MIL let DS CIO....very angry about this

Re: MIL let DS CIO....very angry about this

• sara1014

  June 2009

  This is totally something I can see happening with my MIL.  I plan to have written instructions for when they watch our babies - and we'll go from there.  But she's one who generally considers her way is the "right" way.

  I'd say that DH needs to tell her that things need to be done the way that works for YOUR family - not for her.  She should also know that now he can't sleep - and that's not like a coincidence!
  

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• MayDayGirl member

  June 2009

  I wouldn't do anything about it, but next time they watch him, make the rules very clear.
  

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• skoorbnibor member

  June 2009

  I would be very angry. Not necessarily about ferber, but about her choosing to do something she knew was not something I choose to do. It seems like a huge deal for her to decide to sleep train without discussing it. It's taking a HUGE liberty and possibly setting a precedent
  

  
  
  

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• DavezWife member

  June 2009

  I can relate - my mom sat for us the other night, and my parting words were "DO NOT PICK HER UP FROM HER CRIB ONCE SHE"S DOWN"... she just HAD to rock her 2 times b/c she didn't want her to be scared when Grammie is there. Yea, mom spent the next 2 nights with a kid in HYSTERICS every 3 hours b/c I didn't want to pick her up. Of course I'm not going to let me kid scream for hours, so the cycle festered.

  Us moms have reasons for our rules. I try to resort to THEIR old addage:

  "As long as you are under OUR roof, it's OUR rules."  uughh.

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• trilady2

  June 2009

  I'm sorry - I hate it when my MIL won't listen to a word I say and just does whatever she wants. She's older, 78, and always says, "I raised seven kids so I think I can handle it..." and then does crazy stuff like doesn't put DS down for a nap, tries to sleep with him when he's totally not used to sleeping with adults, feeds him whatever the hell she wants.

  It drives me insane. My mom always asks me, "what time for a nap, what time for a bottle, what does he like..." and does exactly what I do to maintain consistency. My MIL, on the other hand, does whatever she wants and doesn't even ask.

  Guess who gets to stay with DS more often?

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• TakYelgif

  June 2009

  Thanks for the input ladies......I think I am going to say something to her the next time I talk to her, this really was taking things to far.  They know that we don't do ferber, CIO etc and know how we feel about the process.

  I think what bothers me the most is that had she just let him play for a 20 minutes he would not have fussed at all about going to sleep, he would have taken his bottle and gone to sleep without any trouble.  I even told her that why she did not listen is beyond me.

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• charmcitygirl member

  June 2009

  You have every right to be angry!  I would be super pissed too!  Do you feel comfortable saying something to your ILs?  I would tell them that while you appreciated them watching DS for you to go out, that is not the way you parent and you would like for them to adhere to your wishes with your child!

  Allison
  

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