in once in a while do not replace a husband, who is an equal partner in raising the kid. Leaving the baby in the nursery is highly frowned upon at our hospital, not that I would do it anyway.?

Obviously if it's your hospital's policy I understand, or if there are other kids at home, but I can't fathom a SO not staying if he had no reason not to.?

kle+spd · July 2009

Heck yes he is! The chair folds out flat at our hospital! I know it won't be the most comfortable but he can deal!

I'm surprised the hospital doesn't provide something that at least lays flat or reclines...

ksayles · July 2009

Dh will be there. They have chairs that recline all the way to a bed. Our hospital "encourages" SO's to spend the night.

ChrissyK88 · July 2009

aRBe:
He's staying... it seems to be the norm at our hospital... they have a bench/couch for the dads to crash on

This... with both prior deliveries everyone made DH feel more than welcome to stay.. he did... and im glad. BONDING TIME. Id fight for that right!

StaceySnGeorgia · July 2009

Yep, pull out bed for him.

mfransdell · July 2009

Yep! i don't think i could get him to leave if I wanted to. Our hospital is set up for dads-to-be though. There is a chair that folds out into a bed and WiFi (the only thing my DH needs to be totally content).

CalinsBride · July 2009

DH will be staying over. They have futons. They're not that comfortable but he doesn't care. My hospital has six birthing suites, and you are usually in them throughout labour and recovery, and these rooms are obviously private. The only way I'd be moved to a semi-private is if someone else needed the room to give birth in, but I purposely chose a small-town hospital where there are usually only about 2 births a day, so that's highly unlikely. If we are in a semi-private, DH will not be allowed to stay, but he says he will sleep in the car. We dont live close to the hospital and he doesn't want to be far away in case anything happens.

kkenner · July 2009

I gave my DH the option to stay or leave because I know how uncomfortable the reclining chairs are. He has chosen to stay despite my warning...LOL.

margeincharge2 · July 2009

Mine is staying. The hospital has a lounge chair that they claim is comfy. If I'm in for a c-section, I'm sure my DH would want to go home but assuming it's a normal delivery, 2 nights shouldn't be too bad.

Mrs_mam · July 2009

Yes, he's staying. They have a bed for your partner to stay in and encourage it.

BeeLove · July 2009

yes! there is a separate area in my hospital room that closes off with a pull out couch/bed and a tv ...I'm very happy he'll be near by.

snowflake19 · July 2009

I think DH would stand all night if he had to. There is no way he would leave not do I want him to! Our hospital is very family focused so SO are encouraged to stay.

madonnadouwanna · July 2009

Provided we can get a private room, DH will stay. Otherwise he will go home late and be back early in the morning to spend time with LO and me. He doesn't really want to leave me, but it all depends on how many people are in L&D.

rrotem · July 2009

I don't know whether my DH will stay over. I am not paying $750/night for a private room and he supposedly can't stay over if I have a shared room. We'll see what the situation is when we get there I guess.

alibabbbs · July 2009

I've been hospitalized a few times this pregnancy already, and hells yes he stayed with me. There was a windowseat/bed that he said was actually quite comfortable. He left each morning to feed the dogs, shower, and go to work, then came right back. When I'm ready to give birth, he'll be there every second!

pillowbling · July 2009

DH's aren't allowed to stay over at my hospital (4 women to a room). They try to sugar-caot it by saying it'll be better because he'll be rested and better able to help with the baby/wife when you go home.

However, they also discourage keeping your baby in the nursery overnight, but I'm TERRIFIED of falling asleep with the baby next to me knowing there are already 3 other people in the room along with their visitors, nurses, etc. Doesn't seem safe at all.

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