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Ladies....

lizlopez23lizlopez23
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So we won't be in this situation for a long while probably, but I was just wondering how having bio children affected you or your dh's relationship with the step kids especially, but not discounting, those with sk's full time, and how the family dynamic changed.

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  • knmommyknmommy

    DH thinks of DS as his own, so when we had our daughters together, nothing between them changed.  DH had been in DS's life since he was 13m old and the spermdonor wants nothing to do with DS unless it is "his time" 

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  • luckyangelluckyangel member

    I'm curious about this too.  Good question.  I have 3 SKs that live with us full time and have no contact with BM.  We're expecting in Dec and there has definitely been some changes in the dynamic with the kids and how they interact with eachother and us since the announcement.  Things got real bad at BM's after the youngest SK was born so the older 2 are real worried about things changing here.

    Great question! 

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  • PokesPokes

    I worry about this all the time. SS lives with us all the time as BM has chosen to see him yearly, if that.

    DH and I are talking about having kids but we worry how SS will react... he has issues of abandomnent and being jealous if others are getting attention so we worry what will happen if a baby is brought into the picture. On top of that SS would be 11 or 12 before we have another child... so the age difference there brings worries too!

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  • frklsbridefrklsbride member
    dsd was 10 when jonah was born and she had a rough time when we initially told her but now they are completely in love.  (they're 12 and 2)
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  • kaylamarcuskaylamarcus
    good question!   We are telling my sd today that we are expecting in January--she is almost 12.  Her mom just had a baby last year and she was both excited/anxious about that and now just loves her little sis.  So I hope that she knows it won't change how we feel about her and we'll just try to be extra loving about it.  Good luck!
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  • lizlopez23lizlopez23
    Thanks ladies, I am really interested in hearing everyone's experiences with this. To you ladies about to go through this process GL and keep me posted!
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