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jacksjerseygirl
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APs - which type of party did you have?
jacksjerseygirl
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Re: APs - which type of party did you have?
I was thinking post- placement shower could equate to a welcome home party.
We already have a welcome home/shower planned for August but lately I have been getting a lot of invites for finalization parties of people we have met through our support groups who are now finalizing their adoptions. So now I'm wondering if we have both, and then will ppl feel like they have to bring gifts both times or ...
Plus, his finalization will be in November - ugh november and december are the most hectic months I think with all the holiday stuff. Anyway ...
I think I will def specify no gifts for the finalization party on the invites. Then people do not feel obligated,but I'm sure there will be a few gifts anyways...it's an exciting event and a really big deal:)
I agree! Dh and I do not live near either of our families - so it makes it a bit more difficult. Hopefully we can work it out.
You should have both!
We had two showers about a month after we came home with our little guy. I didn't want anything sooner because we were still waiting on a few birthfather issues down in TX (we thought everything was resolved by the time Owen was 6 weeks only to find out months later that they weren't - ugh!). One shower was thrown by women from my church and one was a co-ed shower thrown by professional friends and contacts. We don't live by our families, so we didn't have any family at either shower. Of course our parents and siblings came to see the baby, they just came right after we got home not for our showers a month later.
When we finalized (10 months later) we hosted a party at our home. We had close friends and family there. We did the party open house style after our court appointment. We had food, cake, etc. It was a perfect day! I am so glad we did a finalization party. Becoming a family legally is a huge deal and such a relief - you don't realize how much you've been holding your breath until that day! I think one of the wonderful things about adoption is that you get to share your journey to becoming a family in very real and meaningful ways with the people who love you. I couldn't imagine that day w/o including the people who supported us most throughout the whole process.