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MIL and baby shower

DiscusCoachDiscusCoach
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My mom and my aunts are putting on my baby shower (big family = big shower).

I took my mom and my MIL to my u/s appt today and my mom was talking about plans and says to MIL which weekend it will be but not sure of the exact date. That Sat. doesn't work for MIL apparently. She is going to some meditation retreat. She said she won't be able to go if we don't do it on the Sunday. 

Does that seem a little pretentious to anyone? This is the same woman who disappeared last weekend after I promised to call the second we found out the gender FRIDAY afternoon. Didn't even cross her mind all weekend apparently even after DH left message to call. 

I don't know. My mom and aunts are doing all the work and that seemed a little tacky. Would it have been impossible to cancel a meditation day with more than 2 months warning?

I felt like telling her "it's ok - you don't have to be there if it doesn't work in your schedule."  BTW - I don't think anyone on DH's side is doing anything.

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  • RoRed5RoRed5

    I don't think it's tacky.  If you mom hadn't said anything and then she didn't come would you have been upset?  She may have paid hundreds of dollars for the retreat.

     

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  • tnd1218tnd1218 member
    If she hasnt contributed to the shower Id just have it without her. Apparently its not THAT important to her, seeing as shes had MONTHS in advance notice.

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  • ablouablou member

    Why does she have to retreat to empty her mind and meditate?  Isn't the whole purpose of meditation that you can do it anywhere and get centered anywhere?

    Screw the flaky cow... you're the mommy!! Psycho MIL... 

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  • getnmarried910getnmarried910 member

    It doesn't sound like it is very important to her.  I'd have your mom continue to just plan it, and if MIL doesn't come, she doesn't come. 

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  • DiscusCoachDiscusCoach

    I think it was the fact that she had already been so indifferent about the sex of the baby and I am the one contacting her with updates and stuff. She really has not gone out of her way to ask questions.

    I know I am being a little overly sensitive.

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