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Married and it feels so good!
~!~!~ TTC Check in ~!~!~
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I know that this is not as exciting as the Urban happenings..... 
Let us know how you are doing in the process of either deciding, waiting, working on adoption, giving shots, preparing for IVF or whatever stage you are in.
QOTW: Do you anticipate issues with your MIL or Mother when the baby arrives? How long will you expect them to stay, if at all?
Married and it feels so good!
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QOTW: Ha! I bet MIL will come stay w/ us for a week, but we'll see. As far as issues go, DH says that's the hardest thing I'll have to deal with raising our child.
Good luck to everyone this week!
Update: I think that we've actually decided to start TTC NEXT month! Eeek!
I'm excited, nervous, scared... everything. The reason I say "think" is because I'm not sure that DH will be around during my O days for the next two months. Therefore, even though we want to start TTC we can't really. Know what I mean?
QOTW: I'm not sure if she would come visit. If she did, the only problem I could forsee is that she tends to be a little bossy and pushy. I don't deal well with bossy. Ask me nicely and I'll do it, tell me to do it and you can forget about it. Not to mention she has a completely different idea of raising child than DH and I do.
We're still just waiting til next year. Although DH had mentioned something that might have us trying in August
As in 2 months. For some reason now I'm nervous, ha.
QOTW: Issues with my MIL...most definitely, but she lives far far away and is daycare for my niece. So my only issues are when we visit. For some reason I have issues with how much TV she lets my 1 year old niece watch and how she only baby talks to her. Several of my cousins have small children and after talking to them, it seems kids develop speech better and have less issues if you don't baby talk them. That and I find it very annoying. She will NOT be staying with us.
My mother - no issues at all. My mother and I get along great and have no problems telling each other when we need space. She's already said that if all I want her to do is clean, do laundry and cook then she'll do that and only that. She'll probably stay with us for a month or so. She works for the state and has tons of vacation time. My sister may stay with us too...not sure yet.
I'm in my 2ww period. So we'll see what happens around the 4th of July.
QOTW: Well my mom lives 3.5 hours away from us. Given that she was not the most gentle person when raising me, we are hesitant to ever let her have any longtime visits with our child unsupervised. She has commented that she knows that when we have babies that we will want to keep it but I'm not sure if she knows the reasoning behind it. We may let our child stay with my parents only when it is able to verbalize if and when grandma hurts them. But we're still not sure. I don't anticipate my parents being hands on grandparents anyway. They seem to be in their own little world.
My IL's on the other hand are completely the opposite. MIL is retired so she has offered to take care of Imaginary grandchild so we don't have to put it in a daycare. However, she has said she will spoil it rotten which I'm kind of worried about. But in her defense, she did spoil DH rotten and he came out pretty normal. She is more than willing to help us take care of the baby and understands that sometimes we will need her to take the baby in order for us to maintain our sanity. I think I will definately have some issues adjusting and I think it's so sweet that she has offered to do so much already.
QOTW: I don't know for #2. For #1, my BFF came and stayed with me for 2 weeks. She was just fantastic. MIL was there for a 3 or 4 days. She tried but caretaking isn't her strongest point. My BFF has a new job now so I think for #2, we'll be on our own.
No real updates. AF came and went 2 weeks ago. But we aren't really trying this month since I am having knee surgery in a week. I am hoping we'll be good to go in July to start trying again.
AF came three days early so I'm already out this month. I guess better early then late! I'm surprisingly okay with it and not as upset as I thought I'd be. I really hope it happens this month though because I really don't want DS to be that much older when the new baby comes.
MIL lives about 5 minutes from us. It's really not that bad at all. My only complaint is that she doesn't come around enough! But I love my MIL and we get along really well.
Liam is 5!
