Second time moms

sandy02 · June 2009

Are your feelings different this time? I'm so happy, but scared for Ethan. He'll be okay, I know it, but man, he has no idea whats coming!

More in my blog about what's flying through my head right now! :0)

(the poem will probably make you cry, but it brings me hope too!) Smile

Bhobbsdz · June 2009

Yes!! We were not trying for this baby (on b.c pill), so I felt like I was robbing dd of the attention she needs and will need. However, I know there are plenty of mothers with 2 children under 2 yrs old. I am feeling better about that and am very excited now. I was just very sad for dd at first.

Califlorida · June 2009

lately i've been more and more worried about how Lu will take this. and how we will handle it. and how we'll go from a family of 3 to a family of 4 meaning dh and i will always BOTH have our hands full.

Bhobbsdz · June 2009

Califlorida- Hi, I remember you from the first go round. I can't believe I am back on the 1st tri. board. I have not been on the Bump in about 6 months and when I went to the 6+ board, I barely recognized any names. Good to see you again. Congratulations on the baby and your lo is so cute.

jillian6 · June 2009

I have such crazy emotions about this. i am happy she will have someone to play with it, but sad that i will be taking attention away from her. i think she will do fine.

Tess12 · June 2009

I'm wondering how M will take it, too. She just loves being the center of attention, so I'm sure it will be hard at first. But I also think she'll enjoy bossing someone else around.

Califlorida · June 2009

tess12- congrats! i missed your bfp announcement...

bhobbsdz- haven't seen you around in a loooong time. your dd is so cute! and here we go again... lol

Carrot303 · June 2009

Granted DS is very young so maybe that's why I don't share the same feelings as any of you. I'm thrilled my kids will be so close in age. I'm a twin so I think it's nice for them to have a little buddy to grow up with -- and learn how to share and all of that stuff. DS will be 15 months when this one comes so he will never have a memory of life as an only child - thank God (IMO)!

Mrs.BoomBoom · June 2009

My feelings are TOTALLY different this time! The 1st time was sort of panic because I was entirely unprepared and ended up placing the baby for adoption. This time, I'm married and we planned this pg so I'm excited rather than terrified.

shindylahoe · June 2009

I'm afraid for the baby more then DD. She is really oppinionated and always lets us know what she wants. I'm afraid I will be too buisy taking care of DD to hold this one all the time like I did DD. But I guess that's why i love baby carriers!

madeleines_mommy · June 2009

I feel the same way for madeleline! I catch myself feeling bad for her, which is probably rediculous but I can't help it. She has been an only child for 5 yrs and this baby is going to turn her world upside down for sure. I know she will be a great big sister, but I know the beginning is going to be TOUGH with jealousy issues.

Glad i'm not the only one feeling this way

shindylahoe · June 2009

UGH! You're right. I'm totally crying.

mrswags05 · June 2009

Sigh...yep, I'm feeling it too. I'm excited, but sometimes I'm cuddling DS and feel so sad that I won't be able to do that in the same way once there are two of them. I know he'll be fine, and the new baby will be fine, and we'll all get used to it. I know we won't be able to imagine it any other way. But right now it feels a little overwhelming.

Then yesterday I got my weekly email update from babycenter about DS, and it was all about the "best" timing for number two. The article said that most kids are more ready for a sibling after age 3 because that's when they begin to develop an identity of their own apart from their parents. Now obviously, I know many kids are happy and healthy with siblings who are close in age. But the article still made me upset for DS, who will only be 21 months when DC#2 is born.

Stepheniedl · June 2009

Bhobbsdz:
Yes!! We were not trying for this baby (on b.c pill), so I felt like I was robbing dd of the attention she needs and will need. However, I know there are plenty of mothers with 2 children under 2 yrs old. I am feeling better about that and am very excited now. I was just very sad for dd at first.

I feel guilty I waited so long. DD will be 5 when her sibling is born. She has no one to play with now and they might be to far apart to really have fun with each other. So I guess either way you feel a little bit of guilt.

In addition I am an only child so I have no idea how to make it so siblings are close. H isn't very close to his brother and sister at all and he articulate why anything with his family happens the way it does. I am so lost!

meggiejo · June 2009

Since my m/c in January, where I wasn't ready to have #2, I have really come to terms with how much I want a second. I am so glad that DS won't be older. I think of my SIL who will have a 3 yr old and newborn in November. She is potty training now and her life is getting easier- once a day naps, no bottles, no diapers- and she is getting ready to start all over again. My life is all about diapers, formual and naps, so it won't be like I am sacrificing anything like she feels.

*megsy* · June 2009

Thrilled but nervous for myself! #1 will be fine...nothing bothers her I swear!!!

Breezie17 · June 2009

I am slightly nervous but also totally excited. I think Olivia is going to LOVE having a sibling. She is super social and loves playing with other kids. I am scared though, you just never know what to expect.

Paige's Mommy · June 2009

I'm excited to have a baby again, our daughter is 3. I think she'll be great with the new baby because she is always so gentle and loving towards other babies. We wanted our children 4 years apart so our timing was close to perfect. I was terrified to have 2 toddlers, 1 stubborn toddler is enough for me LOL!!

clovermom · June 2009

DD was a (fabulous) surprise to us so I guess I am more excited this time around. It's nice to feel more confident this go round...like I've done it once and lived through it. LOL! I'm actually happy that our LOs will be close in age. DD is very active and craves social interaction so I think a sibling will be wonderful for her. Plus, she'll have someone else to play with besides me during the day. Whew!

Cakes2114 · June 2009

We were initially going to wait another 2-3 months to TTC but between weening and everything else I guess we have a little suprise. I am excited for DD to be close in age to her sibling but freaked out about fitting two in a 2 bedroom townhouse... plus I am definitely feeling a lot worse then the first time around so that has been interesting!

TulipsOnTuesday · June 2009

I just got my BFP yesterday and my biggest issue is how DD will feel (she'll be 17 months when DC #2 is born) and how I'm going to handle the logistics of two that close in age... We tried this month and then decided to wait a little longer because I didn't think I was ready and here it is!! DH and I were convinced it would take a little while because we needed IF treatments with DD... I guess somethings are meant to be! I am totally freaking out in between getting really excited though!

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