Stolen from Third Tri: What will your DC call your friends?

MrsBeckO · July 2009

I am too lazy to make this a poll, but someone made a poll on third tri about this and I thought it was interesting.?

What will you have your child call your friends? By their first name, with a Miss or Mr preceding, Aunt/Uncle So & So... or what?

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We have a few close friends whose kids call us "Aunt Becky" and "Uncle Andy" and I figure our kids will do the same for them.. but other than that I never thought about making them say Miss Amanda or something like that. I just figured it would be first name basis for friends, and a more formal/respectful title for teachers/caregivers.

Your thoughts? Do you think its disrespectful for a child to call an adult by their first name? ?

abbysmom1005 · July 2009

For us it depends on the friends. We have one set of friends whose kids have always called us Mr and Mrs lastname, so abby calls them Mr and Mrs lastname as well. our closest circle of friends their kids have always called us by our first names or nicknames and so abby calls them by their 1st names or nicknames (the 1st kid in the group ended up "giving" some of us nicknames like laura got turned into lola and they stuck). for my mom friends we mostly all have the kids call each other miss firstname. not sure who or how it started but it stuck.

it really does not matter to me what i am called. i do think teacher etc should be called Mr, Mrs or Miss and not by their first name. other than that though i really do not have a preference.

KateAggie · July 2009

Depending on the friend, we use Aunt/Uncle or Miss/Mr.

As our kids get older, the expectation will be Mr./Mrs./Ms. lastname.

CrazyNLove · July 2009

She will call them by their name. There is nothing disrespectful about that, IMO. I think "uncle friend" and "aunt friend" is confusing and may even discredit their real aunts and uncles.

brideonjuly8 · July 2009

I kinda get what Crazy is saying about discrediting the real aunts and uncles. I have no idea what they will be called. I'll cross that bridge when i get there....which won't be very far away. Sigh.

Kristen0709 · July 2009

I *think* we'll be doing Miss (first name) but who knows. That's my plan though. My biggest thing is just teaching them to say sir and ma'am.

balihaigirl · July 2009

By their first name, unless it's a teacher or a doctor and then it will be "Mr/Mrs/Ms _____" or "Dr. _________". He will call my parents Nana and Papa, and DH's parents grandma and grandpa. He can call his aunts/uncles either Aunt___/Uncle ____ or just by their first name; whichever he prefers. Sometimes kids do their own thing & make up their own names for people when they're little because some words are hard for them to say.

mlf625 · July 2009

The "miss" and "mister" thing seems very southern to me. ?I'm from the midwest and always called my parents' friends by their first names. ?With DS, I've done the same- just refer to them as "Jenny", etc. ?I don't think it's disrespectful and honestly, I feel awkward when a little kid calls me "Miss Mandie".

nanann · July 2009

We have one friend that goes by first name only -- Mr. Stormy just sounds odd! And he's over pretty darn often.

I have one friend that calls me Aunt for her kids, so I guess my kids should call her Aunt, but I haven't really done that. The kids have only met her once so it doesn't really come up. (BFFs from college). I tend to feel that my kids have enough aunts and uncles that honorary ones just get confusing.

We tend to go by Mr. or Miss First Name, but I am starting to lean against that and new people are generally being introduced as Mr. or Mrs. Last Name. It just seems properly respectful. I still call my parents' neighbors by Mr. or Mrs. Last Name and HATED as a kid when a new younger neighbor (but still a mom!) insisted we call her by Miss First Name. I could not do it!

