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how do i...
Be happy for my sister who just told me the got pregnant to her fiance... it wasn't intentional but it still hurts. I know I should be happy... but its so hard for me, I have been secretly jealous of her since she still lives near my folks and gets lots of her attention from her struggling divorce she JUST went through and because her hubby to be just came home from deployment. . . ?My hubby is military too so thats why we aren't living close to my family... but I just had my m/c ?and now she's pregnant. Im just a mess. and i don't know how to handle this, DH says it will be okay and we will get pregnant again, but its hard to handle this now.... I hate feeling like I'm jealous but I'm so unsure of my feelings...?
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Re: how do i...
I think that the jealously is a perfectly normal feeling right now. I have insane jealously, I think, towards a friend of mine who is getting ready to have her second child. I wasn't even thinking of being pregnant when she had her first, but after the m/c, things with me have changed.
Don't be too hard on yourself. You can tell her that you are there for her, but maybe keep yourself out of really difficult situations. Like, maybe you should not be the one to volunteer to throw the baby shower, etc. Hopefully, you have a good relationship and can explain that you still care very much for her, but need to keep your distance for a while.
I'm sorry, I have not had this experience with my sister. And pg friend lives pretty far away, so I have not had to 'fess up to anything myself. Good luck.