I think its just normal..

shopgirl 917 · June 2009

to feel ready and have baby fever at 29 years old and being married 1 year in August, and "together" 7 1/2. He says I'm obsessed with pregnant people and baby shows but I think its pretty normal to feel that desire!! I know I'm not alone! He wanted to wait a year, which its almost been- and I mentioned it a few months ago and he said "give me a couple months to get used to the idea" - by no means do I want to push him into anything, so I'll wait for him to tell me he's ready- but in the meantime, what does he expect! I think he figures if it "happens" he's ok with it, but officially "trying" is a scary thought to him, although all his friends have had kids or are having them.. sorry to vent.. thanks ladies

war_eagle · June 2009

Normal for women, but not normal for men (although MH and I had a role reversal on this one and he was ready way before I was).

heather_09_15_07 · June 2009

allrightythen

armandos_girl · June 2009

Yup. I think most of us have been there at one point or another.

MissNikki007 · June 2009

I hear ya. My Mr. thinks (or knows) I am obsessed too. That's why I don't tell him that I Bump...he would think I was totally nuts!

mrsadamc 05 · June 2009

In order to keep your baby fever in check my perscription is to stay away from this site. I love it here but it only fuels the fire. Luckily, we are starting to try in 8 days.

johannaknip · June 2009

Hubs was like this. Now that we are 'trying' he still gets a little scared. I think that's prety normal. I'm calm now, but when I get KTFU I am sure I will have moments of 'holy sh^t, I'm growing a person'

shopgirl 917 · June 2009

MissNikki007:
I hear ya. My Mr. thinks (or knows) I am obsessed too. That's why I don't tell him that I Bump...he would think I was totally nuts!

oh me either! That would definitely confirm it! I wish we'd have that "role reversal" I'm not sure he'd start to want it until he looked around and realized he was the only one without kids and that could be 5-10 more years from now! Its a bit frustrating.

JnJHud · June 2009

Have you guys talked about his reasons for waiting? Are there financial reasons for waiting? Things he wants to do before baby appears? It may help both of you to talk through any concerns/misunderstandings if you haven't already done so.

DH has been ready for a while. I've had severe BOTB, but the rational side of me has held off on trying because we had a savings goal to achieve and various other things to do before being truly ready to TTC. Maybe your H feels the same.

GL.

akaluttenberger · June 2009

Mine recently admitted to being afraid to try and all the reasons involved... makes it easier for me to handle. He thought it would make me more angry if he shared his reasons, but found out it is the opposite. Also, finally got through to him just what a difference it makes for my mood if we at least TALK about ttc, what it will be like/involve, what our hopes/dreams are for our future children.

It's one thing to say give me a few months to get used to it, but for the conversation to end there and to just 'sit it out' is quite frustrating... he has already commented on my improved attitude. Score.

Good luck!

easjer05 · June 2009

I think it's normal.

I also don't think it's pushing him or nagging him to have a genuine discussion about what he is thinking and feeling, and whether or not he is ready, or what he thinks needs to be in place to make him feel ready, or whatever. Waiting around on him, with no insight into his thoughts, is only going to aggravate you. Ask him to explain how he's feeling. Make it clear that you are not trying to set a date yet or push him into being ready, just communicate with him.

shopgirl 917 · June 2009

JnJHud:
Have you guys talked about his reasons for waiting? Are there financial reasons for waiting? Things he wants to do before baby appears? It may help both of you to talk through any concerns/misunderstandings if you haven't already done so.

DH has been ready for a while. I've had severe BOTB, but the rational side of me has held off on trying because we had a savings goal to achieve and various other things to do before being truly ready to TTC. Maybe your H feels the same.

GL.

When I mentioned it last, after not saying anything for almost year as he requested- he said "ok, we can have a baby" and I know his tone and that was just a "ok, whatever you want" and I said "this has to be something we both want, so tell me what your concerns are" and its not finances- we've been building our savings, we have a house and family close- he just said he'll miss our spontaneiety (sp?) and being able to just pick up and go and relax when we want, which is understandable. They are all valid concerns, but he's 31, and we've had "time" I'm just now waiting for him to bring it up again- and be patient.

MrsW722 · June 2009

I think this is totally normal to be ready for a baby at 29. I just turned 29 last month and have had BOTB a lot lately. We've been married for almost 3 years (next month), but I'm still in school so that's why we've waited. I will be graduating in December so for right now we've stopped TTA and if it happens then great, but if not then we'll officially start TTC when I graduate.

No real advice for you, just wanted to let you know I can relate to how you feel! Good luck!

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