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Changing name today...

jrandvjrandv
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I'm officially changing my last name today to my husband's and although I never questioned doing it and want to, I am sitting here with tears in my eyes as I feel like I am saying goodbye to a major part of my identity that has been a part of me for 30 years. I didn't expect to feel this sense of "loss" but at the same time, I know that I have gained so much.... I wrote my mom, dad and sister ( we have hyphenated versions of our parents' names) and let them know and I think that's what did it....

::feels nostalgic::

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  • firewife9278firewife9278 member
    I think that's VERY normal to feel that way. But it's still you, no matter what your last name is!

     
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  • theweathermanswifetheweathermanswife

    I think that is very normal!  I was nostalgic when I changed my name, too.  It still seems weird, and I changed it when we got married November 2007.  My mom walked into my house and called me "Mrs. M" the other day, and it is still bizarre to hear that!

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  • laralynnlaralynn
    I felt the EXACT same way!  You were given a name by your parents, and now it feels foreign for you to be someone "new".  I have gotten used to it now, and I don't feel that nostalgia anymore, but I totally understand how you are feeling today.  Pretty soon, it will be the new normal for you!
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  • AJflowersAJflowers member
    I'm never changing mine...he he he.  You will totally love it, if it's what you want to do, and start to like it I'm sure.  If it makes you feel more attached to DH, then it's worth it!
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  • jrandvjrandv
    Thanks, ladies for the support. Here I go....
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  • pandagirl15pandagirl15
    I changed my name 5 years ago when we got married, but I don't think that I really felt like "his last name" until I found out I was pregnant.  Now I have this baby on the way with that last name, so it's much more comfortable to be called that!
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  • engrider18engrider18 member
    I was very hesitant to change my last name as well. I felt like I was losing a big part of my identity and I'm not a huge fan of how my first name sounds wtih DH's last name but it meant alot to him. Its been 6 months so I'm starting to get used to it.
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  • Phoebe HalliwellPhoebe Halliwell
    I remember feeling very sad and anxious and a little bit panicked when I officially changed my last name soon after my wedding. I think it's totally normal. And the funny thing is, I never liked my maiden name growing up. Now I love it - so much so, that if we have a boy we're going to use it as the first name. I guess you don't realize just how much a part of your own identity is in your maiden name until you go to change it.
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  • ktm1021ktm1021
    I was really excited to do it until I got to the DMV.  Then I started to get all sad.  I decided to make my maiden name my new middle name and that seemed to help.  GL.
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  • jrandvjrandv
    Thanks, all.  Now I can't find my birth certificate (which I JUST had last week) so I guess I'm not goign this morning after all. One more day with my maiden name... hehe
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