I have been on a message board for reflux babes and they have really helped me to keep some sanity through all of Troy's issues. I noticed there are a few reflux moms on here and thought you might be interested.
They are branching out into other issues, too and recently renamed the board. (former title was Moms Wearing Puke - )
Here is the link:
Re: Rec: Reflux (& other issues) forum
reflux.org is also a great resource.
- LH