Just need to vent for a minute or two...

cmyers6278 · June 2009

I never thought that being on bed rest could be so depressing. And, DH just pissed me off. I started crying because he said something dismissive about bringing me lunch. Really no biggie, I'm just moody.

Anyway, I start getting worked up, and he asks why I'm crying, and I start going off about how useless I feel. For those who don't know, I've been on bed rest for about 7 weeks and will continue to be until the baby comes. And my DD's are with their Grandma in Va. so I *can* be on bed rest and since I've been in and out of the hospital, it's what's best for them right now.

So, I told him, I miss my daughters, I'm not allowed to work, I really have no reason to get out of bed in the morning. Not trying to be a drama queen, but I really meant it. No ones life would be affected if I stayed in bed all day. I've been working since I was 15, and without that and my daughters to take care of, I'm losing my mind.

I just needed to vent before I kill someone, or lose my mind. And apparently, I can't talk to DH because I'm being "too dramatic."

Soon2BMrsN · June 2009

I'm sorry. I can't imagine being on bedrest AND not being able to see my children. Your DH needs a reality check.

chiromommyMichelle · June 2009

Sending hugs and good thoughts your way...just remember that there's a definite end to this, and you'll be there soon with all your girls together!

gris~gris · June 2009

I think he needs to walk a mile in your shoes (no pun intended as I'm sure you'd love the opportunity to get out and walk). I'm so sorry that you're feeling so blue, but I know you know what a great thing you're doing for your newest LO. You'll make it!!!

MaineGirl2008 · June 2009

I can't imagine not being with DS, I'm sure being away from your girls is so hard. No need apoligize for the vent!!

Bluemar · June 2009

I'm so sorry! I understand how you are feeling. I was on bed rest for 3 months and it was no fun. It didn't matter if it was day or night because I couldn't do anything at all. I felt so useless.

JstnJL · June 2009

I am so sorry you are having to go through this, esp. not having support from your DH. You can vent to us at anytime sweetie!

mrsblt · June 2009

I can't even imagine how difficult that is for you.

I'm sorry your husband isn't being more understanding.

jesh1111 · June 2009

I think you need to make dh stay in bed for just one day and get a friend to come over and bring both of you food etc. then just maybe he will understand what that times 50 days is like. Dont let him do anything around the house like walk to the fridge, dont let him get up except to pee, man that would be cool!

I have been on bed rest half the time you have and DH has been really supportive. also I cant imagine not having my kids around while on bedrest, but this is my first.

just keep pushing through! remember this is all worth it in the end.

cmyers6278 · June 2009

Thanks ladies! It's nice that there are people who don't think I'm crazy...

And, just to clarify, DH is usually very sweet and supportive. It's just that he seems to think I should be happy about bed rest, that I'm on "vacation."

Apparently, if you complain about your job that means that being on bed rest is a much better alternative.

erino&chrish · June 2009

I can't even imagine how tough this would be. Pregnancy is hard enough to begin with, let alone on bedrest, let alone with 2 other children. I would absolutely feel the same way as you. You're probably jealous in a way that your DH keeps to continue living his life while you are stuck in bed without your children around. I'm sorry you're having to go through this-hang in there, and we'll all be here when you need to vent. ::sending hugs::

mediadiva · June 2009

Have you tried doing smoething in bed? You could learn to knit, and make some clothing for the baby, or even better make blankets or hats for your daughters. Would give you a way to do something for them while stuck in bed.

u24life · June 2009

i think i understand somewhat how you feel. i'm not on bedrest, and i realize i am very fortunate to not have health concerns that require me to be on bedrest, but i've already left work for other reasons, and i've been here for a couple weeks without anything to do but play housewife. the longer this goes on, and the more i clean this freaking place, the more BORED and depressed i feel. dh keeps telling me to relish in it b/c its going to all change so soon, but its just so hard. seriously, i can only vaccuum and dust so many days in a row before i want to throw something out the window. i'm so used to being so active and working and now, i get tired and uncomfortable even when i do get out, i just feel worthless.

BuddhaKitty · June 2009

Vent away sweetie! I'm sorry you are feeling so depressed. I can't imagine how difficult it must be in your shoes, but please always keep telling yourself "This too shall pass..." think of how happy you will be once you and your family are all together again after you deliver.

And us "bumpies" are always here for you, k!! (((hugs)))

cmyers6278 · June 2009

mediadiva:
Have you tried doing smoething in bed? You could learn to knit, and make some clothing for the baby, or even better make blankets or hats for your daughters. Would give you a way to do something for them while stuck in bed.

This is not a bad idea. I was just thinking how badly I need a hobby. Haha... You can only watch so much trash t.v.

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