Family Memebers That Just Don't Listen....

mitzi goodson · June 2009

Why is it so hard to understand that I don't want anyone in the delivery room except for my mom, MIL & DH?? We have told everyone that there is no need to come to the hospital until after he is born because we don't want anyone to just "pop" in the room to check on us. I love DH's family but why do they have to push the issue??

*blondie* · June 2009

My mil has been like this. Dh and I have repeatedly told her and sil that we would like to have some bonding time with baby. However I just received a text the other day saything that she thinks it would be good if her and sil were there right away. Well that's nice that you think that, but we don't, and we won't let you in. So have fun sitting in the waiting room after your 5hr drive because we aren't allowing visitors.

sweetyface77 · June 2009

Just stick to your guns. I have know idea why family members get crazy when a new baby is born. Like they get a special prize for being at the hospital first or something! GL!

mandolynn81 · June 2009

We have the same issue. We are only going to call mil and mom and dad. If anyone else decides to stop by we have a really strict L&D center.

When you check in they put the hospital bracelets on you and dh, and they give you 5 more different colored ones with your name and guest printed on it. It's your choice weather you want to hand some out, or not. No one is allowed back during labor, delivery, or recovery except these bracelets. And they put them on nice and tight so they can not be swapped.

No one else can come in until normal visiting hours after plenty of time after the baby comes. ?

Mommy2B_Hart · June 2009

Wow! You win the patience award for letting both Mom's be there! I've been begging my DH to not call anyone (especially the Moms) until the baby is about 12 hours old! (He swears we'll be disowned if we try this!)

I'll hope you have a quick and easy labor so no one has time to make it to the hospital!

mitzi goodson · June 2009

I think that I will need both moms in the room with me just in case DH passes out (JK, I think) but we have even told both moms that once DS is born we would like for them to step out of the room & let DH & I enjoy some family time with our LO, get cleaned up & catch my breathe. I know that as grandparents, aunts & uncles that everyone is excited .....BUT this is my 1st child & I AM EXCITED TOO!!

Not to mention that everyone keeps saying make sure you call me when it happens......I think that I am going to be preoccupied with being in labor & I am going to need DH's full attention on me not he's beeping & ringing cell phone!!

GreenBride624 · June 2009

Get YH to talk to them. Also, use the nurses. Tell the nurses that nobody is to be admitted to your room except for DH, Mom, & MIL until you say that you are ready for visitors.

jetgrrrl · June 2009

My hospital allows only two people in the room with you. You can tell them your hospital has a limit too. End of story.

mitzi goodson · June 2009

jetgrrrl:
My hospital allows only two people in the room with you. You can tell them your hospital has a limit too. End of story.

I like it!!

rebus82 · June 2009

And this is why we're not letting anyone know we're even at the hospital until after the baby is born and we're ready for visitors. I'm not the type to mince words, and I was honest from the get-go. I don't want anyone there beforehand or during, and if you don't like it, tough shiit.?

Hotomale · June 2009

DH and I decided that we're not calling my family until after the LO is born.

My dad would definately show up even if I tell him not to, he thinks he's helpful, but it would make me nervous/feel bad to know that they're waiting on me.

CanadianCouple · June 2009

I don't want anyone at the hospital until hours later or the next morning including mom, MIL, etc. We live 2 hrs away, and are planning on calling when she's born..

It's a once in a lifetime occasion (first baby) and we'll be tired, so if someone is mad they didn't get to know earlier, its their problem. I don't care!

mfransdell · June 2009

Mitzi Goodson:
jetgrrrl:
My hospital allows only two people in the room with you. You can tell them your hospital has a limit too. End of story.

I like it!!

Do this. Mine asks that we keep additional people to a minimum to make sure the nurses, doctors and those who NEED to be there have room to do what needs to be done.

Also, if you are having your mom and DH and MIL in the room, who else is there? What other family members want to be in the room? Tell them you are giving birth to your child not hold a VIP BBQ in there!

jmj715 · June 2009

jetgrrrl:
My hospital allows only two people in the room with you. You can tell them your hospital has a limit too. End of story.

I tried this but was unsuccesful because my aunt delivered at the same hospital and she had like 6 people in there with her!

Now I have to think of a new plan. I only want DH and my little sister with me through delivery.

beckys96 · June 2009

Don't call them when you go into labor - just after the baby is born!

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