Do you have guy friends over when DH is not home?

Lyssapee · July 2009

I don't... and my guy friends don't get it. I would never do anything, but I feel like it's disrespectful. I would expect the same from DH.

I had 2 guys friends invite themselves over tomorrow, and I said NO WAY!

MaxOrTori · July 2009

All my guy friends have disappeared now that I am married - go figure.

Lyssapee · July 2009

one of them was the guy that I puked on lol. we stopped talking after a fight 5 years ago, but recently reconnected.

I used to get along with girls better, but now I get along with guys better.

SCBride2007 · July 2009

No, I don't. Even though H trusts me 100%, I feel like I'd still be putting myself in a situation that could be taken the wrong way. H is a youth minister, and I am a teacher in a public school-- we always have to be on guard of the types of situations we put ourselves in.

MaxOrTori · July 2009

I am the same way (gets along with males better) but its such a funny place to be in - making male friends while married. You don't want to send out the wrong messages to the guys because you never know how they'll take it.

I keep my male friends at work/school, but don't let it get too personal... its just easier that way.

roshybride · July 2009

I don't have any guy friends that would want to come over when DH is not home.

DH and I do have one guy friend that I have spent time alone with in the car going different places. DH would trust him with his life, so he trusts him with me.

Otherwise I usually make it a policy not to spend time alone with a non related male that is notmy husband.

ameliaweinert · July 2009

The only guy friends I have are gay men, so I don't really have to worry about that. He's got a few female mates, but never has them over without me home. It's a mutual agreement.

Though, he accuses (privately) that one of my guys is a straight man in disguise, so he doesn't like him coming over alone. So, to make him happy, I don't.

blondiealwayfun · July 2009

No but I have a stalker, that wont stop calling my house! I told him to leave me, and my dh alone, but he wont!

Katy821 · July 2009

Sure why not? When DH was in basic training and gone for about a year I went guy friend's house and they came over to mine, I went out to dinner with them, wenting shopping whatever... Sometimes it was a group of guys, sometimes it was only 1 or 2, really it was whoever wanted to come out that night. I worked in a sporting goods store and had pretty much all guy friends so it was either that or stay home alone. DH knew all about it and now one of my guy friends and my husband are really good friends, its really funny. DH has no problem with whatsoever. I

In fact it would be really hypocritical of him is he had a problem with it. I know for a fact (because he told me) that he's spent the night a girl's house when he was in training. It doesnt bother me at all, I trust him enough not to do anything even if the girl throws herself at him.

mrsadamc 05 · July 2009

I really had to think about this question. I don't think I have any guy friends except for DH's. I had a few guy friends in college (they have all moved away) but not many because DH and I dated all through college and to most guys if you have a boyfriend why should they talk to you because you aren't going to sleep with them!

I am a teacher and for the last few years I have only worked with women (and one man who is as old as my father).

DH works in a industry that is mostly male (the only women on his floor are the administrative assistants).

I guess this is a non issue for us.

Emie28 · July 2009

Nope! I agree that it just isn't good to put myself in a situation where things might be questioned.

mela-sha · July 2009

Yes I do, they are friends, so what's the problem? I trust myself, I trust my friends, DH trusts me, so everything is okay.

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