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2nd Trimester
Mad at my FIL! caution vent!
So I am pretty sure that I have mentioned before thart when DH and I told his parents we were expecting my FIL said "I thought you were getting fat." Seriously he didn't laugh or anything. So I was hurt but I tried to let it go. So today he calls to wish me a happy birthday(my birthday was on Monday) and after I told him all about what I did on my birthday he says to me "well I bet you are getting really fat now." I calmly said to him that I am pregnant not fat and he replied "well I am a man and in my eyes you are fat." So DH talked to him and apologized for him. I don't know how much more I can take.
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Re: Mad at my FIL! caution vent!
BFP #3 -mm/c @ 7wks, discovered at 9wks, D&C 9/28
BFP #4 5/29 EDD 2/9 - please be our rainbow
he actually called 3 days after her birthday and i do think he was rude. sometimes it is best to keep your thoughts to yourself....i am directing that to him not you. i am sure you are only trying to make op feel better.
Sounds like your FIL has a very strange, and unusual sense of humor. I know of a few people with similar sense of humor and they often say hurtful things and refuse to acknowledge that what they are saying could be hurtful to other people.
If I were you I would tell FIL that if he continues to call you fat he will get ZERO alone time with the baby because you refuse to have him teach your child such rude and hurtful vocabulary. I'm a very stright forward person and have already told both my brother and BIL that if they are still smoking when baby is born they won't get to hold them, much less spend any time one on one. They may be okay with killing themselves, but I won't have my child exposed to it.
My own father doesn't call me on (or around) my birthday so I think as an in law he's doing pretty good
...that's just me though. I guess I'm just more relaxed when it comes to this stuff. I know everyone takes it a different way and some people get offended easier than others. DH calls me fattie and I just laugh. I actually think it's cute because I am starting to get a big round fat belly 
Anyways, OP... I'm sorry he hurt your feelings. Hopefully you can work things out with your FIL.
BFP #3 -mm/c @ 7wks, discovered at 9wks, D&C 9/28
BFP #4 5/29 EDD 2/9 - please be our rainbow
It was nice of him to call even if he was a few days off but his comments are rude. I have tried to be relaxed and find humor but I am having a hard time doing that. I think I would be pissed if anyone called me fat.
No offense taken... I don't think you were rude at all.
BFP #3 -mm/c @ 7wks, discovered at 9wks, D&C 9/28
BFP #4 5/29 EDD 2/9 - please be our rainbow
If he's been told that she is hurt by being called fat (whether he's joking or not), and he continues to do it, then, yes. It's absolutely rude.
Be direct (if you haven't already, though it sounds like you have). Tell him, "Please don't call me fat. It's offensive to me, and I don't see the humor in it."
Some people must be dealt with as though they're complete morons.