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3rd Trimester
Psycho MIL strikes again!
(History of posts on this drama)
So she decided to dig in her heals and opted to cut off all communication with her son and not be apart of her granddaughter's life because DH did not give into her demands for coming out for a 2 week visit the week after my estimated due date!
Until today, I have stayed out of the back and forth arguing because hubby doesn't want me to be subject to her hate-filled rants and the added stress while I'm pg.
So what does she do... after not speaking to her since announcing my pregnancy to avoid her stressful arguments, today she left me 3 angry long voice mails in a row advising me to try not to hurt myself doing the happy dance that she will not be coming out and that she will no longer be talking to her son... went on about how awful of a person i am and she hopes we get more counseling and saying she liked me until she got to know me yada yada yada.
Who the F*ck acts like this over being asked to wait 3 stinking weeks pp before insisting on staying for a 2 week long visit in the home of first time parents?!?
She is a psycho b!tch... I had some sympathy for her before this despite all her angry filled rants in the past but to try to anger me while I am almost 7 months pregnant is beyond hateful and cruel. I have been nothing but respectful to her despite her outrageous behavior these past 4+ years!
So, I emailed her with my one and only reply to her behavior telling her she has crossed the line, I am sad that she chose to be selfish and inconsiderate to our request as new parents and that she needs some major counseling for her emotional issues and not to contact me in the future because all calls will go unanswered and emails/voice mails will be deleted without being read/listen to.
And that is that! DH says she will never be allowed in our home until she apologizes to me for her behavior and hateful words and as a result, will only know her grandchildren by the occasional photo.
She will hold a grudge for the rest of her life... her choice and her loss. She can stew in her crazy anger filled resentment... so long as her drama is not in our home and hurting my marriage, we will live our lives with savor our joys with no regrets!
So she decided to dig in her heals and opted to cut off all communication with her son and not be apart of her granddaughter's life because DH did not give into her demands for coming out for a 2 week visit the week after my estimated due date!
Until today, I have stayed out of the back and forth arguing because hubby doesn't want me to be subject to her hate-filled rants and the added stress while I'm pg.
So what does she do... after not speaking to her since announcing my pregnancy to avoid her stressful arguments, today she left me 3 angry long voice mails in a row advising me to try not to hurt myself doing the happy dance that she will not be coming out and that she will no longer be talking to her son... went on about how awful of a person i am and she hopes we get more counseling and saying she liked me until she got to know me yada yada yada.
Who the F*ck acts like this over being asked to wait 3 stinking weeks pp before insisting on staying for a 2 week long visit in the home of first time parents?!?
She is a psycho b!tch... I had some sympathy for her before this despite all her angry filled rants in the past but to try to anger me while I am almost 7 months pregnant is beyond hateful and cruel. I have been nothing but respectful to her despite her outrageous behavior these past 4+ years!
So, I emailed her with my one and only reply to her behavior telling her she has crossed the line, I am sad that she chose to be selfish and inconsiderate to our request as new parents and that she needs some major counseling for her emotional issues and not to contact me in the future because all calls will go unanswered and emails/voice mails will be deleted without being read/listen to.
And that is that! DH says she will never be allowed in our home until she apologizes to me for her behavior and hateful words and as a result, will only know her grandchildren by the occasional photo.
She will hold a grudge for the rest of her life... her choice and her loss. She can stew in her crazy anger filled resentment... so long as her drama is not in our home and hurting my marriage, we will live our lives with savor our joys with no regrets!
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Re: Psycho MIL strikes again!
Wow...she really sealed her fate on this one. I don't think she thought this one through.
Stay steadfast on your decision, and if she wants to be active in your baby's life she will have to apologize.
Don't let her get to you.
You are making the best choice and you have a very good Hubs for supporting you.
It almost sounds like we have the same MIL. She has made various scenes, ridiculous demands and angry comments/vmails/emails over our entire relationship.
My mother is very far away so I gave in and let her come after K was born since she was only 3 hours away. She was actually waiting for us when we were discharged and my stories about the next 4 days would make anyone not have a MIL ever visit them after they give birth.
Due to her behavior then and a few things since K has been born my Hubs and I have had to confront her about her comments and behavior. She proceeded to trash me as a mother on FB (I deleted her as a "friend") and we both have not talked to her since late April.
Some people are just toxic and you don't want your LO around that. GL to you and your family.
Wow, what drama! I hope for your sake that will be the last you hear of her, but I doubt it! I am stunned as to how self centered she is, like a spoiled single child. You deserve your time to settle into a new routine with you LO once she arrives and MIL should respect that. Your mom sounds a lot like my mom : wonderful & understanding of your space!!
Best of luck and I hope L&D goes smoothly for you!
Wow.....just WOW
I'm so sorry for your and especially your DH. But very proud that you both are standing your ground. Her bad behavior CAN NOT be rewarded. It's like dealing with a child...and this isn't just about you and DH anymore - it's about your daughter.
My best friend went through a somewhat similar situation when she was pregnant - long story, but they had to foreclose on their house and moved in with MIL. The relationship between her DH and MIL had always been somewhat rocky...while it was good at first, it quickly got worse. They ended up having to move out when she was about 6-7months pregnant and lived in a hotel until they found another place to live. They cut off all communication - didn't even notify her when the baby was born (let other family members tell her). MIL always played like she had no idea why they wouldn't talk with her....it was the first time they stood their ground. They just recently spoke with her, about a year later....she finally apologized for her behavior.
I wish you a stressfree remainder of your pregnancy!
Good for you for your very mature response to her insanity. Good for DH for standing up to her as well (I suspect this isn't the first time he's seen this behavior from her, poor guy). For COL, what self-respecting new mom would be able to handle anyone for 2 weeks straight, even a sane, loving relative? Despite the good intentions, you need whatever shreds of rest you can get, without having to worry about houseguests. Anyone with half a brain would recognize that and, even if they intially made the offer of the visit, would understand why you might decline or suggest different dates/times.
If she takes your suggestion, gets help and comes around, swell... by all means proceed with caution into a relationship with her at that time. If she remains the MIL from Hell? Like you said, her loss. Cheers to you, the DH and the LO!
Good for you guys sticking to your guns. I had to blow up on my in laws to get them to even respect me. Now, they play by our rules or they know we won't allow them to see their grandchild.
Matthew Kevin
7/31/83-7/20/11
Met 1/8/00
Engaged 4/21/06
Married 9/29/07
Two beautiful legacies: Noah Matthew (2 yrs) and Chloe Marcella (8 mos)
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