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What is one thing you stand your ground on?

tarebear9891tarebear9891 member
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I'm usually easy going about things unless DS is in danger of course. My MIL has asked me a couple times if she could take DS to see her mother 2 1/2 hours away. My FIL (they are divorced) wants to watch DS overnight almost an hour away. I know he would be safe with both of them but I am just  not comfortable with him being away from me like that where if something happened it would take me awhile to get to him. They think I am unreasonable about this but I won't cave. What is one thing you stand your ground on that other people think you are being unreasonable about?
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  • lisaroolisaroo
    I don't think you're being unreasonable at all on either of those. Mine are similar to yours: I don't let anyone other than DH and I drive with DD in the car, and I don't let her spent the night away from us (though no one has asked to do that yet).
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  • caroline:)caroline:) member
    My biggest is who watches her. DH's family is really laid back, and will  try to bounce her around between each other. I'm not super comfortable not knowing where I'm going to pick her up, and I DEFINITELY don't want my SIL or BIL watching her and I hate when MIL leaves her with them. I'm vocal about this!
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  • afwellsafwells member

    I don't think it's being unreasonable to not want your child staying overnight without you at this age, especially at this time when they crave routine and stranger and/or separation anxiety are issues.

    My FIL went on and on one time about how he enjoyed spending nights at his grandparents home, blah blah blah, as a general hint to me.  I said, yes, and you obviously were old enough to remember this, and as long as I'm nursing her it's not an option.  He understood my reasoning & hasn't pushed it (plus, it's not like he even freakin' watches her when she's at their house, it's all my MIL).

    So same thing.  I also don't want my family driving her around for awhile...my FIL will NEVER drive with her in the car (he's scary), and my mother is ADHD and I worry about her forgetting my baby.  I want her old enough to be able to scream "HEY don't forget me, Grandma!"

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  • CrystalDaunCrystalDaun
    I don't think you're being unreasonable. I have allowed DD to sleep over at both grandparents BUT both live w/ in 15 min. of us. I will not allow MIL to have DD while my niece is over. She is 2 and BIL & SIL are getting divorced. MIL is so scared she won't see my niece much that she refuses to discipline her. It's an awkward approach. BUT my niece throws the glass coasters (the ones from kohls where you can put a pic in them) and picture frames across the living room floor. I don't want DD to get caught in the crossfire. MIL won't tell my niece no. Monday we were over for meatloaf & I found a chunk of glass on the floor! DD could of eaten it or my niece could have stepped on it. It's ridiculous. So MIL cries & says "You can't keep Amber in a bubble, you are overbearing and controlling" WTF? Ok lady...sorry, I don't approve of flying glass! We've told her exactly why too & she just doesn't agree w/ us, she says "Riley only throws it when she's tired or things don't go her way..." Yep, that's her best arguement! LOL
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    My IL's would love to watch DS and drive him places.  Will.never.happen.  They have good hearts but they just are so NOT capable of taking care of a baby.

    But I let my parents take DS places, he spends the night at their house, etc.  But they are younger and much more capable.

    DH is totally on the same page w/ me.

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  • iris427iris427 member
    I had to stand my ground that I do not want my baby getting a tan.
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  • tarebear9891tarebear9891 member
    Oh wow that kind of reminds me of my niece except my mother does correct her. She got angry when DS was playing with her cash register toy and tried to poke him (near his eye!) with a pencil. My mom caught her right away and punished her so at least I don't have to worry about that! I also agree that I let DS stay overnight occasionally with my mother and MIL but only b/c they live really close.
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  • jgilesslpjgilesslp member
    I stand my ground with my ILs about what my DS eats.  My side of the family has major food allergies so until he can tell me his throat is closing off I avoid the major allergens in my family so that includes nuts, eggs, and straight dairy since we have lactose intolerance in my family and DS showed signs of it with breastfeeding.  FIL tried to give DS icecream the other day and I let him know it was not okay.  They seem to think it is fine but a lot of the stuff isn't recommended for LOs anyway!
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  • TwoSkisTwoSkis member

    I stand my ground on refusing to let DD CIO.  Everybody tells me I have to do it (even when she was a couple days old!), and I will not under any circumstances.  She is my baby, and I don't have to do anything.  (Can you tell I have some pent up frustration?)

    FWIW, we have worked hard on her sleeping skills in other ways, and she is now an excellent sleeper.

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