Baby shower question

Sheeks88 · June 2009

If this baby ends up being a boy then he and DS will only be a couple months apart and I can re-use all of my boy items. I was totally of the mind set (not sure why) that you only ever had one baby shower not matter how many times you get pg. But a few people have asked if I have girl will I be having another baby shower. So I was wondering, is it commen/normal to have another shower if you have the opposite sex with baby #2?

bananasmomma · June 2009

I say that if someone wants to throw you a shower, regardless of how many kids you have, then you should accept.

CDCbaby · June 2009

I've always heard that you really only have showers with your first. No matter what the sex of the 2nd child is. and I have never known anyone that had a shower for their 2nd but that's just me.

rc1276 · June 2009

I have always been of the opinion that you just get one. I don't know anyone who's had a second baby shower.

mattandbekah · June 2009

I know a few people who have, but I think most people don't simply because you already have all the big stuff you know?

december09baby · June 2009

My friend's sister is having a "sprinkle" for just that reason. Just family and very close friends, and probably just clothes, etc, since she already has all the big stuff. More of a low-key celebration with a small group . . .

DereKim · June 2009

i dont think it would matter if you all ready have a boy. you will still needs things...maybe just not as much.

girl or boy i think you deserve a shower!

rayandbrit · June 2009

bananasmomma:
I say that if someone wants to throw you a shower, regardless of how many kids you have, then you should accept.

Yes Maybe just keep your guest list to your closest friends and family?

Hoax · June 2009

If you really want to have one, then why not.

Jocelyn0415 · June 2009

I was talking to some co-workers about how you only get one shower and they looked at me like I was nuts! They said they've been to/thrown multiple showers for friends who have had more than one kid. They said, "When you have another one we'll throw you another shower." Apparently, it's the norm here. I was always under the impression you got one shower no matter how many children you had.

Baby Snowflake · June 2009

I know several people that have had showers with every baby. I always thought you just got one but I know one girl in paticular that had a shower ever year for the last 3 years Confused

k.linn · June 2009

rc1276:
I have always been of the opinion that you just get one. I don't know anyone who's had a second baby shower.

Ditto. And honestly, I'd be a little annoyed attending a 2nd shower for the same person. (Kind of how I feel about being invited to attend two weddings and showers for the same person in three years).

I understand sometimes people tend to buy ALL girl or boy stuff when they find out the sex, but I would think getting some of the big things in gender neutral themes would eliminate this problem.

DiscusCoach · June 2009

I like the idea of a sprikle unless there are extreme circumstances. A sprinkle should be just close close friends and family and be something small like a tea. You don't register for big ticket items and you get little girl dresses and such.

When I talk about extreme circumstances - my sister had a girl and then a there was a terrible flood. She lost everything when her little girl was about 3. When she had a boy about a year and half later she was starting from scratch. In that case we threw a full blown shower.

dle927 · June 2009

In the area I live it is standard to only have one shower (or showers for the same baby) for your first. It's not standard to even have a second if your second child is a different gender or born several years after your first. You'd generally get the side eye if you were to have another.

pmarie33 · June 2009

A couple months apart?

saraprice · June 2009

I was not planning on having a shower with this one, in fact my best friend told me she wanted to throw me one and I told her I felt uncomfortable with one. She said she really wanted to throw one and we compromised on a "sprinkle/diaper shower". So then my SIL asked if she could throw me one and I told her the same and that BF is doing a sprinkle so now they are working on it together. It is a lot smaller than with the last child.

For some reason 2nd showers seem a lot more common here than where I used to live. Everyone seems to have them, even for 3rd + babies, they are just smaller.

magdusia · June 2009

most of my friends have only one, even if it's the opposite sex. Only one friend ended up having a shower after having a boy (first one was a girl) and they are only 2 years apart. A lot of people did not go b/c there were just too many showers to go that year and since they already went to hers.

If someone throws you one great, if not, i wouldnt ask for one. but everyone is different.

Jocelyn0415 · June 2009

k.linn:

rc1276:
I have always been of the opinion that you just get one. I don't know anyone who's had a second baby shower.

Ditto. And honestly, I'd be a little annoyed attending a 2nd shower for the same person. (Kind of how I feel about being invited to attend two weddings and showers for the same person in three years).

I understand sometimes people tend to buy ALL girl or boy stuff when they find out the sex, but I would think getting some of the big things in gender neutral themes would eliminate this problem.

We registered for all gender neutral big items for that exact reason. Our swing, car seat, stroller, pack n play, and bouncer can all be re-used if we have a boy later down the road.

jennybeams · June 2009

If someone just had a shower a few months ago, I think it's extremely tacky to have another. I would not go if someone invited me.

Tinkx123x · June 2009

DiscusCoach:
I like the idea of a sprikle unless there are extreme circumstances. A sprinkle should be just close close friends and family and be something small like a tea. You don't register for big ticket items and you get little girl dresses and such.
When I talk about extreme circumstances - my sister had a girl and then a there was a terrible flood. She lost everything when her little girl was about 3. When she had a boy about a year and half later she was starting from scratch. In that case we threw a full blown shower.

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^do the sprinkle!!?

mwalliser · June 2009

I wouldn't expect one but if someone offered to throw one then I wouldn't turn it down.

When I was asking friends yesterday whether or not we should find out the sex a lot of the reasons why they said I should was because of the baby shower. Of course, I still really don't expect one at all... especially now that we found out we're having another girl.

Jenn.J. · June 2009

I get annoyed when I go to 2nd showers - I just went to a FOURTH one this weekend. I mean, come on.

meryllee29 · June 2009

I've been invited to a few 2nd baby showers over the past year or so and I think it's severly tacky. So now I have to buy a gift for every baby that is born? It's too much to ask of people. If they want to get you something they will. Stick to just the one... in my opinion.

franciscaz · June 2009

Everything I have ever heard etiquette wise you get one shower and that is it. Now I have been offered twice already and I have said no. This time I am having a little girl and I we are having twins but I just didn't feel comfortable.

At this point if I get a 2nd shower they will have to surprise me b/c I just feel bad having all of my friends and family who were sooo generous just 2 yrs ago get invited to give me more gifts now! I can't knowingly sign up for one.

maschmidt16 · June 2009

I have heard of the sprinkle idea but full-blown second showers. If your friends are into giving you another shower, then why not? But I would not ask for one.

Prinycesa07 · June 2009

Apparently it depends a lot on your family/friends and location.

Me, personally, i find it tacky to have a shower for more than 1 child.

Future Mrs.White · June 2009

I have quite a few friends who have had 2nd and 3rd baby showers. This is my first, so I'm not in the same boat. I wouldn't turn down an offer for a 2nd baby shower, if that happend to me, because I would feel rude turning them down. I would simply limit the items I registered for and not give them a large guest list.

Sheeks88 · June 2009

I don't expect or would I ask anyone to plan another baby shower and I don't have the balls to have my own. I looked at my friend like she had 15 heads when I was asked, then I got asked a couple more times so it made me wonder if it was popular because I don't know anyone who has had a second shower/sprinkle. I would be a little put off if I was invited to a 2nd baby shower, with that said if I knew someone close enough and they were on their 10th baby I would still get them a present. I had a hard time registering for my DS and would not put any single item over $20 on the registry. My parents bought the expensive items.

HerHighness · June 2009

rc1276:
I have always been of the opinion that you just get one. I don't know anyone who's had a second baby shower.

This.....

but I think a small "sprinkle" is allowed for your second. You dont register and nobody is required to bring a gift.(most do bring a little outfit or some diapers) Its usually very close friends and family members

pmarie33 · June 2009

pmarie33:
A couple months apart?

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