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Is this stupid and mean?? Seriously.

ChrissyK88ChrissyK88
in 3rd Trimester

when we found out LO was a girl we rushed to pick a name and felt very pressured and whatnot. and i love the name Abigail and DH and I refer to her as Abigail on a consistant basis...

Even DD who is 3 calls my belly Abigail...

DH and I like a lot of names more..

would it be wrong to continue to refer to LO as Abigail and name her something else at birth? and not tell anyone till shes born?

Hmmm.. contemplates..

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  • RandomlyEvilRandomlyEvil
    Hmm...that would be a bit odd.  I know my family would freak out on me if we changed the name at birth...but that's because my mom and sister are having things monogrammed.
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  • JenniferTCUJenniferTCU member
    Your baby- your decision.
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  • *blondie**blondie* member
    What about using Abigail as a middle name?
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  • suscqsuscq
    Name her whatever you want!!
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  • RD'sgirlRD'sgirl member

    Do you mean is it mean to not tell anyone what you are really naming dd?  If that's what you are asking then NO, she is your baby, you have a right to keep the name to yourselves if you want.

    IMO it's a little weird to refer to LO as a specific name knowing that you are not going to name her that name.

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  • MBNBMBNB
    You can do whatever you want. The baby hasn't arrived yet and everyone can adjust when she does.?
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  • mariannerulesmariannerules

    Do what ever you want.  Maybe she'll come out and not look like an "abigail".  

    DH and I don't call LO by name, for that reason.  We may change our minds when she is born.  So we have just nicknamed our baby for now.

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  • tiannaleetiannalee

    imageJenniferTCU:
    Your baby- your decision.

    This.  You do what you want.  Me and DH cant decide on a name and are frankly sick of other people's opinions on the matter.  It's your baby!  I have friends who had lists of names and went in a completely different direction once the baby was born.  

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  • pinkle08pinkle08
    Well if you don't like it as much then change it. This is the time to do it. It will be a lil weird at first but once it's done ppl will forget the first name picked. Dh and I are not telling anyone our sons name til he is born so we could change it last min and no one would know.
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  • beth thackerbeth thacker
    I see nothing wrong with changing the name at birth. It's your baby, name her what you want. However I do think it's just weird to call her one thing all the way until she's born.
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  • yaleyale member
    If you like other names more, then make the switch. No reason to hang on to a name that isn't your favorite.
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  • ChrissyK88ChrissyK88
    imagemariannerules:

    Do what ever you want.  Maybe she'll come out and not look like an "abigail". 

    This... what if she looks nothing like an abigail.. I think i should love her name as much as i love her.

    im just trying to figure out if itd be wrong if we decided on another name when its really time to be putting names to faces.

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  • SmellygirlSmellygirl member
    So this is pretty much your ONLY opportunity to change your baby's name hassle-free.  I say go with the name you like - and just tell people that she didn't look like an Abigail!
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  • Smtih&coSmtih&co member
    We have three names picked out and can't decide.  So we refer to her by all three different names at different times.  I figure she should hear her options.  I agree that if you want to change it, now is the time.  But I would give my fam a heads-up so that they can not get things monogrammed and get used to the idea, but that's just me.  FWIW, my MIL was sure she was having a girl when she was pregnant with BIL.  She called him Amy the whole time she was pregnant, so much so that she didn't have a boy name ready.  He's now Todd, and seems to be relatively well-adjusted despite the fact that he was called Amy for nine months. 
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  • ChrissyK88ChrissyK88

    imageSmtih&co:
      He's now Todd, and seems to be relatively well-adjusted despite the fact that he was called Amy for nine months. 

    I needed that thank you! If i give family the heads up before hand they will wage war on me.

    the two items i know to be monogramed will be done after LO's birth so that the date and time can be done at the same time

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  • sugar*and*spicesugar*and*spice
    Its not permanent until it is on the birth cert...and even then...Shes your baby!! name her what you would like...you do have the right to change your mind.
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  • mburkhemburkhe member

    Part of the reason we decided to pick her name before she was born was so we could start referring to her as that name, in hopes making her more of a family member before her actual arrival. So yeah, I would think it would be weird to call her one name all along, then switch it at birth.

    If you want to change her name, just do it now. Why wait.

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  • EvelynsmomEvelynsmom

    imageRandomlyEvil:
    Hmm...that would be a bit odd.  I know my family would freak out on me if we changed the name at birth...but that's because my mom and sister are having things monogrammed.

    It is your decision, but keep this PP in mind too.

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