Shower ? Is it rude to ask...

AndiG · July 2009

if I can bring along my 6wk old?? Its a baby shower brunch being held at a casual family pizza place (not fancy or anything). I was going to ask the host - is it not cool? I would not be bringing my toddler along. TIA

KrisBriMcBunny · July 2009

no I dont think its rude to ask....it is however rude to just assume that you can bring your baby.

Brewster · July 2009

I totally would bring your LO. 6 WEEKS IS SO, SO young.

winery · July 2009

Generally I think that you don't bring children to baby showers, but then that seems counter intiutive, right?

A 6 week old, though, would be the exception to the rule. Who doesn't want to see an infant, especially at a baby shower?

*Gee, could I contradict myself any more? I don't think so.

hopefulmom · July 2009

If your a BFing mom...certainly ask the hostess. It is only rude to just assume it is OK. I doubt it will be a problem.

veloelle · July 2009

Ask. I didn't bring my newborn to a shower, but I also didn't ask and planned on leaving her w/ a friend. Mainly because I wanted 3 hours to myself!

camrude · July 2009

I don't think it's rude to ask.

AndiG · July 2009

OK, I emailed to ask. I normally am not one to bring along the kids, but I haven't even started the bottle thing yet (I nurse) and its a tough time of day to leave DH with both LO's. Thanks for the replies.

RoxyLynn · July 2009

Yes, it's rude - if your DC wasn't listed on the invitation, then he/she wasn't invited. It's just never OK to ask to bring an uninvited guest to any event.

mrscalkins · July 2009

RoxyLynn:
Yes, it's rude - if your DC wasn't listed on the invitation, then he/she wasn't invited. It's just never OK to ask to bring an uninvited guest to any event.

Uh, yeah, it's not like she's asking to bring a friend, she's asking to bring along her 6 week old NURSING baby. In this case, I would not find it rude, but more of a necessity. Especially if the baby has not been exposed to bottles yet, like the op stated.

Brewster · July 2009

RoxyLynn · July 2009

mrscalkins:

RoxyLynn:
Yes, it's rude - if your DC wasn't listed on the invitation, then he/she wasn't invited. It's just never OK to ask to bring an uninvited guest to any event.

Uh, yeah, it's not like she's asking to bring a friend, she's asking to bring along her 6 week old NURSING baby. In this case, I would not find it rude, but more of a necessity. Especially if the baby has not been exposed to bottles yet, like the op stated.

How is it a necessity? If you are invited to an adult event (like a shower), and you can't leave your baby - which is totally understandable - you decline. There's no need to make a big production of it.

lsufan · July 2009

If I were either hosting or it were my own shower, I would be mortified to find out that an invitee had simply declined rather than just asking to bring along an infant. That's insane.

MrsCali_Bride · July 2009

RoxyLynn:
mrscalkins:

RoxyLynn:
Yes, it's rude - if your DC wasn't listed on the invitation, then he/she wasn't invited. It's just never OK to ask to bring an uninvited guest to any event.

Uh, yeah, it's not like she's asking to bring a friend, she's asking to bring along her 6 week old NURSING baby. In this case, I would not find it rude, but more of a necessity. Especially if the baby has not been exposed to bottles yet, like the op stated.

How is it a necessity? If you are invited to an adult event (like a shower), and you can't leave your baby - which is totally understandable - you decline. There's no need to make a big production of it.

How is simply asking a question making a big production out of it? Hmm I would want to know for sure so I could then either make arrangements for childcare or decline if need be.

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