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i need help

kat.in.the.hatkat.in.the.hat
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sorry to keep unloading like this, but at the moment i can't seem to think straight

my sister is meeting with the funeral home tomorrow and hoping to have a graveside service tomorrow afternoon or thursday morning.  but the funeral home has been so busy that they haven't been able to meet with her yet and their meeting tomorrow isn't until 10 a.m. (how sad is that, btw, that the funeral home is so busy.)

my dad seems to think the service won't be until friday (and he's a pastor and deals with funeral homes all the time) but my sister wants it sooner and lets face it, a grieving mother packs a helluve a persuasive punch.

so do i fly out tomorrow am with marion and stay through friday night?  or do i wait and see when the funeral is and if it's thursday or friday fly out that morning and fly home that night and josh can work from home all day and keep mar.  but then, if they do manage to have it wednesday afternoon, i run the risk of missing it because i'd have to catch a plane like in an hour.  and it's josh's busy busy busy time at work so he can work from home one day, but not two, so if i go home thursday and stay until friday or saturday incase it gets pushed back to this weekend, then marion needs to come with me.

i'm just confused and can't think which is the logical decision to make and the thought of getting on a plane tomorrow morning and having to pack for us both tonight makes me panic becuase i'm such a planner and overall, just the thought that my sister is going to have to bury her son this week makes all my concerns seem so petty and selfish.

someone tell me what the smartest thing is, okay?

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  • charlotteLcharlotteL
    I would fly out tomorrow and stay until after the funeral.  I am sure your sister needs you.
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  • darvadarva

    I would go with tomorrow morning, just in case and take Marion with you... for simplicities sake.  Trying to rush around to get there quick won't be easy with a little one or in general. 

    *hugs*  If you need anything let me know! 

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  • KNJeppKNJepp

    Oh Kat...

    First of all, a deep breath is definitely in order.  It's very difficult to think clearly in situations like this, when there are so many different logistical things to consider, plus trying to be sensitive to the needs and feelings of others. 

    I agree with others who have said to fly out tomorrow morning, take Mar with you, and plan on coming back Friday night.  That way, you know you'll be able to be there no matter what the timing of things ends up being.  And it will give you time to try to be there in the physical sense for your sister and family, which will make you feel better as well.  

     

     

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  • horn_jm@hotmail.comhorn_jm@hotmail.com
    Hugs to you - I know this is such a difficult time.  Ditto the others.  You don't want to risk missing anything... my cousin missed most of my great grandma's funeral due to flight delays.  I completely understand stressing about packing for both of you, but hopefully you can stay with family, and buy anything there you might forget.
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  • kat.in.the.hatkat.in.the.hat

    thanks yall...

    we're heading out on the first flight tomorrow morning, mar and i are.  we haven't bought a return ticket yet (god bless southwest and their one way pricing!) and we'll just play coming home by ear.  but no matter what, we'll be there for the services now.

    i took some deep breaths, went to pilates and josh came home early to help me pack so we're all ready to go now.

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    imagekat.in.the.hat:

    thanks yall...

    we're heading out on the first flight tomorrow morning, mar and i are.  we haven't bought a return ticket yet (god bless southwest and their one way pricing!) and we'll just play coming home by ear.  but no matter what, we'll be there for the services now.

    i took some deep breaths, went to pilates and josh came home early to help me pack so we're all ready to go now.

    Oh good, that sounds like a perfect solution.  Being able to play it by ear not only means you'll be there for the services no matter what, but also gives you flexibility in terms of the needs of your sister/family.

    I'm glad that you're feeling more centered/settled about things.

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  • alisa1228alisa1228
    imagekat.in.the.hat:

    thanks yall...

    we're heading out on the first flight tomorrow morning, mar and i are.  we haven't bought a return ticket yet (god bless southwest and their one way pricing!) and we'll just play coming home by ear.  but no matter what, we'll be there for the services now.

    i took some deep breaths, went to pilates and josh came home early to help me pack so we're all ready to go now.

    sounds like you came to the perfect solution.  {{hugs}} to you and your family...

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