QOTW: My mom is very unpredictable but honestly I don't think that she will come. She does not really care that we are trying or about our struggles and I really don't think that she would take a long enough break in her schedule to come for any length of time longer than one... two days at the most. Now, if we adopt, she will probably come for a month. As far as MIL, oh, I so wish that she would be here for us to have issues. She so badly wanted us to have a baby and wanted another grandchild and she would have spoiled me and the baby like crazy. So I am going to be calling on my always supportive nesties to get me through the first weeks becuase we will literally be completely on our own without a clue as to what we are doing.
Update: Spoke with Kelly yesterday and they are taking me off BC early so we will start follitism sooner so that we are not chancing DH being out of town for IUI. While we were on the phone she asked if my cyst had burst and I told her that it had not but I am having pretty consistant burning. She said that most likely it is leaking but has grown quite a bit from the last sono (is her guess). She put me on pain meds that I need to keep in my system consistantly until I am sure that it is gone becuase this one is going to be really bad when it bursts. Her exact words were "don't underestimate how painful this is going to be. The pain could very well cause you to pass out if you are not on pain meds." Isn't that nice!!! So I am a zombie on meds and just waiting for this stupid thing to go away.
The entire situation with the follitism has really played games with my head. When we thought that we were going to start last week I was over the moon excited and ready to go. I just knew that this is it. Now, I am kind of numb I guess, because I really don't feel that hope and excitement. It is just kind of like we are moving on to follitism, but deal. Not feeling too hopeful at all and not willing to risk the let down again.
On a positive note: DH has planned a surprise get away for our anniversary on July 4 which is much needed and we are really looking forward to closing out the world and just enjoying each other. First thing on the list is a couples massage, then a game of golf that I fully intend on winning!
Good luck to everyone this week (including you Poontater) and big hugs all around!
We are very excited because we are "officially" TTC starting this cycle. We just kept moving it up and up on the timeline until we both decided we didn't want to wait any longer.
My heart actually feels heavy now though because I just found out from my mom that my sister is TTC #2. This may sound like petty sibling rivalry, but my sister has always been the family favorite. She lives like 15 min. from my parents, so naturally being the one they see all the time, I feel like her pregnancy and subsequent birth will be a bigger deal to them and feel more relevent. Meanwhile, while we're pregnant with #1, we'll have no family in Austin, and what is a huge deal for us will be overshadowed if my sister is going through it at the same time. I just wanted ours to be a really big deal to my family, and now I feel like if she has her baby shortly before us, they'll think, "Oh, another one, only now we have to travel." when we have ours.
The QOTW is good because it is relevent to what has been voiced on the boards lately (poor Fiesty!) I don't anticipate any conflict with either of the moms. I think I will really want their emotional support and assistance getting the hang of things, though staying longer than 2 weeks would probably be too much. I'm starting to wish I lived closer to family, now that we're planning on expanding ours. After all, "It takes a village"!
I really struggle with how we're going to handle our families. I will be the first to have a baby on my side of the family so they're going to be hard to handle. And I'm going to handle things so differently than my BIL & his wife that I know the IL's will not be happy... I'm adamant about our families not being present immediately. I want a little bit of time at the hospital to enjoy our baby before having to share. Is that so totally wrong? I'm not sure I even want to call our families when I go into labor b/c I don't trust them to listen to our wishes! Anyway... I know I'll be so excited and will want to show baby off, but I want some alone time.BIL's wife went so far as letting our MIL in the delivery room (her mom passed when she was younger). Yea sorry Nana, you won't see this grandchild born!
Anyway - the part that's tricky for us is that nobody lives here. Anyone who comes to visit the baby will end up staying with us. MIL stayed with BIL/SIL for 2 weeks when my niece was born. I trust that MIL will actually be useful though and handle things like cooking/cleaning. My mom... all I can imagine is her trying to be a baby hog and getting in the way...
