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3rd Trimester
mistresscox
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DH and I are about to rumble...(long vent)
mistresscox
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Sorry, but I have to vent.
MIL is coming next week to visit (coming Monday, leaving Wednesday). That is fine except she TOLD us when she was coming (did not ask) and is coming to the middle of the week-knowing full well that DH works a regular office job/hours. It turns out that I don't have to work any of the days that she will be here (darn) so I will have the joy of entertaining her.
I asked DH today what time he was going to take off while she was here (he has a little flexibility in hours and can take a day off in the middle of the week and make it up later in the week). He tells me that he's not taking any time off-that it is HER problem that she is coming in the middle of the week. I told him that I really didn't feel up to entertaining his mother while he was at work, and he told me "well, just don't entertain her then." Stupid boy answer. I told him that wouldn't be possible because she won't just let me chill/sleep if he's not around and he got all huffy and finally agreed to take Tuesday off to spend time with her.
Tonight he's on the phone with a friend telling him to come visit us on Sunday and stay for a few days (he just got laid off and wants some distraction). So I told friend as a heads up that MIL will be here M, T, W so to factor that into if he wants to come or not (friend is like me and doesn't do well with MIL). DH turns to me and flips out saying "it's not like she'll be here that long-she's coming in Monday and leaving Wednesday-it's not that big of a deal!"
I know he's right in that she's not going to be here that long but she REALLY stresses me out. I have to do a lot of mental prep before we spend time with her because of her mood swings and overall craziness. He knows this, and that is part of why he doesn't want to take time off work-he also doesn't want to spend time with her.
I'm sorry I know this is long but I'm so frustrated as to why his mom has to be MY problem/responsibility, and DH is being a total *** about it. I'm ready to punch him in the face....grrr! Thanks for letting me vent!
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Re: DH and I are about to rumble...(long vent)
He can't say sh't to you about not wanting to spend time with her...He doesn't seem too worried about spending time with her either.
I'd be irritated too...
I can completely understand why you are upset. I have more problems dealing with guests lately, especially the ones the would get on my nerves under normal circumstances. He shouldn't be upset with you, if he's not taking special time to be with her, then he shouldn't expect you to be jumping for joy about spending time with her.
*sigh*
Boys.
Yeah, I just can't get over it. Plus I've turned into a VERY evil/hateful/angry pregnant woman this week, so that certainly doesn't help the situation.
If this visit is a complete inconvenience and you don't want her to come because you're not willing to entertain her, can't you just tell her that it's not a good time for a visit?
I don't let anyone tell me when they're coming to visit.
I totally understand... I've turned into a raging biatch when it comes to my MIL lately, and would have had a cow (not even just a baby) if she TOLD me she was coming over, and DH wanted no part of it. I would tell him that she's HIS mother and needs to be around with her, and since I'm feeling extra hormonal this week I'd probably make an issue of him inviting a friend over too and for snapping at me.
Good luck - stand strong!