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Anyone else have no plan/schedule after baby arrives?

CandyMatteCandyMatte member
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I feel like I am the only one who doesn't have a set plan yet for after Maternity Leave is over. Currently I work full time (really only 32 hours/wk) and DH also works full time. Unfortunatly DH will be getting laid off in the fall a couple weeks after Baby arrives.

I feel like I have no plan because I don't know DH's future schedule or salary. If I knew DH's sched and salary than I could run some numbers to see if we can afford for me to only work 2 days. If we both have to work full time then who's going to watch our baby? Daycare is probably full by now and probably way out of our price range....Both our parents work full time still so it's not like we have them to fall back on. Both of our Mom's said that they would probably be able to take the baby 1 day which would be why I could work 2 days.

Anyone else not have a set plan yet?

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  • Soap1Soap1 member

    I don't have a plan either!  I'm not sure what my work schedule is going to look like in the fall.  My Mom offered to take the baby when I go back to work full time in the Spring, but I have no idea what my plan is this fall!

    I guess I'll cart the baby up to the office with me a couple times a week :)

    Edit:  I've also tried to think about a baby "budget" but I have no idea how much babies cost either! haha.  So I really have no plan!

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  • AbinormalAbinormal member
    We have an idea of what we want to do, but not a set plan. My DH is a firefighter and he works on a rotating shift. 24 hours on with 48 hours off. On the days when he is home we plan on him being with baby, but I am not sure how he will do with this. Although I know he will love and be able to take care of our baby, I see him getting frustrated and bored with an infant all day. The days when he works we are hoping to find someone in the neighborhood who will watch the baby. I am hoping to avoid daycare as long as possible.
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  • lissah23lissah23 member

    I don't have a plan yet either.  I'm hoping to not have to go back to my current job, and to find one closer to home - so everything is up in the air until I figure out if I'm staying where I am or starting somewhere new.

    I'm going to apply with a couple places about 6 months into my mat leave and figure things out from there.

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  • lifesadancelifesadance member

    I'm in your boat too.  The only thing I know is that baby will be coming in December, I'll be off work for 2-3 months and after that... who knows???

    DH will be finishing up school in December and will be looking for a new job so we don't know what his schedule will be like, what hours we will need child care (let alone WHO will be providing this child care).  We don't know what his income will be like or how far away he'll be working.  

    it's a little nerve-racking at times because I'm somewhat of a type-A personality but I'm learning to fly by the seat of my pants and trust that everything will come together when the time comes.  

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  • KB1001KB1001
    Well i somewhat have a plan but not sure how it will work once the baby comes.  My SO says he will work from home 3 days a week and i am hoping that the other days a week my mom will watch the baby.  I know i can count on my mom but not sure if my SO will be able to stay home.
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  • magdusiamagdusia member
    i dont have a plan either.. all i know is that i will try to find things to do to make money at home so i dont go back to work.. but those are high hopes.
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  • CandyMatteCandyMatte member
    Thank you Ladies, It's nice to know I'm not alone :) Doesn't solve anything but makes me feel better!!! Hehehe
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  • FLVintageBrideFLVintageBride
    If I were you, I'd still do some research and try to find a few daycare options and put your baby's name on the waitlist.  You can always cancel, but that way at least you'll have some peace of mind.  If you're concerned about cost, focus on home-based centers- they tend to be more affordable.
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  • SWBs WifeySWBs Wifey
    I don't have a job now (as my last one- getting my degree, finally, ended in May), so I'm not looking for a job until the baby comes.  Most likely I WILL work, but I'm not sure if it will be full time or part time. 
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  • whitrnwhitrn member

    You are definitely not alone!  I'm currently in school and will finish up in August.  It's a very exciting time since it seems like I've been in school forever, but who wants to hire a nurse who is 6 months pregnant? 

    I plan on trying to find a job and complete their orientation through December, take off for a month or so, go back to work part-time and work on the weekends.  If that works out, I can watch the baby during the week and my husband can watch the baby while I'm at work.  I could work Friday, Saturday, and Sunday and let my MIL watch the baby for one day but I'm not so sure about that!

    We definitely don't want to put the baby in daycare until they get a little bit older.   The cost of daycare is insane for an infant (or any child up to 18 months) and is definitely out of our price range right now. 

     Not having a plan or knowing future schedules and salaries is worrisome!


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  • andreajerseyandreajersey

    Same boat! My husband graduates x-ray tech school in August and is currently looking for a job in his field. We are thinking he will get something with rotating shifts, which will mean he can be home with the baby on some days. My mother-in-law will be babysitting on days we're both at work.

     However--if he doesn't have a job by the time the baby is born, I will be taking 2 months of leave instead of 3, and we will have a temporary stay-at-home dad situation.

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  • ickastickaickasticka

    Well, you're ahead of me because I still have no idea what is going to happen for maternity leave!  I work at a very small company (12 people) so there isn't even a policy in place, and I'm obviously not covered by FMLA.  I have been wanting to talk to my boss, but there just has not been a good time to do so.  Business has been a little slow and he's been stressed out, so it's not like I can ask him what he's going to do for me.  I just keep hoping that everything will work out when the time comes.  I'm going to have to talk to him sooner or later, but I'm really hoping that as my belly gets bigger he will approach me.

    Then I also have to worry about what we're going to do after the baby is actually here.  Our parents are all still working full time, so that's out.  I really don't want to put a newborn in daycare.  I'm really hoping that I can convince the boss to let me bring the baby to work, but I'm sure that's a long shot.  Who knows?  It's all still up in the air.  I am a planner, so not knowing is very hard for me!

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