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STR: Your dinner routine.
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This topic is a huge point of contention between DH & I. He was raised in a household where his mom was a huge culinary snob & cooked everything from scratch. I was raised in a household where my mom knew how to cook, but often went for what was quick, easy & convenient.
See where I'm going with this?
Well DH loves to cook. He's great at it. There are nights I'll come home from work and he's whipping up some shrimp scampi for dinner. Or he'll make beef stroganoff, but he'll make the sauce from scratch. I greatly appreciate it, however it's not something I ask of him... he seems to enjoy it. However, he has a grievence with my lack of cooking. Ok, so I make more of an effort to cook. However, I tend to go for what's easy & quick, and he doesn't "count" that as cooking.
For example, I made a Macaroni & Grill dinner last night. Basically I bought the box containing the ingredients, the raw chicken and then I cooked it. It turned out great. But he made some nasty remark about having dinner out of a box yet again. I got mad & told him he should have married his mother instead of me.
So please, post about your dinner routines... I need to know if I'm being unreasonable or if he is. TIA!
Oh WWWOVD? LOL, jk.
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Re: STR: Your dinner routine.
Personally, I am also a food snob and make most things from scratch. BUT...if cooking isn't your thing, it's not your thing. Maybe if he loves to cook and doesn't like your cooking, he should be the one in charge of dinners and let you clean up. Are there other things you do around the house that he doesn't, like clean the bathroom? I think you just need to sit down and talk about what you guys feel is a "fair" distribution of labor where household chores are concerned.
He's being a brat. At least you're cooking something.?
I like to cook fresh, clean meals, and do so at least 5 nights a week. DH loves it; he grew up canned fruit, iceberg salads, and shake 'n' bake.?
I make some easy things for DS, like pasta and sauce, but usually he eats what we're having.
If your DH wants to eat more like he's used to, tell him he just earned the job of dinner-maker every night.
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I think he should just shut up and eat, honestly. If you get dinner on the table and had to do anything in the kitchen, I call that cooking. I do think if I were you I would try more things from scratch or scratchish (some premade ingredients, but still mostly 'homecooked'). There are a LOT of easy few ingredient meals out there (I know, because I look for them!) and trust me, they'll taste better.
I didn't know how to cook really when DH and I got together. Most nights I cooked frozen meals from bags! But it really is cheaper, healthier, and not too much more time consuming to make some things at home.
As for our dinners, I cook almost every night. DH only grills, and usually I do most of the prep anyway. He watches her while I cook dinner, otherwise I pull my hair out because she's whining on my leg. I do a lot of recipes that call for simple ingredients and nothing too time consuming. And the crockpot is your friend!!
Maybe next time he whips up sauce from scratch, he could make a quadruple amount and freeze three portions for you to thaw and use later.
While I understand that he might not like the preservatives and chemicals in boxed meals, you're doing your best and you're not bringing home KFC. So I think there's a compromise there.
LOL, earlier in this thread I was thinking of the movie Urban Cowboy when John Travolta whines, "Oh, McDonalds again?" because his wife never cooks.
I am a food snob as well, but since we had DD all of that has gone down the toilet. Most nights, I can't even get dinner finished until after DD is in bed. On the nights that DH works, I don't even eat dinner sometimes because DD won't stay out from under my feet & I don't feel comfortable cooking on the stove with her underneath me.
Nowadays, we eat thrown-together pasta, grilled meat with rice-in-a-box & a frozen veggie, chicken pot pie and a few quick & easy recipes that I can make from scratch (or mostly from scratch) without too much effort or time. If you want a few quick & easy recipes that are yummy & homemade, pm me.
I think if he wants a from-scratch dinner that bad, he should cook it.
I like to cook from scratch, but I am not a snob and fondly remember my grandmother's Tater Tot Hot Dish as one of my favorite things from childhood.
Can you meet him halfway? Kind of Sandra Lee territory? Frankly, you could get to the Macaroni Grill chicken pretty easily without the box, but still getting some help along the way. Like sauteeing the chicken in a pan with onions, adding a box of chicken broth and a can of tomatoes with garlic, bring to a boil, add half a box of pasta, covering, turn it on low and walk away. Kind of all the same "Hamburger Helper" sort of steps, with convenience foods, but not an out-of-the-box thing.
Actually, I think you'll like it more. I am totally unsnobby about using convenience food building blocks to come up with something better and more customized to your family's tastes than the boxed stuff.