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Uh oh, I spilled to fiance's parents too soon! What to do?

KellyOstermanKellyOsterman
in 1st Trimester

I am very close with my fiance's mother and while I was at her house the other day (w/o him) she asked me if I wanted a cocktail. Since all of our friends know I just blurted out without thinking "I can't.. remember? I'm pregnant." I caught myself immediatly after I said it and saw the look of disbelief on her face. I couldnt even think of anything to  backpeddle with. We weren't going to tell either sets of parents until after first trimester b/c they are both very religious and we are not married yet. Also we want to go to our first doc's appt this thursday and wait to hear the heartbeat b/c of the high risk of miscarraige in the first trimester. I know he's going to flip if I tell him I gave it up. What do I do? Help!

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Re: Uh oh, I spilled to fiance's parents too soon! What to do?

  • breechbreech
    just tell him. now. im sure he wont be mad, you didn't do it on purpos
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  • jksweetsjksweets
    Ouch.  I'm not sure what to do, but I would for sure tell your fiancee ASAP.  I'd rather him hear it from me then from his parents.
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  • denahamilton@cox.netdenahamilton@cox.net

    Be honest. It's the only way to go.

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  • CapitolBabyCapitolBaby member
    How did you NOT tell him the same day you told his mom?  Werent you worried she'd call him?
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  • myonetruelovemyonetruelove member
    I would tell you Fi right away and just let him know what happened. Then I would tlk to your future MIL, fast, and let her know that she is the only one who knows. Mother's get excitement mouth and before you know it everyone knows. I would also go tell my mom, the last thing you need is for her to find out second hand. JMHO
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  • dnagaldnagal

    Cat's out of the bag.  Tell him asap, it was a slip.  I'd also tell your parents, not fair to leave them out of the loop at this point.


     

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  • Lea LaJeunesse-AskrenLea LaJeunesse-Askren
    Um yeah, not buying it.
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  • J&JMalloryJ&JMallory
    Just tell the truth...that's the only way to go
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  • KellyOstermanKellyOsterman
    Thanks for all your help. I told FI that we have to sit down and talk later and I'm gonna be honest then. In the meantime I called future MIL at work and asked her not to spill the beans. She is not happy about the situation still but she said she wont say anything. But she did tell me that she is mad at my FI for not being "responsible" and witing til we were married. I have always had a better relationship with her then he did and now I'm worried that I have put more strain on theirs. I feel like an ass. I know we would have to tell eventually but not the way I did.
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  • alacognataalacognata
    a  mistake.  They will all get over it.  Better to just be honest
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  • mmsallmmsall member
    In all honesty, you really shouldn't have told all of your friends before parents anyhow. Friends get excitement mouth just like family. At least she heard it from you and not a random friend.
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  • bannedmonkeybannedmonkey

    I'm not sure I believe this story. I think you might have spilled the beans because you got excited and wanted to tell her.

    Either way. Damage is done. Time to do some groveling. I'd be pretty pissed if I were your DF.

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