Abrooks · July 2009

She calls them Mr./Mrs. First Name. That is what she calls her teachers at school and I like that it is respectful but still casual. I don't like using aunt/uncle for friends. The only exception is my BFF of 20+ years who really is like an aunt. But otherwise, we introduce adults as Mr./Mrs. First Name to her.

smb29 · July 2009

Not sure...I grew up calling my parents friends Mr/Mrs lastname, and still do with most of them. Probably won't do the aunt/uncle thing with friends, dh doesn't even use that with his own aunt/uncles. Guess we'll have to talk about it!

gabrielle20 · July 2009

I was brought up to say Miss/Mr so I think DH and I will continue that with our kiddos

Nessia · July 2009

Friends by the first name, teachers Miss/Mr/Mrs, Aunt xxx or Uncle xxx. We're Mexican and I grew up calling all my aunts and uncles Tia or Tio and their name. I was wanting to continue that with our kids but we've seemed to have lost that and use Aunt and Uncle instead except for my aunts and uncles that I still use Tia or Tio so Mia does too.

katattack · July 2009

DD only has 2 uncles and 1 aunt total. DH and I are both from small immediate families, so my girlfriends are like family to me, so all of our DCs call each other Auntie ___. Just the way we are.

I too, am a Yankee, so the Mr./Miss thing is not something I'm used to. However, we are teaching DD to say that, since they do at school, and for friends that aren't our super close friends, that's what we call them.

Emer · July 2009

Most of our friends are the first name. Our kids have one actual aunt and one uncle, so I don't think we want to take away from that by having them call our friends by that title. Maybe I would feel differently if we had super close friends and it was more appropriate, though. One of my friends has her daughter call me Miss Emily, so I try to get DD to say the same for her, but it hasn't worked yet

naclh2otaffy · July 2009

Miss/mr firstname for now for my friends. As he gets older it will be ms/mr lastname for his friends' parents, etc. As a northerner, we used lastname growing up. As a former teacher, it irked me when students tried to call me by firstname only. It was too familiar and disrespectful. My Sunday school kids call me firstname only and it bothers me and makes me think a little less of their parents for not encouraging at least the more respectful ms. Firstname.

JessHeath · July 2009

if they are really close they will probably just call them by their first names or Aunt/ Uncle, if they aren't quite as close but still friends I might have them say Mrs / Mr (first name). As far as all others we would probably go Mrs/ Mr (last name).

I definitly don't think it is disrespectful to have a child call someone by their first name if you are really close- I don't mind if my friends kids do. I personally don't like being called ma'am (like when someone says "thank you ma'am") even though it is a term of respect I find it extremely condesending- I think it is because we used to have an assistant who had such a bad attitude and she would always say that when ever I would give her something; it drove me CRAZY!

Kim777 · July 2009

For the most part we say miss/mr first name. I do not have a problem with kids calling me just by my first name (as long as they are not students), but I don't want for anyone else to be offended by thinking my kids aren't being respectful, so that is what we try to do. My kids do/will have honorary aunts/uncles. My DH grew up in a very small town and we live here, as do many of the people who he grew up with literally since birth. We see those people all the time, moreso than our actual brothers and their wives, so those are Rhett's aunts and uncles as well. Plus our best friends don't have brothers and sisters at all. They will only ever be aunt/uncle to Rhett, Colton, etc. so it just seems right.

kellenickle · July 2009

katattack:
DD only has 2 uncles and 1 aunt total. DH and I are both from small immediate families, so my girlfriends are like family to me, so all of our DCs call each other Auntie ___. Just the way we are.

This is similar for us... DH is an only child. I have 4 sisters, but we don't get to see them much, unfortunately. I have a few dear, dear friends who are like sisters to me and DH has a couple as well, so we call them Aunt and Uncle.

I think just first names are fine if it's a friendly relationship, teachers are always Miss or Mr ______.

ditzydi_2000 · July 2009

For our close friends we'll probably have our baby call them aunt/uncle since we are both only children. Depending on how our other friends feel, I don't have any problems with them calling our friends by their name.

MrsMillerTime · July 2009

DH & I are both only children, so there are no Aunts/Uncles. That being said, our closest friends are like our siblings so we'll refer to them as Aunt/Uncle firstname.

ShernRich · July 2009

All my friends kids call me Miss Sherry. It think it's more respectful than them calling me by my first name only.

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