So who knows! I truly dread it though.
sorry to write an essay. i've obviously thought about this before. who knows.... maybe i'll change my mind when the time comes! still waiting before TTC. hubby should finish school in december so we're leaning towards starting in January... but we'll see!
well, i guess i'll jump on the TTC wagon! we have been TTC for 2 months, actively and i am trying to be patient, as last time we got PG the first cycle trying (incl. our 2 miscarriages). anyway, just got AF last week, so it's on to this month! hopefully we'll have better luck!
qotw: i have been blessed with my MIL so far respecting our choices, but i do have to be thick skinned, as she is VERY opinionated about parenting. i have to really try hard to take her advice with a grain of salt. she was very anti-breastfeeding and when DS wasn't gaining weight early on, she kept repeating that we should switch to formula and being already sensitive about my milk-making, it kinda drove me nuts. she was only trying to help, but with hormones and everything it was hard to hear again and again. my advice is to try not to take anyone's unsolicited advice too seriously. everyone has an opinion and if you're too sensitive about it, you'll go crazy. trust your instincts!
Wow so many people starting to TTC! Good luck to you and everyone else trying!
QOTW: My MIL passed away before we got married so no issues there. I would LOVE it if my mom came up to stay with us and help out for a little while. She was a cloth diapering, breastfeeding, make-your-own-baby-food mom so I know she'll be a big help and very supportive of our decisions. If any other family come, we have lots of relatives in the area that they can stay with. Only DH and maybe my mom would be welcome in the delivery room though (plus doctors/nurses and possibly a birth photog).
Update: We talked a little about me getting off BC this year. I think I'll stay on it a little while but I can't wait to get off. I was off last month (due to my own laziness of reordering the prescription) and just felt better... no more nausea from the pills, sex drive was back to normal levels, lost 5 lbs almost immediately. Now I'm back on and I've got the nausea, loss of sex drive, and the weight came back. Bleh. Maybe I'll stay on for another 6 months or so before I go off and start charting to TTA. We'll see...
BFP 12.20.2010 :: missed m/c 1/2011 around 8 weeks
BFP @ 9dpo 5.24.2011 :: missed m/c 6/2011 around 7 weeks
positive for ANAs (1:40) with a speckled pattern
MTHFR c677t mutation (heterozygous)
*folic acid, baby asprin, Prometrium, acupuncture, Lovenox*
BFP @ 9dpo 2.1.2012 || HCG = 8 : Progesterone = 19.2
2nd HCG @ 11dpo = 40 || 3rd HCG @ 21dpo = over 5000!
Stick, little one, stick! EDD October 15, 2012
WOW! I see a big BFP rush coming, soon! Good luck to everyone.
QOTW: My MIL will stay with us over my dead body. Don't worry, DH feels the same way. I think I'd like to spend the first days of my child's life without having to babysit my MIL as well.
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I just edited out a long pointless rant. I need to start counting my blessings, because I have a lot of them in my life.
No real updates, we are still "waiting" ... waiting for DH to buy his car, waiting for the economy to turn around. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting. Although, more than likely, we're just waiting for DH to buy his car.
Oh side thought: When exactly did I get "old enough" to have a baby?! Because in my mind, I still feel really, really young to be having children. However, I feel like the day I turned 25 everyone else (who's business this is NOT) started freaking out. How can it go from, "Oh you're young, good idea on waiting." to "Ohmygod, when are you going to have a baby? Are you pregnant yet?"
Oh, I found another grey hair. That makes 3. Hey, it's cool though, it goes with the wrinkles and cellulite. When the hell did I get old enough to have grey hair and wrinkles?!
I'm in a bad mood today. Is it showing?
Does this mean you'll have wine in your purse tonight?
TTC: I guess you can say I'm officially in the TTC camp for #2. We've been talking about trying for a few months now, but now we're actually really going to start. I started charting this month, so we'll see how it goes. Problem is we're feeling VERY lazy which is not good for babymaking.
QOTW: MIL, hmm...She is closer now then when DD was born, but I can't see her staying with us - it might make me crazy.
BUWHAHAHA! Ive had cellulite and/or stretch marks for almost as long as I can remember. I feel ya'!
Ditto. Except in my case its a big-GER screen TV, surround sound, new this, new that.
Actually, its just the "we need to be ready" cold feet.
