Hospital Visitors

sept14 · June 2009

I have said that I do not want family sitting in the waiting room... waiting. That will drive me crazy. I may get over ruled in the end and they may come anyway... although they will just have to sit in there and wait for hours since I am not having anyone other than DH in during labor and in the hour or so following so we can establish a bond and breastfeed and such.

But, I haven't decided about visitors after that (in postpartum). Are you going to try to limit the number of visitors?

RubyRed1085 · June 2009

The only people that will be up at the hospital when I give birth are FI and my mom. Everyone else will be notified that I'm going in, but no one will come until after he's here. There's no point in me trying to tell people not to come after he's born though.. they wouldn't listen anyway. I'm not upset by it by any means though.

jlynnr87 · June 2009

I honestly may not answer the phone the next few days after she's born so that only grandparents and siblings will be around.. That said, I would like people to see her at the hospital when I can have more control of regulating visitors (or have the nurses help me if need be) than our first few days home. I want SO and I to get a feel for it on our own since he's only home 2 weeks without family breathing down our necks!

mariannerules · June 2009

Only DH family will be there, but after the birth, none of the waiting game stuff. And no one (except DH) is allowed i the room during labor/birth. my family will plan to meet baby after a few days.

Chrysallys · June 2009

I just wrote a post on this subject. DH and I do not want visitors at the hospital because of us wanting to bond with LO and to establish BF. Our hospital also strongly discourages guests as does our MW.

Family can visit once we get home.

leahbrazil · June 2009

I am still trying to figure this same thing out. I was thinking about letting family in during labor, but have since decided to go natural and do not want them in the room when I am in pain, and I plan on making good use of the tub/shower.

If they want to sit in the waiting room I can't stop them. But it will be a while after the baby is born before they get to see her. And again, whoever wants to come uninvited/unannounced during post partum is welcome to the waiting room all they want if we are breastfeeding or just not wanting visitors.

Bluemar · June 2009

I already told DH that I don't want anybody at the hospital only him. He agreed and we are calling my family (who lives 3 hours away) when our son is born. We are calling his family the day after the baby is born just because I don't get along with his sisters.

sam19 · June 2009

Only family is to visit in the hospital. I don't want any of the siblings to visit until after I give birth. I definitely don't want SIL to come while I'm in labor because she'd bring her kids and they are little hellions. If they do end up showing up, then I don't want them any where near me during labor.

Bluemar · June 2009

sam19:
Only family is to visit in the hospital. I don't want any of the siblings to visit until after I give birth. I definitely don't want SIL to come while I'm in labor because she'd bring her kids and they are little hellions. If they do end up showing up, then I don't want them any where near me during labor.

"hellions" Lol Love it!

mandolynn81 · June 2009

We will call mom amd mil when we get to the hospital. They can come in very early in labor for a little bit and wait in the waiting room as long as they want, but we will not be allowing visitors for several hours after the baby comes. We have made this very clear to everyone. Everyone else will have to come to our house a couple days later.?

We need to time to ourselves to bond. ?

MattysGirl81 · June 2009

Luckily our families don't live close enough to make this an issue. However, I would probably welcome guests after delivery - after we had time to ourselves and I got cleaned up.

Hotomale · June 2009

We decided that we're not calling our parents until after the birth. I know my dad will want to come and wait in the waiting room as soon as he hears were at the hospital, but it will make me feel bad/uncomfortable knowing that people are waiting on me.

I figure that no one can come to the hospital if they don't know we're there!

byrne15 · June 2009

um yeah. i didnt want people waiting in the waiting room either, but the only way to prevent that is to not tell anyone you are in labor. you can't stop people from coming once they know. i had 7 people waiting in the waiting room. and let me tell you...they waited a LOOOOOOOOOOOONG time. oh well!

and for vistors after that i didnt care who, when, why or how they came. i think when people limit other from visiting them in the hospital it is selfish. if people love you and your family and want to visit, they should be able to. now...i dont mean they need to be peaking through the curtain for the 1st BF session, but certainly by the next day you should allow visitors.

if people dont let me visit and there is no medical reason, i think that they are selfish weirdos. sorry!

b.heather · June 2009

I felt the same way at first, but my family on both sides reallly wanted to come wait at the waiting room. We've made it really clear to them though that we'll be wanting to focus on labor and delivery alone and that we'll want an hour at least to bond with baby and get cleaned up before they can come in. Since they know what to expect and still want to come to the waiting room we said that was fine.

jmstone · June 2009

Unfortunately we don't live anywhere near our family, with the exception of FIL. When we're en route to the hospital, DH is going to call my parents and tell them what's going on. They're going to get in the car and start the 14 hr trek to get here and meet our baby. The rest of our family members will not be able to meet our LO until it's at least a month old.

It makes me sad that they won't be here to see the baby right away and I know it makes our family sad too. I'm jealous of all of you that have family that's able to be there for you right away! ;-)

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