Ok, fine. We can wait some more - - - But I'm not waiting forever.
He has actually started coming around since his Dad sounded excited about us TTC. I bought TCOYF and DH told his Dad. Since his dad was stoked, I think it has made him feel a little better.
10/24/2011 - Surprise BFP; EDD 6/21/12! BOY!
Sweet baby boy born 6/14 9lb 2oz via csection.
QOTW: I would like my mom to be around for sure. I have seen her be the super-awesome helper to my sister twice. She had really overbearing parents, so she is all about respecting her kids' decisions. She will be great. DH doesn't really have a say in whether or not she comes to help-- I will demand it!
My real MIL (DH's mom)-- I would also love to have her around after the first couple of weeks. I think it could be really handy because she is a great cook and she is also a doctor, so I know she could help ease my fears. She is a very calming presence for me. We get along really well and easily and she is always very helpful (to a fault, sometimes). Our child would be her first grandchild and I know she will love being involved. The only problem is that she and DH are a little too alike and can push each others' buttons too much.
DH's stepmom-- I have really mixed feelings about this. When she is on good behavior, I have seen her be very helpful to all four of her daughters after having kids (cooking, cleaning, night feedings, etc.). When she is on her bad behavior, it's like being in the presence of Satan. If nobody else is around (i.e. no other family members), she would probably be on good behavior, if not a little overbearing. However, I am not sure she would be as helpful with me as she would with her daughters and she is the type to demand recognition for every little thing. Also, I know she will compare me to her daughters a lot and that will annoy me.
No TTC updates for us. We are moving back to TX next week! Then I am going to London again and then will be home for summer. I think I am giving up charting. I have been way to busy / tired in the mornings to remember to take my temp (I always seem to remember as I am drinking my coffee). Being OOT will make it basically impossible. Also, my temps are all over the place, so I am not sure it is even useful at this point. CM is a better marker of ovulation for me.
Sara, all the cool girls have grey hair these days. Welcome to the club.
can I jump into checkins? We've been trying for a few months and no luck. I see so many nesties with BFPs I think it may be the water... so I've decided to try to be a more active poster!
QOTW: OMG my mother in law. It doesn't help she's an alcoholic and prone to some extremely insane mood swings. I used to think it would be fine because my FIL is good at controlling her. Sadly he died last month. So now she's clingy and can't wait for us to have a baby so she can "do everything Jay would have done with it." Sigh. I hope we can set some boundaries but that's a very touchy subject right now.
Updates: like I said we've not had a lot of luck. First month timing was off.. second month just didn't happen... third month FIL died and that just screwed up everything. I'm waiting for O any day now this month and I'm keeping my fingers crossed. I keep telling myself that these things take time and I remember all the struggles that I've read in my lurkerdom and seen all the happy results. I'm giving it a few more months before I worry.
I'm looking forward to being more active!
Married October 28, 2006, TTC since March 2009 IUI #1-8 w/ clomid = BFN
IVF # 1 May, 2011 = BFP!!! Stillbirth at 26 weeks (placental failure/severe IUGR)
FET #1 February, 2012-- BFP! Beta #1=84 Beta #2= 207 Beta #3= 3,526
Our Rainbow Baby is on the Way!
Welcome to all the newbies and coming out of the closeters! I know there are still a few folks that havent checked in yet like KateAggie
Aggieoj, awaiting your update as well!
Well, it looks like we are definately on to IVF either in August or Sept.
Updates: Oh, heck, my emotions are all over the place. My MIL is here for the summer and I have a pretty good MIL but we just do things differently! Some of those differences really get on my nerves and the hormones just dont make it any better. Trying to figure out how to cough up 10K within the next month doesnt make things any easier!
QOTW: I would like to have my mother here for a couple of weeks but I would also like to have my MIL here. She hasnt been able to be very involved with her other grandchildren and we really do want her to be involved. She is a great person just does some things different than me. It has been a hard adjustment but we will get over it.
Hugs and lots of baby dust to everyone!!
Married and it feels so good!